Brooke Castillo > Quotes

“You need to remember the best legacy you can give your kids is an example of a life well lived. They may listen to what you say, but they will do what you do. If you tell them to take care of yourself but you don't do it yourself, what kind of message are you sending?”
― Brooke Castillo

“Are you creating your thoughts? Or, are your thoughts creating you?”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“if you are practicing negative thoughts, you are getting better at thinking them. If”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“When my clients stop overeating they are typically bombarded with negative emotion. Their knee jerk reaction after years of practice is to fight the emotion, escape the emotion, or bury the emotion. Picking up more food is a way to escape the emotion temporarily. BUT if we are willing—and many of us are—to RELAX INTO THE EMOTION and feel it deeply, we can watch it pass through us. Eventually, as we get better at experiencing the truth of our emotional state, we can find the thought that is causing the feeling”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“You can either make your habits or your habits can make you.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“Whatever you’re practicing—you are getting better at. If”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“We have been trained not to waste food in the garbage, but to waste it on our bodies. Either way it is wasted. In one way, we just carry the waste with us.”
― Brooke Castillo

“But happiness is something you can create or access. Being kind to yourself and having compassion for yourself can connect you to yourself and the happiness that is already residing within you. You cannot go on a path of self-criticism and expect to find joy at the end.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“thought (the cause), we end up back with the same spin cycle and same results over and over again.”
― Brooke Castillo, Self Coaching 101

“Anyone who has grown spiritually, mentally or physically knows that growth is not found in comfort. My”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“We avoid our feelings by consulpting. (Consuming something compulsively.) This always just adds a layer of ick to the negative feeling we already have. We feel lonely. We avoid it with three bowls of Lucky Charms. We feel full instead. We feel our feelings by naming them. Noticing them in our bodies. Paying attention. We listen for the thoughts causing the feelings and write them down. We stay connected even when it feels bad. We use our feelings when we find the thoughts causing them and do the thought work to change them.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“Pretending to be cool is exhausting. Yelling”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“It’s not a race, so no one’s ahead of you.” Not sure why, but the way she said it on that particular day, knocked the wind out of me. It’s not? We’re not in a race? Then why are we all running so fast? Looking over our shoulders? Checking our watches? Frantically looking for the finish line? Why are we freaked out when people are ahead of us? Someone forgot to tell us that we aren’t in a race against each other.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“I did not ask her to go from disliking her sister to loving her sister. I asked her to try to go from disliking her sister to feeling neutral about her sister. To do this for her own sake, so she didn’t have to feel the unpleasant feeling of disliking someone. She did. Her thought changed from: “My sister is unreasonable.” To: “My sister doing what my sister does.” She felt relief. Isn’t”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“People who play the victim role in their lives love to feel self-pity. They want you to think that what “happened” to them is who they are.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“I am convinced that some of the people I come into contact with have their minds set to complaining. Or worry. Or failure. Or self-pity. Why? The only reason I can think of is that they aren’t paying attention. They don’t consciously set their minds. They just “cook” on whatever setting was left yesterday. Think about it. What is YOUR mindset? What result have you set YOUR mind to?”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“The basic premise/truth that I teach my clients is this: Your THOUGHTS create your FEELINGS—which create your ACTIONS—which create your RESULTS. Your results will always prove the original thought, whether you like it or not. So basically, if you believe that you will always be fat, you will feel fat, you will eat too much, and then you will gain weight proving your original thought. The”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“Instead of trying to “have” fun, focus on “being” fun. I”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“what you are really saying when you say you deserve food you don’t want or need: I deserve to be uncomfortable. I deserve to feel guilty. I deserve to jeopardize my health. I deserve to be disconnected from my body. I deserve to not really enjoy or taste my food. I deserve to live heavier than my natural weight. I deserve to struggle. You do not deserve any of the above. It is punishing and unkind. Eating past fullness or when you aren’t joy-eating is like turning your back on yourself and looking over your shoulder at yourself and saying, “Too bad, you deserve this.” YOU”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“The true measure of a man is in how much it takes to discourage him.” I”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“So worry is focusing on the worst. Worrying is actually thinking about what you don’t want. If you are worried it is because you have a belief or a thought that is not serving you. Okay,”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“You aren’t good enough.” “No, thanks.” “You know you aren’t going to be able to pull this off.” “No, thanks.” “You aren’t really good at this.” “No, thanks.” “You should join the PTA.” “Seriously, no.” “You are the luckiest girl in the world.” “Don’t mind if I do.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“It was always meant to happen that way.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“Negative emotion is fed by the fight or the habit that compounds it. If I am feeling lonely and I overeat, I will feel even more so when the eating is done. Most likely I will get an added dose of shame and frustration after the food coma passes. No matter what the unwanted action is you have in your life, you can start to eliminate it by doing this process: 1.   Stop taking the action. 2.   Notice the desire to “fight” or use “willpower” against the emotion that arises (you will typically lose this battle). 3.   Relax into the underlying emotion and breathe. Notice the emotion from the witness perspective. 4.   Keep relaxing and keep breathing and notice the thoughts that come up. 5.   Write down the thought. 6.   Acknowledge that if you want to change the habit, you must change the thought. Permanent change is never made by fighting or intense willpower.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“I was willing to suck at it. When I train new coaches I have to remind them regularly to be willing to be imperfect, be willing to make mistakes, and be willing to do a terrible job. It really is the only way we can improve and get better at anything.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“Thoughts create our pain. Byron”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“In almost any situation a client can ask me what to do and I can answer with “Be yourself. Tell the truth. The people who accept your truth are your people. The people who don’t accept your truth aren’t your people and that is OK.” I”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“Victims are not vulnerable. They just haven’t done their work. Do”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“I have enough in this moment, and I love wanting more from a place of enough. Wanting is only exhausting when we believe we can’t have what we want or that if we don’t have it, we can’t be happy.”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way

“Stop right now and watch your thoughts for a minute. Does this come naturally to you? Have you been practicing observing yourself from a place of compassion? Do you know where your mind tends to go when it is not being managed? I”
― Brooke Castillo, It Was Always Meant to Happen That Way