David Stafford > Quotes

“Alcoholism is above all a disease of denial.”
― David Stafford

“If you ever feel the person in your life needs rescuing, particularly from him or herself - beware. Codependency is rearing its head again.”
― David Stafford, Codependency: How to break free and live your own life

“Resist trying to be what other people want you to be. Anyone in your life who tries to change you is really saying: as I can't control myself I will try and control you. By the same token, don't attempt to control other people's behaviour - it's not your place.”
― David Stafford, Codependency: How to break free and live your own life

“Non-alcoholic ways in which parents may not 'be there' for the children can include:
- violence and sexual abuse
- workholism
- gambling
- transquilliser addiction-
- womanizing
- frequent journeys abroad
- death
- suicide
- being unemployed or unemployable
- frequent hospitalisation
- mental or physical handicap
- excessive religiosity
- rigid rules and regulations
- homes where children are never allowed to be themselves but must always be pleasing to adults”
― David Stafford, Codependency: How to break free and live your own life

“Recovery [from codependency] may not always be comfortable at first for the other people in one's life. But it is always worth it because, actually, nobody ever respects a 'doormat'.”
― David Stafford, Codependency: How to break free and live your own life

“Whenever you feel compelled to put others first at the expense of yourself, you are denying your own reality, your own identity.”
― David Stafford, Codependency: How to break free and live your own life

“A Man Called Intrepid,”
― David Stafford, CAMP X School for Spies

“sent the Yamato, the largest battleship in the world, on a desperate last mission to ram as many”
― David Stafford, ENDGAME 1945 victory, retribution, liberation

“To summarise so far, Step One says I can't; Step Two says: I am not alone; Step Three says: I can be helped. Step Four and Five call for honesty and openness, and action to shed our secrets. In Steps Six and Seven, we take full responsibility for our problems and shortcomings (NOT the same as taking blame) and get help from our 'higher power', in order to change ourselves. Steps Eight and Nine ask for amends to be made to those we have injured or hurt - often a very hard and painful thing to do.”
― David Stafford, Codependency: How to break free and live your own life

“Enigma Tito,”
― David Stafford, CAMP X School for Spies

“Troy’s Donovan and the CIA became”
― David Stafford, CAMP X School for Spies

“Sunday 8 August. The next day it declared: ‘Workers! You”
― David Stafford, Churchill & Secret Service

“But codependency is inappropriate, over-the-top loyalty, caring and supportiveness.”
― David Stafford