Jon Frederickson > Quotes

“The kindest gift we can offer our loved ones is to own our projections and follow the advice we keep giving them. It is hard to sit in our feelings, so we export them onto others. We try to coerce people into being who we want them to be through explanations, instructions, or demands. The latent message remains the same: “My perception should be your reality!”
― Jon Frederickson, The Lies We Tell Ourselves: How to Face the Truth, Accept Yourself, and Create a Better Life

“Your task is to focus on his feelings and help him see and turn against his defenses. Lastly, in learning any treatment method, we make mistakes. Patients will nearly always forgive a mistake of the head, just not one of the heart.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques