Freya North > Quotes

“how can he love me then not? He went,he ran. And I cannot bring him back. Yet I left the door metaphorically wide open, hoping he'd come back and bang on it proclaiming, "I want to be here with you. Always." Soon I'm going to have to shutit. For my safety and my sanity. Let go. I don't want to. Won't letting go be just that - letting go? Giving up? Admitting failure? Admitting that it is really, truly over?”
― Freya North, Cat

“She liked him. She liked the feeling of liking him. She felt light and smiley and too full of excitement to think of anything else. ”
― Freya North, Chances

“Tell me that you refuse to allow me to be so stupid. Tell me that you will not tolerate this relationship being over just when it was on the verge of really taking off.”
― Freya North, Fen

“It's not a persons mistakes which define them - it's the way they make amends.”
― Freya North, Chances

“She didn't want to be reminded of her past or how different her present was from the future she'd taken for granted.”
― Freya North, Chances

“I was clinging to all that had been and, in an ideal world, all that we had hoped for. He, he wanted out.”
― Freya North, Cat

“Am I falling in love? She thought, is it safe to do so with this man? She thought, I don't need to answer.”
― Freya North, Chances

“She's finding it hard to cope - her hopes have been dashed, the future she dreamed about has gone and she's scared about that. There's nothing in its place. She wants you back. She doesn't want to let go of everything it meant to her. 
Because the world seems horribly big and empty. Because the future is a very frightening concept when you'd previously planned on sharing it with someone. Because she's a girl, she's a romantic and she fears if she lets  go of her dream, she'll live a nightmare. Because she has a hope and she fears if she lets her hope go, who will she be?
The effort, the pain of clinging on is preferable to the wide-open fear of letting go.”
― Freya North, Chances

“In life we have to size up the chances and calculate the possible risks and our ability to deal with them and then make our plans accordingly.”
― Freya North, Chances

“It's just the world seems a very spacious place without him.”
― Freya North, Cat

“His version of 'real' love isn't sufficient for me, I don't think anyone should settle for so little. It wasn't love - not in the true sense. On my part, it was neediness, insecurity, dependence, habit - desperate to feel loved by a man who was often ambivalent towards me. ”
― Freya North, Chances

“You do NOT fear your OWN ability to COMMIT. Just think about your unwavering dedication to your career, your notion of sisterhood and friendship. You are tireless. That is why we all lean on you. Because you are totally committed to the lot of us. You do not have a "fear of commitment" that's just an easy way out of all of this. What you have dearest one, is a deep seated and totally understandable fear of OTHER people's commitment to YOU.
I totally wholeheartedly agree, you've never been in love. Until Zac, you've chosen chaps whom you've simply liked but who have loved you. so when it's over, it hasn't hurt you.
Why have you done this, over all these years? I'll tell you why, because what YOU actually fear is being left by someone YOU love.
Your fear of COMMITMENT centres solely on another's commitment to YOU'It makes”
― Freya North, Pip

“That's the beauty about love. It's not about give-and-take - it's about feeling safe in one's needs - wanting to be looked after as much as wanting to look after.”
― Freya North, Chances

“For the first time in her life, she read voraciously. Anything that was on Joe's bookshelves she considered to have a worthy seal of approval. She tried authors she'd never heard of and authors she'd always meant to read. Every now and then she read passages twice, three times even, enjoying the wordcraft, the drama - but imagining that Joe had liked the book and wondering when he might be back and if there would be dinners they could share to discuss books they'd both read. [...] Tess was well aware it was escapiscm but what a way to pass another evening on her own.”
― Freya North, Secrets

“They did the whole lingering gaze thing, following it with the glancing-away, smiling-knowingly routine. She felt vivacious, a feeling she remembered, she was enjoying the self-confidence, the larkiness.”
― Freya North, Chances

“I hope it's that she simply doesn't figure large enough in his life to be worth mentioning, Vita thought.
And then she thought, if that was the case. It was therefore rather pathetic that Suzie loomed larger for her than for Tim, that Suzie was in some ways a more real presence in her life than in his. What she thought it boiled down to was that she really didn't want the woman he left her for to be the true, profound love of his life.
I auditioned for that role. I put so much effort into it, I loved it. I'm not ready to let it go to someone else.
But you keep forgetting he didn't leave you, Vita - you left him.
And then she thought, is this a slewed version of Aesop's dog in the manger? I don't want him - but I don't want him wanting anyone else?
And then she thought, For God's sake, shut up! This is doing me no good at all. All this thinking and wondering that I do isn't going to change him or the past. What a waste of quarter of an hour - sifting through all that emotional JUNK. She knew there was nothing of value in it- she'd been through it with a fine toothcomb over and again.”
― Freya North, Chances

“I am a terrible judge of character' 
"I don't think so. You just need to take note of FACTS from the outset, not feelings.”
― Freya North, Chances

“It's chemical, fancying him is purely chemical. It's intoxicating - the frisson, the attraction - it's intoxicating because it's purely chemical. But you'll just have to remember the wedding ring - divorcees don't wear wedding rings. This guy has his own Vita at home. You're his potential Suzie. Is that who you want to be? Do you want the next man in your life to have Tim's principles?”
― Freya North, Chances

“She was tired of people saying things they thought she wanted to hear almost as much as she dreaded them saying the things she didn't want to listen to.”
― Freya North, Chances

“It wasn't about opening her mind, it was about closing down the racket of thoughts and opening up her body. 
She was tingling and throbbing and hot, not so much from her desire specifically for rick, as from a very physical yearning for human touch, to be wanted and ravished by another person after such a long period without. His attention, his hunger, was the thrill; it was an ego massage which in itself was better than her breasts being fondled. ”
― Freya North, Chances

“Currently she was midway through a bittersweet David Nicholls novel that any other time might well have made her self-indulgently reflective.”
― Freya North, Chances

“The weight of this sad time we must obey Speak what we feel, not what we ought to say.”
― Freya North, The Unfinished Business of Eadie Browne

“we were so thrilled about tomorrow that none of us noticed the sadness wash over Sandrine as if she was a colour photo fading to black-and-white.”
― Freya North, The Unfinished Business of Eadie Browne

“I do believe that it’s the falls we take when we are far from the place where we grew up which make us robust, Eadie, which equip us for the world. I do believe it’s when we can get back on our feet and haul ourselves upright, miles away from where we perceive the safety of our childhood to be, that we become adults, that we are prepared for life.”
― Freya North, The Unfinished Business of Eadie Browne

“I love them, I hate them, I’m proud of them, I envy them, I miss them, I want to hear about everything and I don’t want them to forget me.”
― Freya North, Little Wing

“The map that said this is where we are. This is who we’ve always been. This place of yours that will always be here. This place you can always call home.”
― Freya North, Little Wing

“For example,’ Tess continued, ‘Christmas just gone, they went skiing. I mean, I don't ski, I couldn't have afforded the trip and I couldn't have gone with Em being so little. But I wasn't invited anyway. So it did mean I didn't have plans for Christmas.”
― Freya North, Secrets

“You’re just like a dream.’ All of it is – it’s so long ago that I can’t quite believe that once it was real.”
― Freya North, The Unfinished Business of Eadie Browne

“Nothing will ever be the same again.”
― Freya North, Little Wing

“peace isn’t just where there is no noise, no trouble, no hard work. Peace is when you can be in the midst of all those things and still be calm.”
― Freya North, Little Wing