Richard Bromfield > Quotes

“Not one of us gets all of the understanding we want, and few get as much as we need.”
― Richard Bromfield, Playing for Real: Exploring the World of Child Therapy and the Inner Worlds of Children

“Attachment begins early but grows slowly. There are no shortcuts. Verbal guarantees of safety or nurturance carry no more weight than those for hair-replacement systems and miracle slicers. A therapist must prove trustworthy over time. Only consistent experiential demonstrations, in times of both quietude and turbulence, convince the child. Though all children love to be wined and dined, the safety, understanding, warmth, and containment of therapy are what foster trust and ultimately seduce the child patient.”
― Richard Bromfield, Playing for Real: Exploring the World of Child Therapy and the Inner Worlds of Children

“Be good to the child and he will come to you tomorrow. - Unknown”
― Richard Bromfield, Playing for Real: Exploring the World of Child Therapy and the Inner Worlds of Children

“Like a good harbor, the child therapist offers the besiegedc child physical shelter, tolerance of her defensive preoccupation, and a rare opportunity to let down her guard and rest. Just as a sinking hull must be righted and secured before more lasting repairs can be made, therapy can help a child enduringly heal only after she has been spared further abuse and neglect.”
― Richard Bromfield, Playing for Real: Exploring the World of Child Therapy and the Inner Worlds of Children

“Given the considerable number of children who come to therapy begrudgingly, you might expect me to rejoice for those who come with bells on their toes. And sometimes I do. Experience has tempered my exuberance, however, since the speediest in are often also the speediest out. James, who had spent his second hour raving about his first, never came to the third or fourth. When a child too readily pleads for treatment every day or “forever,” I watch for signs of a premature desertion. The precipitant for quitting may be, not an underlying dislike of therapy, but the intolerable frustration over having so little of it.”
― Richard Bromfield, Playing for Real: Exploring the World of Child Therapy and the Inner Worlds of Children

“Today’s parents tend to be uncomfortable with their authority.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“had failed to learn the value of money and how to work for it. And in a Center for a New American Dream survey, a vast majority of parents (87 percent) reported that the consumerism of modern society makes instilling good values in their children a much harder job. That the amount of”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Following through and establishing a baseline of unspoiling takes more work than does maintaining it.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Hardly last and supremely paramount, you deserve forgiveness, your own and the children’s, for your inevitable moments of moodiness and impatience, for your mistakes and missteps, and for all that is part of the human condition that makes children and their behaviors forgivable.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Being an unspoiling parent is a lot of work. But it is a small price to pay for an unspoiled child.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Imagine yourself a teacher with your child in your classroom. Try emulating a teacher’s clarity, directness, and expectations for an hour or so, and see what happens.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“A child who perpetually pesters her parents is still searching for the limits she needs to grow straight. Her demanding and disruptive behavior is, to a great degree, meant to test you, to find out what outrageous action will finally get you to react—constructively.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Children who get and get no matter what tend to appreciate less.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“It is never too late to start watching the examples that we set and change them when warranted.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“You deserve to have interests beyond your child.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Unspoiling is nothing more than the absence of spoiling.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“numbers. According to a 2007 survey conducted by AOL and the family magazine Cookie, 94 percent of parents say their children are spoiled, up from the 80 percent measured by a 1991 Time and CNN poll. This percentage may sound high, but to me the question is, Who are these other”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“For most parents, the true thank-yous come much later.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Practice telling your child your expectations and wishes in statements that declare rather than ask.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“The child who knows his parents have sturdy end stops will not have to push and test to find the limits and boundaries.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“A child learns gratitude by not getting everything she wants. A child learns patience by waiting. A child learns generosity by sharing and giving. A child learns self-control by having to control herself. And above all, she learns contentment by not being trained to always need more and faster.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Give your child a consequence that is meaningful to him or her.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Indulgence is a long-term process full of thousands of moments.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Commit to unspoiling your child, and your child will follow.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“It doesn’t matter what kinds of limits or consequences parents establish. All that matters is that parents back their words up with action and hold fast.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“If you have no control over your child at home, and yet she behaves very well at school and in other people’s homes, take heart. This is a common situation, and one that is better than many other possibilities.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“The more stuff a child gets in December, the less stuff the child will remember having gotten by January.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Taking care of your marriage and your partner is an act of love for your children.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Model the gratitude you want your children to show.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents

“Whatever you do, do not back down.”
― Richard Bromfield, How to Unspoil Your Child Fast: A Speedy, Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents