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“When a person reflects and looks within his/herself, they can either learn who they are or criticize their past faults or mistakes.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“You feel anxious or stressed whenever you cannot find your phone. Even when you are not bored, you check your phone every few minutes because you do not want to miss anything. After scrolling through your social media, you find yourself feeling depressed, angry, and anxious. When uploading a status or post, your focus is on the number of likes and comments you will get, and become upset if the count is lower than you expected.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Put a Limit On Your Decision-Making Timeline: As previously discussed, there may be situations that will require extensive research before making a decision. This means your decision-making may take longer than usual. However, prolonged decision-making can be problematic. When you practice putting a timeline on your decision-making you can start to make decisions without having to overthink them.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“overthinking can distance us from fully embracing ourselves, who we are, and all things we like that make us who we are. Such overthinking can lead you to change your behavioral patterns to fit in and be like everyone else. However, when a person is self-aware, they understand that they are a unique individual, and people will retain different opinions and views on who they are. This affords them the power to refrain from placing any interaction they may have with someone under a microscope in an attempt to find out what they think.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“What you feed your mind, will lead your life.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Lack of confidence and avoidance in decision-making can spell disaster for your chances of becoming a successful leader.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Overthinking is often linked to perfectionism, while obsessive thinking is associated more directly with a condition known as obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) (Krstic, 2021).”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Self-awareness is the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions, thoughts, or emotions do or don't align with your internal standards. If you're highly self-aware, you can objectively evaluate yourself, manage your emotions, align your behavior with your values, and understand correctly how others perceive you.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“As humans, we do not have access to our unconscious mind—and because of this, we end up coming up with inaccurate answers to such conflicts. The recommendation then is to begin practicing asking “what” instead of “why”. For example: “What can I do to stop feeling unhappy at my job?” or “What can I do to avoid losing out on another business offer next time?” This kind of introspection will help you make better decisions in the future and avoid similar situations, signaling growth.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Keep in mind the phrase “how little is enough”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Ruminating on the worst possible scenarios and outcomes can be a misguided form of self-protection.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“This circles back to the previous chapter about learning to be grateful. You end up thinking about what you could have had instead of focusing on what you do have—which is not very ideal when you think about life-changing decisions, like which major to study in college, or what job to take. You can imagine how unhappy and even depressed you could become if you chose the wrong career path. You would be miserable!”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“when you second-guess your decision-making, you tend to become scared and anxious when faced with it. For”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“The first thing to realize when identifying overthinking is that it can often feel like problem-solving.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Self-awareness is the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions, thoughts, or emotions do or don't align with your internal standards. If you're highly self-aware, you can objectively evaluate yourself, manage your emotions, align your behavior with your values, and understand correctly how others perceive you. (Duval & Wicklund, 1972) A profile of characteristics that describe a self-aware person as a person who: understands their strengths and weaknesses. can understand and talk about their feelings. can acknowledge and understand other people’s feelings. understands how their actions affect other people.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“by no means is this exercise meant to sideline your emotions, thoughts and feelings. Instead, this exercise is designed to help you challenge your negative thoughts and emotions (such as feelings of worry), and make you realize that you are a small but significant piece in a much bigger puzzle.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“when you focus on your blessings, it allows you to celebrate the present moment and focus your attention on the good instead of the bad. Our nature as humans is to want what we do not have; focusing on the negatives instead of celebrating the things we do have and all the positives.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Trust Your Gut: Instincts usually relate less to logic and more to lived experience and emotions. If you normally rely on research and logical reasoning when making decisions, then you may feel a little uneasy about letting your feelings guide important decisions. Start with small decisions and build that trust.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“how you talk to yourself. Take a step back, reflect, and criticize yourself, but use positive reframing and acknowledge the mistake. This will allow for growth and keep you motivated and focused on your goals. When you look back at your past or worry about the things yet to come, try not to be so hard on yourself.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“confidence is another common characteristic of overthinkers. Because of past mistakes and future worries, people who struggle with anxiety and overthinking also often lack confidence—not just in their decision-making but also in their abilities. When you cultivate self-awareness, you become more confident and proactive in aspects of your life. You begin to understand your weaknesses and strengths and make sound decisions accordingly.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“The habit of being thankful can (and should) start with appreciating every good thing in your life and recognizing that there is nothing that is too small to be grateful for.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“1. Minimize Your Options: When faced with the decision of choosing a spice or drink, for example, insist on keeping your options to a minimum. We like having a variety of choices because it feels luxurious and it gives the feeling that we can change our minds later, in case we make the wrong decision. But most times, changing your decision will only leave you feeling negative (self-blame) and knock your confidence. When you limit your options to things you are comfortable or confident with, then your decisions will lead to less regret.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“the process is more about setting boundaries, limiting screen time and making sure you use your devices in a beneficial way—rather than a harmful one that will drain you mentally and emotionally.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“After all, it is a thought. Now, when you are done, add the words “I notice that I am thinking…” Adding this phrase to your repetitive negative thoughts will allow you to notice how you have been seeing the world through your thoughts. It will also show you the kind of relationship you have with these thoughts.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Ask yourself: “What do I get from doing this?” This is not a philosophical or rhetorical question, and you are encouraged to actually answer yourself! Think about what brief relief feels like. Or how long does it last? Ask yourself if there are other behaviors that have boomerang consequences, such as getting more anxious because you have not completed a project that is due soon.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“overthinking can distance us from fully embracing ourselves, who we are, and all things we like that make us who we are. Such overthinking can lead you to change your behavioral patterns to fit in and be like everyone else.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“Practice Acceptance:”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“KNOW YOUR TRIGGERS You cannot always control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“The key to overcoming this, however, is by learning to look at your thoughts instead of through your thoughts.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity

“When a person reflects and looks within his/herself, they can either learn who they are or criticize their past faults or mistakes. These two processes are essential for character growth or development. When you look back on your past experiences where you have made regrettable choices, you typically learn from them and will act accordingly should a similar situation arise. However, most overthinkers ruminate–rehashing these regrettable situations without learning from them.”
― Harley Hunter, Stop Overthinking!: 9 Steps to Eliminate Stress, Anxiety, Negativity and Focus on Your Productivity