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Sam Jolman (MA LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. He seeks to help men and women know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Together they enjoy exploring the best camping spots in a pop-up camper. Sam goes to therapy, loves fly fishing, and can often be found trying to catch his breath on the floor of his local CrossFit gym.

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Conversation: Captain M and the Art of Self Soothing

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If you were with us last fall, you probably recognized some of this article. We talked a lot about self soothing in our last conversation on masturbation (about this article). That discussion captured something that just seemed too important not to share with the larger community. That’s why I wrote it.

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Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir
Project Hail Mary
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I read this with my sons and we loved it! It's such a sweet story of friendship, resilience, sacrifice, true courage. The science at times gets super technical and I had to do a lot explaining to my elementary and junior high age sons. But secretly I ...more
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The Agony of Eros by Byung-Chul Han
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The core message of this book is absolutely amazing! I reveled in the idea that the experience of "otherness" is at the heart of erotic love. In a world drowning in "sameness" and narcissistic love, this is a profound and revolutionary idea. SO so so ...more
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“God clearly wired our bodies for orgasm to give us comfort. That’s a good thing, and masturbation can be a healthy form of sexual exploration (even into adulthood) as a way to sensually connect with your own body, as we also talked about before.”
― Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

“And as mentioned above, we don’t need just one conversation. We need hundreds. We need an ongoing dialogue about sex throughout our life. We need discussions about the goodness of our bodies, arousal cycles, consent, and mutual pleasure, but also about sexual abuse, broken hearts, shame, pornography, and masturbation. We need romance talks,”
― Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

“Johan Huizinga put beautiful words to the bonding nature of all play. A play community generally tends to become permanent even after the game is over. . . . The feeling of being “apart together” in an exceptional situation, of sharing something important, of mutually withdrawing from the rest of the world and rejecting the usual norms, retains its magic beyond the duration of the individual game.”
― Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

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