Debra Soh > Quotes

“It isn’t sexist to acknowledge sex differences. What’s sexist is assuming that women must be the same as men in order to be treated as equals.”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“Men’s behavior is, to some extent, the result of female sexual preferences. If women didn’t want to mate with masculine men, these traits would have been removed from the gene pool long ago. “Toxic masculinity” is the result of women’s sexual preferences over thousands of generations. Contemporary feminists are punishing an entire generation of men for the mating preferences of their female ancestors.”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“It’s truly a shame that, as a scientific discipline, evolutionary psychology isn’t mandatory reading as part of university curriculum. It would undoubtedly help men and women navigate not just dating and sex, but understanding their own attitudes and behavior, but understanding their own attitudes and behavior, to have more fulfilling sex, and win the ultimate prize of falling in love.”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“Activist organizations have managed to infect much of the information that is available relating to both gender and biological sex. Any research studies that are not in agreement with this agenda are ignored as though they never existed. Whether it’s health websites, research publications, or media articles, it really is a jungle out there. If what you are looking for is basic, foundational information, anything older than ten years old is probably safe. Anything published in the last few years is questionable.”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“Іноді нам треба перевести подих, заспокоїтісь і спитати себе, чому віримо в те, у що віримо.”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“On the third platform, as I was selecting my AI, I noticed that all the male profiles proudly displayed “he/him” pronouns. I promptly deleted my account, deciding I’d rather be celibate for life.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“It’s hypocritical to value women for their loyalty and sexual chastity if male promiscuity is celebrated and encouraged.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Those of us who do not fit into typical ideas of "female" and "male" do not need to be classified as an entirely different sex or gender simply because we are atypical.”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“Іноді нам треба перевести подих, заспокоїтись і спитати себе, чому ми віримо в те, у що віримо.”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“Therein lies the double standard: If a child is gender-nonconforming, this is interpreted as biological and something that shouldn’t be dissuaded or tampered with. But if a child is gender-conforming, this is seen as the result of social influence and something that parents should actively try to change. I often see boys who are gender-atypical, allowed by their parents to express themselves in a hyperfeminine and in some cases, inappropriately sexualized way, pouting with duck lips in photos and posing seductively. In the case of child drag queens, for example, little boys—some as young as age eight—perfect their makeup and hair and put on skimpy outfits to gyrate to, in many cases, explicitly sexual songs onstage. As someone who spent more nights than I can count in drag clubs with my friends when I was younger, I fully support young kids, especially feminine boys, expressing themselves. But I find the hypocrisy mind-numbing—would the adults cheering on drag kids allow their daughters to pose in the same way?”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“Liberal feminism is full of bizarre contradictions, such as that it is patriarchal for a man to pay for your dinner but not when he pays for your nudes.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Women prefer sexual content in the written form of erotica, whereas men prefer sexual content that is visual.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Divorced men are over eight times more likely than divorced women to die by suicide.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Solo sex, though perhaps more efficient and less time-consuming than partnered sex, is the sexual equivalent of consuming empty calories.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Applied to the realm of AI-driven relationships, I expect women will be more averse to a male partner having an AI girlfriend than a sexbot; conversely, men will take greater issue with a female partner engaging with a male sexbot than having an AI boyfriend.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“As women become more educated”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Nowadays, sexual kinks are considered sacred and beyond reproach. The most unnerving part is that aggravated assault has been disguised as female sexual liberation. Put otherwise, “sexual freedom” now involves eroticizing domestic violence.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“While testing out the AIs I had created, even though I was single and knew the interactions weren’t with real people, it still felt oddly intimate. If I did have a partner, I’m sure it would have felt as though boundaries were being violated.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Being raised without the stability of a two-parent home can be highly detrimental to children, girls in particular, with regard to their future decision-making around sex and relationships.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“we are biologically driven to want to be as physically attractive as possible.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Although both sexes find sexual promiscuity distasteful in their partners, women are more forgiving of this trait.11 If anything, a man with too many partners is generally less off-putting than a man who has too few.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Feminism’s initial desire for gender equality started with the worthwhile goal of obtaining equal educational and occupational opportunities for women. This slowly morphed into exalting women at the expense of men, flattening and dismissing male achievements, and subjugating men.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“A healthy relationship with one’s father prevents earlier initiation of sexual activity,27 sexual promiscuity, risky sexual behavior, and tolerance for abuse or violence.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“In case you were wondering, according to research, the optimal amount of sex is once per week.39 For couples who have more frequent sex, this isn’t associated with an increase in relationship happiness.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Genuine marriages and relationships are built on commitment and love, as opposed to strictly monetary gain and what one person can do for the other.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“Many cultural critics complain that society cares only about women’s aging and not men’s. This isn’t due to sexism but because the things women look for in a man (including his financial resources) tend to increase over time, while the things men look for in a woman (youth and fertility) unfortunately decrease.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“The study found that men experienced more distress when imagining a partner’s sexual infidelity, while women experienced more distress as the result of imagining a partner’s emotional infidelity. These findings make sense evolutionarily because if a man is cuckolded, he will end up investing precious resources into the survival of offspring who belong to a male rival. (Prior to technological advances like DNA testing, women’s internal fertilization made it challenging for a man to ascertain whether a child was his own.) For women, if a partner falls in love with someone else, this signals the loss of her mate’s commitment as well as resources for her and her children.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“It's not unusual for a young woman to feel this way—discomfort at having a female body and feeling as though she is not like other girls. I certainly felt that way growing up. But instead of reassuring young women that this is completely okay and there is is no "correct" way to be a woman, society is now convincing girls who are different that they are really men or another gender.”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society

“When beautification filters arrived on the scene in 2015, they were one of the earliest and easiest adoptions of artificial intelligence. They proved a magic bullet. Anyone could radically reinvent the way they looked without previous knowledge of photo-editing software. All it took was a few quick taps on a screen.”
― Debra Soh, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy

“The word “transgender” encompasses the Latin prefix trans-, which means “on the other side of.” (The word “cisgender” is sometimes used to refer to people who are not transgender and who identify as their birth sex. It similarly uses a Latin prefix, cis-, which translates to “on this side of,” or roughly, one’s gender identity and birth sex are on the same side.)”
― Debra Soh, The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society