Toxic Masculinity Quotes

“There were men who cracked their knuckles while divulging to me what they would do to the defendant if they got the chance, thinking this was somehow reassuring for me to hear. But all it did was make me realize that there wasn't so big a difference between the man who brutalized Denise and half the men I passed every day on the street.”
― Jessica Knoll, Bright Young Women

“Boys with their first beards can be a thorough pain in the neck.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Penelopiad

“If all pleasure has, preserved within it, earlier pain, then here pain, as pride in bearing it, is raised directly, untransformed, as a stereotype, to pleasure: unlike wine, each glass of whisky, each inhalation of cigar smoke, still recalls the repugnance that it cost the organism to become attuned to such strong stimuli, and this alone is registered as pleasure.”
― Theodor W. Adorno, Minima Moralia: Reflections on a Damaged Life

“Manhood Diaries (The Sonnet)

Onun için cennet ol, cehennem değil.
Vicdanlı bir adam ol, hayvan değil.
Sé una bendición para ella, no una maldición.
Onun yaralarına ilacı ol, tuz değil.

Be her paradise, not prison.
Be her man, not master.
Be a miracle to her maladies.
Be her crown, not custard.

There is no alpha male and beta male,
There is only man and baboon.
Decency defines a man's character,
Not the virility of his heirloom.

Partner on the streets,
Slave between the sheets,
That's what a real man is.
Undaunted in danger,
Uncompromising in calamity,
That's what a real human is.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Visvavictor: Kanima Akiyor Kainat

“Our society doesn't allow any foreign objects. I've always suffered because of that," Shiraha said, drinking jasmine tea made with a teabag from the drink bar. I was the one who had gotten the jasmine tea for him since he didn't make any move to get anything for himself. He just sat in silence, and when I placed it in front of him he started drinking it without even saying thank you.

"Everyone has to toe the line. Why am I still doing casual work even though I'm in my mid-thirties? Why haven't I ever had a girlfriend? The assholes don't even bat an eyelid when they ask whether I've ever had sex or not. And then they laugh and tell me not to include prostitutes in the count. I don't make trouble for anyone. But they all seem to think nothing of raping me, just because I'm in the minority."

I considered him one step short of being a sex offender. But here he was casually likening his own suffering to sexual assault, without sparing a thought for all the trouble he'd caused for women store workers and customers.

He seemed to have this odd circuitry in his mind that allowed him to see himself only as the victim, and never the perpetrator, I thought was I watched him.

"Really," I said, even wondering whether he made a habit of being self-pitying. "That must be hard.”
― Sayaka Murata, コンビニ人間 [Konbini ningen]

“She is not territory, she is temple (Sonnet)

She is not a territory to conquer,
she is a temple that grants
entry only through trust,
even the gaze must be earned.

I'll never get down on one knee,
if I do, I'll get down on both knees -
absolute surrender, nothing left out.

I don't wanna be a tourist, a passing fling,
I am a pilgrim to your love, to your life,
and at times when you permit, to your body.

By default all women are my sisters,
I may make an exception if I lose my heart,
even then my conscience wouldn't allow filth,
till I've earned her unwavering trust.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Kral Fakir: When Calls The Kainat

“What are you on?' said AJ. 'Leon's mum has died and you are determined to add to the total sum of misery by going out with the girlfriend of the nastiest piece of manhood that was ever assembled in the factory of life...”
― Sally Gardner, The Door that Led to Where

“The real fight is never about gender or clothes, it's about laying the foundation for a society where we value each other, rather than fixate on narcissistic isolation as marker of civilization.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Sonnets From The Mountaintop

“For the masculine man, it is sometimes hard not to be angry at weakness and emotional immaturity in others, but to activate this lack of patience is what would make him the same as the very thing he's angry about.”
― Criss Jami

“Every monkey thinks toxic masculinity is nobility, every monkey thinks blind faith is divinity, every ape thinks tribalism is divine fury, and brainless loyalty is patriotic duty.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Nazmahal: Palace of Grace

“All of Life Her Grand Design
(Sonnet 2840-2841)

Silence sold as golden virtue,
names erased in toxic ink -
told to walk behind the man,
never question, never think.

We're more than borrowed titles,
more than shadows wearing rings -
we are roots of all survival,
we are breath in everything.

They built a world on domination,
called tradition, called it fate,
but every empire of oppression
meets its end at woman's wake.

Why must love erase her surname,
why must birth deny her throne -
she is the one who forms existence,
yet there's nothing she can call her own!

Every child that walks this planet,
carries more than just one name -
every mother is a cosmos,
creation brews in her sacred flame.

They said she came from a man's rib,
but truth runs deeper than toxic lies,
the world itself is carved from woman,
all of life is her grand design.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Tierra Carta: Naskar Charter of Earth

“He'd always been able to make he doubt what she knew to be true. Bullying and control and egotism all mixed up with incredible love.”
― Adrienne Brodeur, Little Monsters

“She is not a territory to conquer, she is a temple that grants entry only through trust, even the gaze must be earned.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Kral Fakir: When Calls The Kainat

“She is not a territory to conquer,
she is a temple that grants
entry only through trust,
even the gaze must be earned.

