Sam Jolman > Quotes

“God clearly wired our bodies for orgasm to give us comfort. That’s a good thing, and masturbation can be a healthy form of sexual exploration (even into adulthood) as a way to sensually connect with your own body, as we also talked about before.”
― Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

“And as mentioned above, we don’t need just one conversation. We need hundreds. We need an ongoing dialogue about sex throughout our life. We need discussions about the goodness of our bodies, arousal cycles, consent, and mutual pleasure, but also about sexual abuse, broken hearts, shame, pornography, and masturbation. We need romance talks,”
― Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

“Johan Huizinga put beautiful words to the bonding nature of all play. A play community generally tends to become permanent even after the game is over. . . . The feeling of being “apart together” in an exceptional situation, of sharing something important, of mutually withdrawing from the rest of the world and rejecting the usual norms, retains its magic beyond the duration of the individual game.”
― Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality