Lisa A. Romano > Quotes

“I know that my negative self-talk isn’t even mine. Negative self-talk is the result of faulty childhood programming. Beneath my conditioning, is this magnificent creature— ME! Today I will hear my negative self talk, and when I do, I will remind myself that it is all a lie!”
― Lisa Romano, Loving The Self Affirmations: Breaking The Cycles of Unconscious Codependent Belief Systems: Breaking The Cycles of Unconscious Codependent Belief Systems

“The very nature of the way a being is programmed to think—is codependent upon the rules—ideas—concepts—and notions—that have been manipulated by members of an elite group. This group is quite intelligent and understands that in order to guarantee its hold on the masses—it must first infuse the members of its society with fear.”
― Lisa A. Romano, Quantum Tools to Help You Heal Your Life Now: Healing the Past Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction

“Because no one I ever cared for had reflected a sense of worth back to me, I was cheated out of the ability to “see me” and to value my feelings, all my life long. Ideas”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“I was so wounded by the scars left by the disease of invisibility I internalized as a child that I had no connection to self.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“It is not possible to recover from your own soul’s death without regurgitating the bitterness of what has been. A soul’s death is the result of invalidation, and the only way to heal is by way of unearthing the ugliness that has been tucked away in the crevices of one’s being.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“As time progressed, I decided to learn all I could about asthma, eczema, and migraine headaches. When I finally made the connection between negative thinking, anxiety, cortisol, and inflammation, I realized that my body was simply reacting to whatever was going on inside of me emotionally.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“Now imagine you meet someone at work and they have asked you for a ride home. Imagine if while driving your friend home, he saw a pothole way out in front of your car and yelled at you to ‘watch out’. Imagine if your friend actually pushed your steering wheel to the left to avoid the pothole. Imagine if your friend asked you, “Didn’t you see that pothole?” Imagine what you would say. You might say, “What’s a pothole?” You might even be really angry that your friend yelled at you and tried to get you to avoid the pothole. Imagine if your friend asked, “Why are you so upset? All I did was try to get you to avoid getting a flat tire.” Imagine how you’d feel. You might think he was crazy, because flat tires are a part of your normal everyday life. You might be so infuriated that he suggested that flat tires are things that should be avoided. You might call your father and say, “Can you imagine the nerve of this guy, trying to get me to believe that flat tires aren’t necessary? He must be nuts. Everybody gets two or three flats a day. He must be living in some kind of fantasy world or something.” Imagine the next day at work. You might ask your friend if he wants another ride home. If your co-worker grew up with parents who taught him to avoid the pain that comes from hitting potholes, he will say something like, “No thank you. Thanks for the offer, but I am going to take the bus home tonight.” Because your friend has an association in his brain that has him wired to believe that potholes are--not only the causes of flat tires—but they are also the cause of unnecessary pain, drama, bills, chaos, time lost, and frustration—he will not be attracted to you—or your offer for a ride home.”
― Lisa A. Romano, Quantum Tools to Help You Heal Your Life Now: Healing the Past Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction

“If you are the child of the pothole loving family, you have been programmed to believe that life is supposed to be filled with potholes, frustration, enormous car bills, chaos, turmoil, dangerous road trips, anxiety, and fear. You might believe that everyone has such terrible life experiences as well.”
― Lisa A. Romano, Quantum Tools to Help You Heal Your Life Now: Healing the Past Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction

“Loving beings that refuse to love me back, was suicidal.”
― Lisa A. Romano, Quantum Tools to Help You Heal Your Life Now: Healing the Past Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction

“We can notice that when we take action toward our goals and intentions, we will find opportunity, and when we sit still and wait, we will be disappointed.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Codependency Manifesto: Clearing the Way Out of the Codependent Mind

“have known the soothing voice of suicide, and the aroma of death as a welcoming.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“When you are old enough to buy a car, you will not know to avoid potholes, and in fact, you will be magnetically drawn to them. And when your car hits a pothole, you will not even flinch, because that is your emotional set point. You are comfortable with potholes—because that is your norm. Even though every time you get in your car, you believe you know you might get a flat tire—and even though you know you could get into a terrible car accident if your tire explodes—you get in your car anyway—because you do not know to associate potholes with the fears you experience when getting into your car. You have been programmed to believe life should be endured, not enjoyed. Angst was your family’s emotional set point—and now it is yours as well.”
― Lisa A. Romano, Quantum Tools to Help You Heal Your Life Now: Healing the Past Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction

“My mother, my source of life, could not accept me, and worse, in front of others she pretended she did. My awareness of the contrast in realities swept me up in tidal waves of confusion. My states of being were so unsettled, so mind-blowing, so subjective …life almost swallowed me up.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“Although the conscious mind must be invoked to carry out the necessary mental rearranging necessary to dismantle old belief systems—the true ‘secret’ or the real ‘key’ to your recovery and thus long lasting well being—lies in your unconscious belief systems.”
― Lisa A. Romano, Quantum Tools to Help You Heal Your Life Now: Healing the Past Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction

“Children become who their parents are on an emotional level. Like it or not.”
― Lisa A. Romano, Quantum Tools to Help You Heal Your Life Now: Healing the Past Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction

“Conditioned to believe that my identity was determined by the value others placed on me, life was a maze of constant frustration. This self lay quiet, frozen and still, denied its breath.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“Beneath the burdens of my every day, my self remained a stranger amidst the valleys so wide. This disconnection within so vast, so deep, it is a miracle it did not swallow me up.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“I have known the soothing voice of suicide, and the aroma of death as a welcoming.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“I learned very early on to disown myself, and to simultaneously smile on cue.”
― Lisa A. Romano, The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

“It will matter not what mommy and daddy say to their child. It matters only what mommy and daddy do and have done.”
― Lisa A. Romano, Quantum Tools to Help You Heal Your Life Now: Healing the Past Using the Secrets of the Law of Attraction