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“We often desire to find vengeance against prior rejections by trying to become independent of others.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain. — Metanoia.org”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“[Highly Sensitive People — HSPs] are often gifted artists or writers, teachers, consultants, counselors—people of great intuitive talents stuck in mundane and externally draining environments.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Anxiety should never be viewed as an inherent weakness, but rather an out-of-control strength. It takes tremendous strength to never act out rage; to take that energy, to repress it inward where it becomes anxiety—so as to not harm anyone else.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“As irrational as it may appear, depression has an evolutionary purpose, which is to inhibit aggressive behavior. Depression is a survival mechanism when she cannot fight her way out of, or run from her life—leaving her self-esteem nonexistent. The result of inhibition of expressive behavior is depression
and anxiety.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed, second it is violently opposed, and third, it is accepted as self-evident. — Arthur Schopenhauer, German philosopher,
animal rights activist (1788-1860)”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“impulses and instincts, id is immutable and everlasting.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“If the individual feels never- ending self-imposed pressure to do good, be good, or appear good, she will eventually fall into the long-term effects of fatigue. The long-term effects of this can only
be characterized as chronic fatigue.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Highly sensitive individuals often tell me that they fear hearing of a certain ailment because they “fear they may just get it.” Ailments can indeed be induced by fear of those same ailments, as Attraction becomes the Law. However, fear can be turned into a vehicle for success, as proven by some of the greatest.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“... it was precisely that type of defensiveness, or avoidance, that ultimately creates chronic pain. Not being true to ourselves—knowing deep within that something is not right.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“The analogy has been made of trying to hold a beach ball underwater—energy needing more energy to futilely try to hold something down (hint: that “something” is the anger). This overload of energy sends the body into a state of quasi-mentalphysical paralysis.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“...a perceived abandonment at any point in life will cause the individual to revert back in her mind to the very first traumatic separation— AND—the earlier the first trauma, the
greater the panic and anger generated when perceived abandonment occurs again. [...]
McKenzie proved in his massive study that the same regions of the brain were reactivated—the same brain cells ignited—all still hard-wired to the rest of the body as though stuck in the past.
More simply—a perceived abandonment in later life triggers the brain back to the earlier stages of brain development when the first perceived abandonment occurred. For example, a woman’s husband leaves or dies— she shifts brain activity to the region of her brain that was developing at the time of the initial separation to sometime during infancy [...] She becomes the helpless little girl once again, developmentally: the same neurotransmitters and all. This is the McKenzie TwoTrauma Mechanism. Everyone has an inner child that will never mature with unresolved conflict from early separation panic. However, as Dr. McKenzie showed, the earlier that the separation trauma occurs, the more it sets the stage for enormous rage later in life.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Stress has more deleterious effects on the heart than cholesterol.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“If there is no fight or flight, but rather freeze, and the situation chronically continues, the mindbody faces the likelihood of both physiological and psychological
consequences as it struggles to maintain homeostasis. These consequences are [...] “diseases of adaptation.” Physical effects include stomach/intestinal disorders, headaches, hypertension, back pain, muscle aches, etc. The psychological effects resulting from resistance include resentment, depression and anger.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Their pain can be transformed—and eased—if the sufferers
understand that those people who condemn and judge them, who think they are somehow superior to the sufferers, are projecting their own flaws onto the sufferers, because such people’s egos are threatened by their own
shadows.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Full belief, or “positive expectant faith” in the drug or procedure, is the force behind healing.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“It is the repression of energy, the imbalance that triggers the hypothalamus’ reaction, not an energy deficiency—rather it is the opposite.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“In my experience anxiety is always the first to appear before depression. When the superfluous anticipation of future events becomes chronic, she can’t sustain a continuous adaptation response. The fight eventually begins to wane, as more bad perceptions of outcomes bring more focus on the bad, and finally she abandons any possibility of hope. As darkness settles in, her pain intensifies to keep the unthinkable from rising out of unconsciousness.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“The sympathetic nervous system eases down when we feel secure and safe and can wear our natural faces—relaxed, confident, aware, and healthier.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Early trauma—fear or separation anxiety—met with a freeze response due to helplessness—disrupts the ANS in a manner that causes it to
dramatically malfunction throughout life by over-functioning or under-
functioning—if the corrupted memories are never purged, or discharged.
Infant separation trauma can lead to over-sensitization, to colitis, skin
problems, allergies, mitral valve prolapse, irritable bladder, ulcers,
asthma, immune problems, and of course pain.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Every life experience and all creativity come from the clash of opposing forces—the collision of the energy of polar opposites. It’s healthy to laugh and it’s healthy to cry—the
brightest stars eventually become black holes—the good person without accountability becomes the evil one. Steroids take away skin redness, but if used too long, they redden the skin. The germaphobe cleans her hands to avoid germs, but cleaning too much destroys antibodies, allowing for infection. Lying down for a headache helps, but if you stay down too long it gives you a headache. The desire of total control results in the loss of all control. The greater the love you feel the deeper the pain of loss. If you help your child, she learns; if you do everything for her, she never learns…”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

The closest personality-type to that of the Type T would be the INFP— Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving. The TMSer can fall into any “type” but the more common symptom sufferers are the INFPs—the idealists. Generally:

 Hard-driven perfectionists with extremely high standards.
 Do not relax well.
 Tend to avoid conflict.
 Often unaware of their own needs.
 Reticent in expressing their emotions.
 Genuinely care for other people and are good listeners.
 Excellent problem solvers.
 Make loyal friends to others as confidants with true compassion.
 Their main goal in life is to make the world a better place.

These people are idealistic, self-sacrificing, and somewhat cool or reserved.
They are very family and home oriented, but don’t relax well. You find them in
psychology, architecture, and religion, but never in business. — C. George
Boeree, PhD”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“A Third Pillar: Letting Go - Forgiving

Here, I add a third pillar. Besides acquiring knowledge and acting on it, I would advise not only to stop obsessing about the body, but also to stop obsessing about the underlying reasons for the pain. Look, think, and ponder, but don't generate even more anger through the obsessive act of trying to find all the answers, perfectly. Relax, you are ok. The relentless search for anger generates more anger. It's not always vital to find out what precise separation was the culprit. Besides, the fear behind the rage could very well be life's stresses and rejections in general, and not one lone separation event. "

- S. Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception, page 24.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Anxiety is pushing ahead of the light—not having faith to wait for the light to unveil itself in real time—the attempt to thwart any future possible disaster by being pre-ready, pre-worried, and locked in survival mode. Planning may head off disaster but it usually breeds worry, because its foundation is anticipation— causing muscle contraction. Worrying about health destroys health because the focus remains on health. If we live only for today, our worries simply go away.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“A perception of danger engages the body for fight or flight—releasing the appropriate hormones. Remember, a perceived event has the same effect on the mindbody as a real event, the mindbody makes no distinction between real or imagined, even releasing the same neurotransmitters.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Pain does not come from having one leg longer than the other, or one hip higher than the other. Pain does not come from arthritis or herniated discs or bone warping. Pain comes from deep-seated unhappiness, monotony
through lack of purpose, and fear, which in turn further angers the sufferer, increasing pain.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“More generally, according to McKenzie, abandonment can be interpreted in many different ways by a child, but it always results in separation anxiety and guilt. He writes, “Thus the human infant is very sensitive and can be terrified or overwhelmed by what it experiences as a threat of separation from its mother. Not just the obvious separations such as the mother dying, but subtle ones such as the family moving to a new house, the birth of a sibling, or an older child getting sick and requiring all the mother’s attention for a period of time. And if there are five older siblings there is five times the chance of this happening. There are literally thousands of events that can cause the infant to experience a separation trauma and feel threatened—by physical OR emotional separation.”

A child in its greed for love does not enjoy having to share the affection of its parents with its brothers and sisters; and it notices that the whole of their affection is lavished upon it once more whenever it arouses their anxiety by falling ill. It has now discovered a means of enticing out its parents’ love and will make use of that means as soon as it has the necessary psychical material at its disposal for producing an illness.
— Sigmund Freud, Dora: An Analysis of a Case of Hysteria”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“A child’s life is like a blank piece of paper where everyone leaves a mark.
— Chinese proverb

Now—where do anxiety, depression, neurosis, anger, and perfection
originate? The deepest patterns of conditioning occur very early in life.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“I was finally calm and at peace. I had faced all that had happened to me and to Susan and now understood how I reacted to life. I was moving in real time, few emotions held in my body, no more
pushing ahead of the light for tomorrow—no more living ahead of today. I was now allowing life to evolve right in front of me as it happened. Mindfulness had saved my day…and my life.

…and the vicious cycle was BROKEN….”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse

“Whether it is a huge mistake, or a traumatic experience, deeper understanding often comes through suffering, as ego dissolves into the light of consciousness. Knowledge can be purchased at any corner bookstore, but you can’t buy understanding. Understanding comes through experience, and through relating knowledge to that experience. It is the valleys that make the mountains so towering; suffering that yields to compassion; death that
makes life so precious.”
― Steven Ray Ozanich, The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice Is Making Us Worse