John Kuypers > Quotes

“If you first take a minute, an hour or a month to let go of feeling annoyed, frustrated or critical of the person or situation that may be driving you crazy, you set yourself up for much greater leadership and personal success.”
― John Kuypers, Who's The Driver Anyway? Making the Shift to a Collaborative Team Culture

“Your private self must become the same as your public self.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“When you have nothing but love, you have everything. This means you must live as if you have nothing to hide, nothing to prove and nothing to lose.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“Each of us is the best we can be when we are fully present, focused yet relaxed, curious yet non-judgmental, committed yet flexible.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“In its highest form, not judging is the ultimate act of forgiveness.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“To not judge is to be like a peach. We shrink our space by giving up controlling others. Instead, we focus on controlling ourselves. We set others free to be who they are.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“You cannot do what's important now for you if your mind cannot accept what is happening in this present moment.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“When you are present, you are not needy.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“There is one undeniable truth about our body: it only exists in the present moment.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“When you are authentic without an intent to harm others, you give yourself an awesome feeling which is the feeling of self-love.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“Judgments are like a snowball. They stick to you. As time rolls along, the snowball becomes a boulder and then an avalanche.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“A judgment with an evil design comes about when we compare a person to our pre-conceived beliefs about what is right or wrong and then condemn that person.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“The present moment is the definition of eternity. It has never not been the present moment. This isn't scriptural or unscriptural - it is merely a logical fact.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“We cannot let go of the past enough to live in the present unless we are able to grieve our losses. We must deeply feel our emotional pain in order to accept that what is happening is not what we wanted.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“The present is what is happening when you strip away all the resentments of your past and all the worries you have about your future.”
― John Kuypers

“One of the greatest joys of not judging others is becoming capable of discerning God's will in a difficult situation.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“Learning how to recognize and act on your Inner Knowing is the greatest tool for discovering what's important now by living in the present.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“The Paradox of Change: People can only change when they feel accepted as they are now.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“In order to live in the present, we have to learn how to feel safe even when a situation feels threatening to us.”
― John Kuypers

“To live in the present, you need to act or accept but never stay stuck.”
― John Kuypers

“When you do what's important now for you, you create a past that leaves you ready to handle the present. By default, the future is taking care of itself as you make decisions that are acceptable to you no matter what happens tomorrow.”
― John Kuypers

“...as long as you are motivated by the approval of others, you cannot know with confidence whether the decisions you are making in your life are what's right for you...”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“Non-judgment softens the heart and opens the ears. When you are non-judgmental, you are letting God participate in the decision. The Lord works miracles when you give Him space to reveal His power and glory. You become His instrument, not His replacement.”
― John Kuypers, The Non-Judgmental Christian: Five Lessons That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships

“When you are living in the present, you know what's important now for you and you act on that knowing.”
― John Kuypers, What's Important Now: Shedding the Past So You Can Live in the Present

“You will experience immeasurable joy when you embrace living as if you have nothing to prove.”
― John Kuypers, The Peace Promise: Trusting God to Solve the Unsolvable

“Compassion and empathy are two of the best gifts we receive when we become neutral, unbiased, and unattached to the outcome of a difficulty we are facing or a fault in someone.”
― John Kuypers, The Peace Promise: Trusting God to Solve the Unsolvable

“To me, the saddest passage in the entire Bible is when Jesus was sentenced to death and about to carry his cross. He said, “For if they do this when the wood is green, what will happen when it is dry?” (Luke 23:31). He mourned the people he had come to save and their horrible ignorance. God himself was in their very presence and they were sentencing him to die. I weep at the thought.”
― John Kuypers, The Peace Promise: Trusting God to Solve the Unsolvable

“As British author G. K. Chesterton wrote, “To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.”
― John Kuypers, The Peace Promise: Trusting God to Solve the Unsolvable

“People who have nothing to prove do not distort or manipulate the truth. Neither do they shame or criticize others into agreeing with them. They speak their truth boldly and are not easily upset. They have this ability because their hearts are neutral about the outcomes at stake. Their words and tone are not laced with personal attacks and innuendos. They do not compare, criticize, or condemn differences compared to their own beliefs and expectations. By contrast, people with something to prove eagerly seek the approval of others, selling their point of view hard and feeling upset if others disagree or fail to be impressed. This upset reveals itself in the form of judgment. We see this commonly in social media, where people can hide their identities while lobbing personal attacks at others. Rather than loving others, they are pressuring others to agree with them. They may resentfully comply or put up a wall to shut people out. I had such a wall with my father. Each and every judgment is like a brick in the wall that separates us from the peace of our real Father in heaven.”
― John Kuypers, The Peace Promise: Trusting God to Solve the Unsolvable

“You will never see how to influence others so long as your heart resents the way they see the world. Their beliefs serve them just as yours serve you. Once you get this, you will have compassion rather than judgment for them.”
― John Kuypers, The Peace Promise: Trusting God to Solve the Unsolvable