Stu Weber > Quotes

“The Warrior function is…unmistakable in Scripture…Within the epistles, the mature believing man is often described in militant terms–a warrior equipped to battle mighty enemies and shatter satanic strongholds.

The heart of the Warrior is a protective heart. The Warrior shields, defends, stands between, and guards…He invests himself in “the energy of self-disciplined, aggressive action.” By Warrior I do not mean one who loves war or draws sadistic pleasure from fighting or bloodshed. There is a difference between a warrior and a brute. A warrior is a protector…Men stand tallest when they are protecting and defending.”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: God's Intention for a Man

“Dad, seeing me start to drop back, reached out his hand to me. His eyes said, Grab hold. Let's run together. Still running, my little hand slipped inside his larger one. It was like magic! His power lifted me right off the ground. I took off in his strength. My speed doubled because my dad had hold of me.”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: God's Intention for a Man

“Staying power. The bottom line? Stay with it, man. Stick by your commitments. Stand by your promises. Never, never let go, no matter what. When marriage isn’t fun … stay in it. When parenting is over your head … stay at it. When work is crushing your spirit … don’t let it beat you. When the local church is overwhelmed with pettiness … stay by it. When your children let you down … pick them up. When your wife goes through a six-month mood swing … live with it. When it’s fourth and fourteen with no time on the clock … throw another pass.”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“People, events, evil schemes, disasters, catastrophes can take things away from you. Things on the outside. But no one can ever take away what’s on the inside—heart, soul, character. A man can throw it away; but no one can ever take it away.”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“The measure of a man is the spiritual and emotional health of his family. A real provider has a vision for a marriage that bonds deeply, for sons with character as strong as trees, and for daughters with confidence and deep inner beauty. Without that vision and leadership, a family struggles, gropes, and may lose its way. In”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“If our marriage were to go on just the way it’s been going, what will it be like for us in five, ten, twenty years? How can I build the self-esteem of my wife, who spends enormous amounts of time cleaning house and changing diapers? How can I help my eight-year-old girl learn to understand and control her emotions before the hormones start pumping through her body? When will my little boy and I need to have our first talk about sex? What kinds of things might my kids encounter in middle school—and how can I prepare them? How can I manage my career goals so that I’m available to my high school children? What will my children need in a dad when they’re in college? What kind of a husband will my wife need when she hits menopause? How can I help her through that passage? What kind of traits will my kids and grandkids cherish in a grandfather?”
― Stuart K. Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“The measure of a man is the spiritual and emotional health of his family. A real provider has a vision for a marriage that bonds deeply, for sons with character as strong as trees, and for daughters with confidence and deep inner beauty. Without that vision and leadership, a family struggles, gropes, and may lose its way.”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“In God’s economy, a man will never get any higher, never have any greater influence, never wield any greater power than he does as the head of his own home. To fail at home is to have failed everywhere. And that’s where men are made.”
― Stu Weber, Four Pillars of a Man's Heart: Bringing Strength into Balance

“Pilgrims with no vision of the promised land become proprietors of their own land … Instead of looking upward at [the Lord] they look inward at themselves and outward at each other. The result? Cabin fever. Quarreling families. Restless leaders. Fence building. Staked-off territory. No trespassing! signs are hung on hearts and homes. Spats turn into fights as myopic groups turn to glare at each other’s weaknesses instead of turning to worship their common Strength.2”
― Stuart K. Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. (James 1:5)”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“By Warrior I do not mean one who loves war or draws sadistic pleasure from fighting or bloodshed. There is a difference between a warrior and a brute. A warrior is a protector... Men stand tallest when they are protecting and defending.”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior

“Initiation is the bottom line of masculinity. It means taking the lead. The lead in providing, protecting, mentoring, and befriending. It means caring for and developing our mates, our children, and ourselves. It means taking the lead in apologizing. The lead in seeking forgiveness. The lead in vulnerability. Masculinity means initiation. C. S. Lewis, as you might expect, said it brilliantly: “God is so masculine, that all of creation is feminine by comparison.”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“Masculinity means initiation. To be masculine is to take initiative. To provide direction, security, stability, and order. To lead. To head. To husband. Masculinity means initiation. (Nowhere does it mean “bossy,” but more on that later.)”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope

“Is there anything worse than blindness? Oh, Yes! A person with sight and no vision. HELEN KELLER”
― Stu Weber, Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope