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Sam Jolman

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Sam Jolman (MA LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. He seeks to help men and women know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Together they enjoy exploring the best camping spots in a pop-up camper. Sam goes to therapy, loves fly fishing, and can often be found trying to catch his breath on the floor of his local CrossFit gym.

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Let’s be clear: sexual abuse takes immense courage to talk about. That may sound like a counselor one liner. Cute language but over baked. But I would say you misunderstand the cost of vulnerability. In the words of Brene Brown, “Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.” She’s describing the risk of the unknown. When we get vu…

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I live in a suburb called Rockrimmon, which sounds so innocent. That name—sorta rocky mountain vibes meets Lord of the Rings—always left me proud and Read more of this blog post »
The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman
"The best book on understanding the masculine sexual journey I have ever read."
The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman
"Loved Sam’s heart to Bless masculinity and all that it is. To bless the lover within that culture suppresses and giving permission to live with the same radical love as Jesus "
The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman
"I read this book for my kids. I never had the proper up bringing in this area and I want to do better as a father for my children. This book is what every man needs to hear and for that matter every woman as well. The author tackles the heart of the " Read more of this review »
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Rethinking Sex by Christine Emba
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Chapter one and chapter seven were worth the price of this book. I reveled in the fact she invited readers to reflect on the storied nature of desire and to discern the heart behind the desire.
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Recitatif by Toni Morrison
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Morrison packed so much into this story--so much life, so much change, so much heart. She made a short story span a whole life. Masterful! It's such a powerful and at times agonizing immersion in the tug and pull of mother hunger and race and class a ...more
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“God clearly wired our bodies for orgasm to give us comfort. That’s a good thing, and masturbation can be a healthy form of sexual exploration (even into adulthood) as a way to sensually connect with your own body, as we also talked about before.”
Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

“And as mentioned above, we don’t need just one conversation. We need hundreds. We need an ongoing dialogue about sex throughout our life. We need discussions about the goodness of our bodies, arousal cycles, consent, and mutual pleasure, but also about sexual abuse, broken hearts, shame, pornography, and masturbation. We need romance talks,”
Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

“Johan Huizinga put beautiful words to the bonding nature of all play. A play community generally tends to become permanent even after the game is over. . . . The feeling of being “apart together” in an exceptional situation, of sharing something important, of mutually withdrawing from the rest of the world and rejecting the usual norms, retains its magic beyond the duration of the individual game.”
Sam Jolman, The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

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