Danielle Harel > Quotes

“Unless you want to bypass the whole issue and pop a pill (which many times doesn’t even work), it is essential that the sex you are having is arousing for you. A much more sustainable way is to figure out and communicate your Core Desires and guide your partner towards your Hottest Sexual Movie. Alex came to us complaining that he could not stay hard during sex with new women he would date. He would get really excited at the thought of having sex with them, however, when the time came, he was unable to get an erection. His biggest complaints were that the women he was dating were very passive. He had to make the first move, the second move, and on and on. It turned out the feeling he wanted to have was being seduced.”
― Danielle Harel, Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility

“Another example of highly compatible Core Desires is someone who wants to dominate getting together with someone who wants to feel pleasing or punished. Some dominants get off on the idea that their sub is there to follow their every whim, and a person who wants to feel like they are pleasing will want to do it right for their dom. Other dominants like the idea of taking their submissive to task and some subs want to feel like they are naughty and in need of punishment, thus making them highly compatible.”
― Danielle Harel, Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility

“Somatica Sex and Relationship Coaches are specifically trained to help you figure out your Core Desires. They can also help you share, construct, and teach each other your Hottest Sexual Movies.   When utilizing a coach to help you unearth, communicate, and learn each other’s movies, you may want to do it as a couple or you may want to do some individual work first and then come back together and practice. It depends a lot on where you are in your process with one another and there are good arguments for both.”
― Danielle Harel, Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility

“If You Don’t Have a Partner If you are single but want to learn how to seduce a partner or really relax into and enjoy sex, you can learn and practice all of this on your own with a SomaticaⓇ coach. In individual sessions, the coach connects with you erotically and emotionally within boundaries, so that you can practice in real-time and receive clear, honest feedback. If you want to learn how to be a better lover, your coach will teach you a wide variety of Hottest Sexual Movies that will likely please a very broad spectrum of people you want to date. You will also learn how to offer a wide variety of erotic experiences while attuning to and reading your partner’s non-verbal cues. This way, you know which ones excite”
― Danielle Harel, Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility