Kweli Carson > Quotes

“your worth is not defined by what you do, but by who you are—a beautiful, resilient, deserving soul.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“A technique that you can use to communicate boundary violations at work is known as DESC. It stands for Describe, Express, Specify, and Consequence.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“The million-dollar question that we should ask is: How can Black women prioritize self-care without compromising their daily schedules and essential responsibilities?”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“next time you practice self-compassion, remember, it's not a sign of weakness, but a mark of strength.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“As Shirley Chisholm famously said, “If they don’t give you a seat at the table, bring a folding chair" (Chisholm, n.d.).”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“Self-care is a personalized wellness practice that is only effective when it is responding to your needs.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“Strong Black Woman" was ingrained in our minds from the time we were little girls. This immense strength was presumed to be a badge of honor but it's not, my sisters. Instead, it can actually prevent us from giving our pain and trauma the attention they deserve.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“The kind of stress that you are most vulnerable to, as a Black woman, is chronic or ongoing stress that can affect heart health, weaken your immune system, and increase your risk of complications in pregnancy.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“Jezebel" or harlot stereotype dates back to the Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade where Black men's and women's bodies were oversexualized and objectified, as a way to dehumanize and market them as attractive commodities that could be bought, exploited and sold. By creating the Jezebel stereotype, enslavers attempted to rationalize their routine sexual exploitation of enslaved African women (Green,”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“According to the World Health Organization, self-care is “the ability of individuals, families, and communities to promote health, prevent disease, maintain health, and to cope with illness and disability with or without the support of a healthcare provider” (Bottaro, 2023).”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“effective time management involves distinguishing between important tasks and time-wasters and then dedicating your available time to what truly matters.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“A study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control showed that Black women's life expectancy was three years shorter than the average white woman, and this was caused by physical and mental illnesses induced by stress (CDC, 2016).”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“Research shows that although 60% of African-American women experience symptoms of depression, only 12% seek help and/or treatment (Woods-Giscombe, 2016). This means that a large percentage of our sisters with depression are undiagnosed and in need of support to address ongoing mental health issues.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“Cultivating self-worth is about recognizing your inherent value, independent of your productivity, your roles, or others’ expectations.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“Our mental health is our responsibility. It is up to us to sense when we have reached our limits and need time to recenter and relieve stress and tension. Life won't stop throwing obstacles at us, but with the right self-care routine we can ward off negativity and pressure coming from every direction.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“Listen to those physical and mental alerts telling you that something is wrong or that you have reached your limits.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“The first element of self-compassion is self-kindness, which is the willingness to be gentle with your words, considerate of your needs, and patient with your mistakes. Whenever you are tempted to judge or criticize your actions, self-kindness encourages you to delay the reaction long enough to inspire a sympathetic response.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“To sustain commitment and motivation, the practices you choose should match your daily routine and responsibilities, and if possible, require very little time and money.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“common humanity. This is the idea that you are never alone in the struggles you face.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“It is called ubuntu, which can be described as “others-centeredness.” The philosophy of ubuntu is that your humanity is inextricably linked to the humanity of others, and vice versa — “I am because we are.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“A core principle of self-care is achieving balance in your life by responding to various needs instead of a single one.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally

“The third element of self-compassion is mindfulness, which is the awareness of what is happening right here, right now.”
― Kweli Carson, The Ultimate Self-Love Guide for Black Women: How to Be Kind to Yourself in an Unkind World - Prioritize Self-Care, Embrace Self-Compassion, and Love Yourself Unconditionally