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“No one can take better care of you than you yourself.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get Rich: 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money

“Learning money basics.

Don't marry for money. You can borrow it cheaper.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get Rich: 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money

“You gain courage and confidence from doing the things you think you cannot do.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent". Stop consenting. Stop colluding. Stop being that nice little girl you were taught to be in childhood!”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

“The most foolish thing I've ever done related to money was spend too much of my life worrying about whether I had enough or didn't have enough, I always felt I never had enough. I cheated myselfout of living in the moment, and I'll bet I die with a lot left over.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get Rich: 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money

“There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“A personal brand is a promise of performance that creates expectations in its audience. Done well, it clearly communicates the values, personality, and abilities of the person behind it.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“Prepare for every negotiation... 1) Focus on Outcomes. What is it that you want to walk away with? Being as specific as possible also increases the likelihood of negotiation success. 2) Support your desired outcome with data that points to its reasonableness. 3) Writing down your key points in advance - and practicing them - enables you to stay focused on what's most important and avoid going off on tangents. 4) Err on the side of asking for more, rather than less [of what you really want]. 5) Be willing to walk away.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

“Understand that it is unlikely that you will change the size of the playing field to suit your needs. Playing your game at the edge can help to stretch the boundaries, but if it’s too narrowly defined for you, start looking for a bigger field.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

“Women act powerfully all the time, but in ways different from men.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

“Being a girl is certainly easier than being a woman. Girls don’t have to take responsibility for their destiny. Their choices are limited by a narrowly defined scope of expectations. And here’s another reason why we continue to exhibit the behaviors learned in childhood even when at some level we know they’re holding us back: We can’t see beyond the boundaries that have traditionally circumscribed the parameters of our influence. It’s dangerous to go out-of-bounds. When you do, you get accused of trying to act like a man or being “bitchy.” All in all, it’s easier to behave in socially acceptable ways.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

“Completely, totally, and permanently erase the statement “Oh—it was nothing” from your vocabulary.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“If I had kept my life simple - not moved to a big house with a big overhead and a lot of maintenance.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get Rich: 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money

“Working without a break also contributes to the impression that you’re flustered or inefficient.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“No matter what hand life deals us, we are ultimately left with the dilemma of how we choose to respond.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“Armand, let me pause here for a moment. The look on your face tells me you’re either still not with me or that you have something you’d like to say. I’m not sure which.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Speak Up or Stand Out: How to Make Your Voice Heard, Your Point Known, and Your Presence Felt

“If you’re not sure something is fair, do it anyway. If you’re not sure something is ethical, ask.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“the opposite of a nice girl isn’t a bitch—it’s a winning woman. The difference is that a nice girl acts in ways that are designed to make others like her, and a winning woman acts in ways that ensure her goals are met by knowing what she wants, having clarity about where she’s headed, and achieving both through high likability and emotional intelligence.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

“COACHING TIPS • Give yourself permission to “waste” a little time. If you’re not spending 5 percent of your day building relationships, you’re doing something wrong. • Define your work hours and stick with them. Remember Parkinson’s Law: “Work expands to fill the time available.” This isn’t to say there won’t be times when you must work overtime, but if you’re consistently the last one left at the office, there’s something wrong with that picture.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“Give yourself a set period of time to grieve and heal before focusing on financial matters.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get Rich: 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money

“Great, then let me summarize the three things I want you to keep in mind,”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Speak Up or Stand Out: How to Make Your Voice Heard, Your Point Known, and Your Presence Felt

“Every job in every organization is critical to its operation. You may not be the president of Nestlé, but you wouldn’t have your job if it wasn’t necessary to run the business. Identifying why your business needs you is crucial to accurately marketing your brand.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“Strive for 80 percent perfection. The difference between 80 percent and 100 percent won’t be noticed by most people but will buy you more time to shift to other important tasks.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“You Play the Game How You Act How You Think How You Brand & Market Yourself How You Sound How You Look How You Respond   1.   2.   3.   4.   5.   6.   7.   8.   9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. 41. 42. 43. 44. 45. 46. 47. 48. 49. Category Total Category Total Category Total Category Total Category Total Category Total Category Total Overall Total INTERPRETATION OF YOUR SCORES Overall Score of 159–196 or A Category Score of 22–28 You go, girl! Your score indicates you must already have the corner office or are well on your way to getting it. To stay on track, focus on those questions where you rated yourself “1” or “2.” Also, remember to pay it forward by mentoring other women. Overall Score of 110–158 or A Category Score of 14–21 Fine-tuning is the name of your game! Although you often engage in behaviors worthy of a winning woman, there are times when you don’t get your due because you get caught up in nice girl syndrome. First read the chapters that correspond with your lowest category scores, then go back and read the rest as a refresher course. Overall Score of 49–109 or A Category Score of 7–13 Danger! You are falling into the trap of acting like the nice little girl you were taught to be in childhood. You frequently wonder why you’re not achieving the success you’ve worked so hard for. This book was written for you, so take out your pen and start making notations for what you commit to doing differently.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“Rather than responding to the details of an assignment, before beginning consider how it could be done faster, cheaper, or more effectively.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“Send guilt on a trip. It serves absolutely no purpose in your life. When you start feeling guilty, ask yourself what you can realistically change to make the situation better and act on it. If the answer is that nothing can be done differently, then move on.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“Consider how these behaviors distinguish you from others. For example, the ability to gather and report data may be unique in a department or company known mainly for producing a product. Or having skill in building relationships may be unique and valuable in an organization where intellectual capital is the product. •   Finish this sentence: “There goes a woman who _______________________.” Now engage in the behaviors required to make that statement a reality.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“Gain Perspective—If your head is down in your work, you aren’t aware of your surrounding environment. Priorities may have changed since you started your project. A break can let you zoom in and out again.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“•  Continually ask yourself, What are we not doing currently that if we started doing would fundamentally change how we did business?”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

“If you’ve ever wondered why when you say something in the exact same way a male counterpart says it you get called a bitch and he gets called assertive, it’s because the rules, boundaries, and strategies are different for men and women and for people of color and Caucasians. I don’t think it’s fair or right, but it does explain why people are treated and evaluated differently at work.”
― Lois P. Frankel, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office