Laura Doyle > Quotes

“Try to want what you have, instead of spending your strength trying to get what you want.” —ABRAHAM L. FEINBERG”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man

“Ambrose Redmoon wrote, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the decision that something else is more important than fear.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man

“It’s not helpful for your connection with your husband to discuss with him your hurt or scared feelings about him, but your feelings do deserve airtime. So make sure to honor and express those feelings somewhere else. The more you preserve the intimacy in your marriage by avoiding comments that are disrespectful to or critical of your husband, the less you’re going to have those hurtful moments. You’ll be too busy laughing together and holding hands.”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“The woman is the fiber of the nation. She is the producer of life. A nation is only as good as its women.” —MUHAMMAD ALI”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man

“If you spend time taking care of yourself instead of him, you're more likely to be receptive, grateful, and happy.”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of being.” —GOETHE”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man

“Receiving is the ultimate act of giving up control.”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage.” —Sir Robert Anderson, Author”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“Your husband really wants you to be happy. When you’re happy, he feels successful as a husband and as a man. No matter how bad things are in the relationship, your husband’s desire to make you happy is alive and well. If it doesn’t seem like that right now, that’s because when you’re in conflict or a cold war, your husband’s need to defend himself will supersede his drive to please you. But as soon as he feels respected again, he’ll be looking for any chance to delight you. The more he knows about what will make you happy, the easier it will be for him to feel successful as a husband. That’s why it’s so important for you to know your desires and express them clearly. If your husband knows how to make you happy, he can do something about it—and then you’re both happy. That’s why it’s important to take your own happiness seriously. If mama’s not happy, nobody’s happy.”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic, against any opponent. People know this, and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don’t even invite me.” —DAVE BARRY”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man

“None of us feels good about ourselves when we’re nagging, critical, or controlling.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man

“These are the four magical questions to help you decide whether you’d rather act on your fear or choose your faith.   1.  What am I afraid of?   2.  Is my fear realistic?   3.  Can I actually control the situation?   4.  Is it worth the intimacy it would cost me to try to control?”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“My husband is smart enough to notice me trying to control him like I'm his boss or his mother—instead of his lover—no matter how clever my wording.”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“If there’s a lot of tension and distance at your house, you might ask yourself if there’s something you’ve done that’s disrespectful. If so, you have the opportunity to apologize and restore the intimacy. When the intimacy in your relationship is gone, it’s almost always an indication that the respect is missing too. You might be surprised at how quickly you can get both back with a simple apology.”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“Today, my rule is not to say anything to myself—even silently—that I wouldn’t say to a friend.”
― Laura Doyle, Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand: (. . . When you learn that it is better to receive than to give) The Superwoman's Practical Guide to Getting as Much as She Gives

“When you let down your guard, the truth comes out in an endearing way. You feel the incomparable pleasure and joy of being loved just as you are, not for who you think you should be.”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“Cynicism is not realistic and tough. It’s unrealistic and kind of cowardly? because it means you don’t have to try. —PEGGY NOONAN”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Vulnerability makes us approachable and attractive, because it’s a gift to the person we’re with. It’s an unspoken compliment that says, “I trust you to be gentle when I put down my armor. I feel safe with you.” When someone gives me such a gift, my instinct is to be tender so as to reassure her that I understand the honor.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“In other words, what your desires are whispering to you may actually be the key to something bigger than a day at the beach.”
― Laura Doyle, Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand: (. . . When you learn that it is better to receive than to give) The Superwoman's Practical Guide to Getting as Much as She Gives

“Myth: “If I admit I’m lonely, even to myself, I’ll seem desperate.” Reality: Loneliness and desperation are different. Loneliness says, “I’d like to be with someone else. I crave companionship, romance, and intimacy.” Desperation says, “I can’t stand being alone and my self-respect is low. I will take anyone, even if I know he’s not right for me.” Loneliness is not undignified. It’s a natural human emotion that we all feel at times.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Denying what you want is a way of controlling your desires so that you can ward off the fear, disappointment, and humiliation.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“I wasn’t used to sweet so it made me uncomfortable”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Finally, taking time for yourself is a fundamental part of surrendering. Long walks, dinners with your girlfriends, journal writing—or just cuddling up on the couch with a book or a romantic movie helps you to hear your own heart. When you do, urgency and desperation are replaced with confidence.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“there are some similarities between the way you approach finding love and the way you would look for a job. When you want a new job, you admit it. You network. People give you leads. You follow up on every one. You leave the dead ends behind, always cordially, and don’t look back.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Only God is perfect. For the rest of us, there are apologies.”
― Laura Doyle, Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand: (. . . When you learn that it is better to receive than to give) The Superwoman's Practical Guide to Getting as Much as She Gives

“Now it's no longer my goal to be independent. What I want is to be interdependent with my husband.”
― Laura Doyle, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

“Keeping your checklist is a way to stay invulnerable.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“When I was dating, I told myself that I didn’t want to get married. The dialogue between me and myself was an elaborate way of avoiding my fear of divorce. Yet my loneliness and desire for a partner were acute. I wasn’t so much “embracing the single life” as I was trying to avoid future pain.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“The art of being yourself at your best is the art of unfolding your personality into the person you want to be. Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude towards others. —WILFRED PETERSON”
― Laura Doyle, Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand: (. . . When you learn that it is better to receive than to give) The Superwoman's Practical Guide to Getting as Much as She Gives

“Vulnerability will draw me to someone in a way that appearing invincible never could. That’s because I identify with the humanity and authenticity. To appear perfect is to keep up your defenses, which means others can’t see and love the real you.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M