I'll never get down on one knee,
if I do, I'll get down on both knees -
absolute surrender, nothing left out.

I don't wanna be a tourist, a passing fling,
I am a pilgrim to your love, to your life,
and at times when you permit, to your body.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Kral Fakir: When Calls The Kainat

“When The Woman Roars (Sonnet)

Just in case it isn't obvious
to the vacant lot you call a brain
fumigated by testosterone,

women age just like human,
women get wrinkles just like a human,
we aren't born with glitters on our skin,
women have body hair just like a human -

women fall, women fly, just like a human,
our taste changes over time just like human,
our figure changes like any living organism,

it's called being alive, being content,
you overinflated pheromone merchant!”
― Abhijit Naskar, Nazmahal: Palace of Grace

“When The Woman Roars (Sonnet)

Just in case it isn't obvious to
the vacant lot you call a brain
fumigated by testosterone,

women age just like human,
women get wrinkles just like a human,
we aren't born with glitters on our skin,
women have body hair just like a human -

women fall, women fly, just like a human,
our taste changes over time just like human,
our figure changes like any living organism,

it's called being alive, being content,
you overinflated pheromone merchant!”
― Abhijit Naskar, Nazmahal: Palace of Grace

“When the woman is king, not queen, not princess, but the absolute monarch of the kingdom of apes, that’s the beginning of actual human evolution.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Nazmahal: Palace of Grace

“Females are such an ethereal creation of God. Just look at my mother.”
― Syed Moiz

“Not All, But (Naskaristana 2785)

Not all doctors are butchers,
but butcher doctors are status quo.
Not all coppers are corrupt,
but corrupt coppers are status quo.

Not all politicians are warmongers,
but warmonger politicians are status quo.
Not all preachers are mindless fanatics,
but fanatic preachers are status quo.

Not all men are abusive perverts,
but toxic masculinity is tradition.
Not all white people are bigots,
but bigoted white beasts are
the planet's heaviest historic burden.

Not all stereotypes come from fear and
ignorance, some have basis in historic facts.
Question is not, why you face such stereotypes,
the real question is, are you living as the
new standard against prehistoric conventions!

I burnt my reputation to the ground,
so I could stand as an undomesticated beacon,
doesn't matter if no one comes to my aid,
I have no desire to be worshipped by gibbons.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Nazmahal: Palace of Grace

“Not all men are abusive perverts, but toxic masculinity is tradition.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Nazmahal: Palace of Grace

“Don’t take feminism lessons from rich white women. Don’t take masculinity lessons from chauvinist pigs.”
― Abhijit Naskar, With Love From A Blue Rock

“They said she came from a man’s rib,
but truth runs deeper than toxic lies,
the world itself is carved from woman,
all of life is her grand design.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Tierra Carta: Naskar Charter of Earth

“We’re more than borrowed titles,
more than shadows wearing rings –
we are roots of all survival,
we are breath in everything.

Why must love erase her surname,
why must birth deny her throne –
she is the one who forms existence,
yet there’s nothing she can call her own!

They said she came from a man’s rib,
but truth runs deeper than toxic lies,
the world itself is carved from woman,
all of life is her grand design.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Tierra Carta: Naskar Charter of Earth

“We’re more than borrowed titles,
more than shadows wearing rings –
we are roots of all survival,
we are breath in everything.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Tierra Carta: Naskar Charter of Earth

“You don’t learn gender equality, you unlearn toxic masculinity.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Tierra Carta: Naskar Charter of Earth

“N for No,
and No means No -
Ovaries are law,
Patriarchy must go.

(from Adult ABC Song)”
― Abhijit Naskar, Jashn-e Insan: Stranger is God, Helping is the Prayer

“The contrast between how Cornell dealt with the pro-Palestinian student protesters and how they "handled" the male students guilty of rape tells us everything we need to know about, not only the university, but the country that produced it.”
― Jamie Arpin-Ricci

“When a man has not integrated his sexuality, he unconsciously assigns responsibility for it to women. He blames her for “tempting” him.
He feels threatened by her beauty.
He distrusts his attraction to her, then distrusts her for evoking it.
He sees her body as the cause of his impulses.
He resents her for awakening the very life-force he fears within himself.
He splits himself in two — the man who craves, and the man who condemns.

This is not healthy conscious masculinity.
This is fear wearing the mask of control.

Unclaimed desire doesn’t disappear.
It leaks.
It projects.
It becomes judgement, fixation, entitlement, obsession, shame, and/or avoidance.”
― Ava Sol, The Sovereign Man: Integrating the Inner Feminine and Returning to Wholeness

“If I as a man can be uncompromisingly outspoken against toxic masculinity, you as a white person can take a stand against white supremacy.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Jashn-e Insan: Stranger is God, Helping is the Prayer

“Boys, I ask you of one thing, build yourselves into such men that the whole world feels safe around you, children, women, elderly, everybody.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Jashn-e Insan: Stranger is God, Helping is the Prayer