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“That’s when she decided that infertility was funny—and a few years later, after the birth of her two daughters she created a social media account and wrote a book about it. “My uterus is in a bad mood,” one T-shirt reads. “I think my unfertilized eggs are cuter than your offspring,” quips an e-card. “You can have humor in infertility,” Jeffries says. “I always had an inappropriate outlook on things—that really did help me. I’ve had women from all over the world tell me, ‘OMG all I did was cry and now I found your website and I’m crying from laughing now.’ ” Some of her most popular posts and memes are about unsolicited advice (“Thanks for telling me just to have sex if I want to get pregnant. I’ve spent thousands on fertility treatments and never thought of that”), and other people’s pregnancy announcements (“If everyone could just stop getting pregnant that’d be great”).”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“The truth is, most people won’t understand what you’re going through. If they’ve never struggled with getting pregnant, or never wanted kids in the first place, they may make you feel like you’re being overly emotional, overwrought, oversomething.”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“Still, there is one concrete way stress can affect fertility: “Sometimes if you’re so stressed out, you might not continue treatment,” Dr. Luk says. In fact, in one study, 26 percent of couples ended treatment early because of psychological stress.7”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“Now that I’ve revealed my dating neuroses, that shouldn’t come as a surprise. But it was a surprise to me how nerve-wracking each waiting period was. At the beginning, I had a handle on keeping the wondering to a minimum, while getting on with my life—especially since I had a life outside of fertility then. But once I started treatment, from that very first doctor’s appointment, I was admitting, YES, I WANT TO BE PREGNANT! I WILL PAY YOU TO GET ME PREGNANT! I WILL WAIT ON ABSURDLY LONG LINES AND SIT IN INCREDIBLY UNCOMFORTABLE WAITING ROOMS IN THE HOPES THAT YOU GET ME PREGNANT.”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“This really, really is a medical issue,” Palumbo says. “People still don’t get it. The World Health Organization recognizes infertility is a medical disease and yet most of the United States doesn’t. I can’t understand it.”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“On the one hand, I couldn’t believe this was me, like, I had to go to a fertility clinic? (What, me infertile?) I vaguely knew some women had problems getting pregnant, especially when they were older, but not for one moment did I think I would be one of them. I suppose it’s like any disease or condition: You have a vague knowledge of, say, diabetes or Crohn’s, and may even know someone who knows someone who has it, and then, suddenly, you are that someone. Now you have to get up to speed on everything, and fast. On the other hand, I was looking forward to hearing what the doctor might have to say. Maybe he’d say something easy and simple, like: “You just have to have sex earlier in the month!” “Take these two vitamins and call me next month.” “Go on vacation and get rip-roaringly drunk!” (Annoying AF when relatives, friends, and perfect strangers tell you this, but maybe if it was medically recommended…?) “According to your blood test today…you’re pregnant!” Nah, that’s not what happened.”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“Of course, there’s also a lot of research showing stress has no effect on fertility. As I always say: Correlation is not causation. Yes, of course infertility causes stress. How can it not? Everyone telling you to “just relax” should try living a normal, happy life while waiting every second for a much-wanted event that hasn’t yet happened and they can’t be sure ever will. Of course infertility is stressful. Just please don’t tell me it causes infertility.”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“The hard thing about this is that I don’t know if I’m at the beginning, middle, or end,”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“For everyone going through infertility and conception hell, please know it was not a straight line to either of my pregnancies. Sending you extra love. —Anne Hathaway”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“I felt so alone. My friends who were mothers told me to “keep trying” and “relax” and “have patience” because it took them an incredibly long time to get pregnant (three months!!?#@!).”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind

“Find your people—find the people that gel with you,” Lindemann says. You’ll probably have to forgive your friends—and that annoying coworker. “People mean well. No one means to be insensitive, or to get it wrong,” Lindemann says, because people want to support you. And it’s our job to help them get it right. “You need to say, ‘This is what I need, and this is what I don’t need,’ ” she says. “People aren’t psychic.” So find your online friends, your offline friends, and your family, and get ready to start treatment.”
― Amy Klein, The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant without Losing Your Mind