Zoe Crook > Quotes

“Without self-awareness, we miss the obvious. We spend lots of energy trying to fix the sink without checking if we paid the water bill. Being self-aware is the only way to navigate out of painful and confusing situations.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“We are attracted to what is familiar, even when familiar isn’t healthy or safe.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Self-love is an umbrella term. It’s about doing things every day that make life more manageable and less of a drag. Self-love is more than writing positive affirmations on sticky notes or taking Epsom salt baths.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“When you prioritize your well-being, even if that means temporarily inconveniencing others or having hard conversations, you are practicing self-love. When you love who you are, you are more honest, compassionate, and resilient.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“I will not be silent so that others can be comfortable. Repeat: I will not be silent so that others can be comfortable.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Mariah knew she would always have a scar, but her newfound purpose gave her pain meaning. As Viktor Frankl said, “Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“The health of a family is incredibly nuanced. Not all families look like Norman Rockwell paintings. Some look more like a Jackson Pollock: complex, multilayered, and messy.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Sometimes, to accept one’s self, one must reject the opinions of those who matter most.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Negative self-talk is like having the world’s worst roommate.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“In the words of Anne Lamott, “Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes—including you.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Self-acceptance requires an unwavering faith in yourself, your beliefs, and your needs—even, and especially, as those factors change over time. Self-acceptance is not contingent on how many mistakes you make or regrets you have. It’s unconditional.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“A greater sense of self-love emerges when you prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical health and set boundaries between homelife and work life.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Start to cultivate self-discipline by thinking about where you want to be on this exact day five years from now. What is your career? Are you pursuing your passions? Are you in a relationship? Do you engage in rewarding activities? Where do you live? What does your lifestyle look like? How do you feel in your body? Don’t hold back. Once you see where you want to be, you can begin to map out the road that will lead you there.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“If you feel like everyone is in a happy relationship except you, you might catch yourself shooting lasers from your eyeballs at the adoring couple crossing the street, thinking, Look how lucky those people are. Why aren’t I that lucky? But people who are still in love years later are not lucky; they’re committed.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“If we all realized how much education and effort is required to be in a healthy relationship, we’d stop deifying celebrity couples or the fictional characters in our books or on our screens. We’d take one look at the perfect pair and remember they are two people with competing wants, desires, and triggers.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“We all have an inner voice. On good days, it may sound like a spiritual advisor. On bad days, the voice can sound like Nurse Ratched.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Body image has a lot to do with how our bodies are perceived by existing power structures. Racism, ableism, transphobia, fatphobia, and ageism are examples of systemic structures that send us specific messages about what qualities are desirable.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“When we put our needs first, we are not abandoning our community; rather, we are preparing ourselves to be more active members of society. There is nothing selfish about self-love. Carving out time for rest creates internal balance. It allows us to realign with our beliefs and come back to our purpose. Only from this place of empowerment and clarity are we able to give to those around us.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“We are imperfect creatures who don’t fare well in a society that shuns rest. Self-compassion is the act of showing mercy toward ourselves.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“What constitutes family is more than blood, marriage, adoption, or what exists within the walls of a family home. Family is often an earned term, defined over time.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Healing doesn’t mean the damage will disappear. You will always have a scar, but scars are nothing to be ashamed of. A scar means you survived; you came out of the other side stronger and wiser than you were before.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Self-love can serve as a protective layer against external circumstances, but it is not a cure for misfortune, mistreatment, structural inequality, and so on.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“The good news is, if you learned how to be self-critical, you can learn how to be self-accepting.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“But self-love isn’t about vanity, indulgence, or an allegiance to counterculture. At its core, self-love is a commitment to one’s own needs and well-being.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“While self-love centers around thoughts and feelings we have about ourselves, self-care focuses on our actions. If self-love says, I love myself, self-care says, Prove it. In short, self-care is self-love in practice—the two are inextricable.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Some people don’t think they have to communicate their needs because a real soul mate should already know. After all, their fate is written in the stars. The reality is that people cannot know our needs unless we communicate them in a straightforward way.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“The term family means something different to everyone. Broadly speaking, family is built under the premise of love, commitment, and loyalty. For some, pets are the defining members of their family unit. Whether you consider family to consist of those bound to you by blood or adhere to a broader definition of the term, family should be, above all else, about love and respect.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Maybe you overextend yourself to help your children, parents, clients, neighbors, or coworkers. But when you over-give to those in need without checking your energy supply, you become someone in need. Sometimes, you can achieve more by doing less. Find the balance, and make sure your mental and physical health is part of the equation.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Self-talk is a mix of conscious and unconscious biases that can either be positive or negative. This internal dialogue reflects how you see yourself in relation to the world around you. But self-talk isn’t always a reliable source of information.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Body image has a lot to do with how our bodies are perceived by existing power structures. Racism, ableism, transphobia, fatphobia, and ageism are examples of systemic structures that send us specific messages about what qualities are desirable. While these structures have a tremendous impact on our perception of self, we are not powerless in how we respond to them.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life