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“Many introverts don't feel as if they know enough about a subject until they know almost everything.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Children are like wet cement. Whatever falls on them makes an impression. —Haim Ginott”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“The second difference between the introvert and the extrovert is how they experience external stimulation. Extroverts like to experience a lot, and introverts like to know a lot about what they experience.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Having people in different optimal environments increases the chances of survival of the human race as a whole. It is nature's way to preserve her species.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“The introvert is pressured daily, almost from the moment of awakening, to respond and conform to the outer world.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“For introverts who have a high level of internal activity, anything coming from the outside raises their intensity level index quickly. It’s kind of like being tickled—the sensation goes from feeling good and fun to “too much” and uncomfortable in a split second.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“If nature intended us to talk more than listen, she would have given us two mouths and one ear. —ANONYMOUS”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Introverted people who balance their energy have perseverance and the ability to think independently, focus deeply, and work creatively.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Within you there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat any time and be yourself. —Hermann Hesse”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“When overstimulated, the introvert’s mind can shut down, saying, No more input, please. It goes dark.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: Making the Most of Your Inner Strengths

“Introverted children may not be as demonstrative as extroverted children. They love and value you, but they may not talk about it as much. Accept your temperament and your child’s. They can’t be changed. Both of you have wonderful qualities to contribute to your family and to the world.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“It was dimly lit with very few other people—just about my pace of excitement.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Einstein said later in life, “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“If we cannot now end our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity. —John F. Kennedy”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Points to Ponder • 75 percent of the world is extroverted. • Being introverted affects all areas of your life. • Nothing is wrong with you. • Introverts feel drained and overstimulated. • Being introverted is something to be celebrated.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Words for Introverts to Live By Be playful.
Take breaks.
Appreciate your inside world.
Be authentic.
Enjoy curiosity.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“One of the oldest human needs is having someone to wonder where you are when you don’t come home at night. —MARGARET MEAD”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: Making the Most of Your Inner Strengths

“Stay in harmony.
Revel in solitude.
Be grateful.
Be you.
Remember, let your light shine.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“To err is human; to blame it on the other guy is even more human. —Bob Goddard”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Imagine having an active mind trapped inside a body that is entirely paralyzed except for the ability to move your eyes sideways and blink your eyelids. A few people are living in this nightmare, called Locked-In Syndrome. A mere millimeter makes the difference between ending up in a coma (unconscious) or in Locked-In Syndrome (conscious). Both are caused by trauma to the brain stem (located at the base of the neck and involved in regulating basic body functions). If the trauma is to the front of the brain stem, the motor pathways are destroyed but patients are alert. Since the nerves for blinking and eye movement are at the back of the brain stem, they can still move their eyes. This tragic condition has given us an intriguing clue about the connection between acetylcholine and the enjoyment introverts gain from introspection. Although it seems as if people with Locked-In Syndrome should feel claustrophobic and terrified, researchers were shocked to find they don’t. Although sad about their situation, these patients report a sense of tranquility and lack of terror about their loss of physical freedom. In these patients acetylcholine is blocked to the muscles but not to brain pathways, so their capacity to feel good about living in their internal world (the enjoyment from thinking and feeling) remains intact.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Feelings are everywhere—be gentle. —J. Masai”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“originality, foresight, and a wide range of knowledge, to name just a few introverted advantages. Introverts are often the employees”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Freud’s theoretical differences with Adler and Jung ended in bitterness. The three parted company and each went his own way. At that point, Freud began to use the concept of introversion as a negative, implying a turning inward away from the world, in his writings about narcissism. This shifted the evolution of the concept of introversion away from healthy and toward the unhealthy, a misconception that remains to this day.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Introverts are like a rechargeable battery. They need to stop expending energy and rest in order to recharge. This is what a less stimulating environment provides for introverts. It restores energy. It is their natural niche.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Our country places a high value on silver-tongued folks who appear confident and decisive. Introverts often exhibit the exact opposite qualities of these “in-charge types” we esteem so highly.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

“solitude,”
― Marti Olsen Laney Psy.D., The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Anything that requires energy, like being in the outside world, having people in her space, dealing with conflict, and interacting with others, requires energy output and so is draining. She likes the familiar (since these situations burn less energy), needs to ease into new situations, and may not be able to think or make decisions around too much stimuli or too many people.”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert and Extrovert in Love: Making It Work When Opposites Attract

“introversion is a collection of traits that we are born with.”
― Marti Olsen Laney Psy.D., The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World

“splashy,”
― Marti Olsen Laney Psy.D., The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World

“Maybe being oneself is always an acquired taste. —Patricia Hampl S”
― Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World