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“The main reason a man needs to get hard is so he won’t have to worry about getting hard. Having an erection is no guarantee that he’ll enjoy himself. But if he doesn’t have one, there’s not much chance he’ll remember the experience fondly.”
― Stephen Snyder, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

“Most women will tell you that male confidence is a key ingredient for male sexiness. A man losing his confidence is like a woman losing faith in her power to attract. It’s a very bad thing.”
― Stephen Snyder, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

“He’s focused on trying to satisfy her. But all she really wants is to feel his passion, his confidence, his hunger to devour her in an ecstasy of selfish abandon. She wants to feel his healthy narcissism directed at her.”
― Stephen Snyder, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

“But it feels so terrible to lose arousal like that.” No, I think to myself. Loss of arousal doesn’t by itself feel terrible. Frustrating, certainly. Disappointing, without question. But “terrible” is one of those over-the-top words that to a therapist signals we’re dealing with something else.”
― Stephen Snyder, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

“She also needs to know that her body is giving you pleasure.”
― Stephen Snyder, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

“Simmering helps cultivate the right kind of erotic climate in a relationship. Most couples’ erotic climate is sustained more by simmering than by sex.”
― Stephen Snyder, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

“Couples who are overworked and distracted (i.e., most of us) often neglect to get aroused in each other’s company unless they intend to have sex. That’s a mistake.”
― Stephen Snyder, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

“Your sexual self doesn’t just want to be loved. It wants to be loved more than anyone or anything in the world. “Being chosen by the one you chose is one of the glories of falling in love. It generates a feeling of intense personal importance.” —ESTHER PEREL, MATING IN CAPTIVITY”
― Stephen Snyder, Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship