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“Men will always treat you the way you allow them to. They cannot respect a woman more than she respects herself.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“They didn’t become great guys by choosing the easy road. So meeting a woman who has high standards only makes them more attracted to her. They love women who have strong personal boundaries and are confident enough to know what they want and demand it. High-quality men always respect women who do not tolerate manipulative games and have solid standards. Those standards need to be realistic, of course. Some women have impossible standards.   Both”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“Men love to work hard to get and help a woman they like (this final part being the crucial part). It’s been engrained in their instincts to want to take care of their woman. However, men hate it when a woman doesn’t hold her own, when she becomes dependent on him. Not financially, of course, but emotionally. He wants to know what you’re passionate about, what makes you tick, and what makes you love life. That’s why any man quickly gets bored of the nice girl who makes her life revolve around him.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“It does mean the better the guy you’re interested in is, the more it becomes important to let the guy do the chasing. Great men have enough women throwing themselves at their feet. The high-value woman is different. You are high value and can be picky too. He will sense that, and that’s what will trigger his initial attraction level.   So”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“Men lose attention when they feel secure, when they are sure you won’t leave. Take away this security whenever you want to increase his attraction.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“Players don’t like to play games. Silly as that sounds, players, narcissists, and most types of bad men search for weak prey—a woman they can control with the smallest possible investment from their side. They will not stick around the high-value woman because she’s too high maintenance for them.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“Instead of falling head over heels for him, she decides what she feels (oxytocin) are just feelings. Feelings come and go.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“Ignoring is the worst punishment you can give a child and even an adult. There’s a tribe in Africa where, instead of giving criminals the death penalty, they are to be ignored by everyone, as if they no longer exist. Nobody looks at them; nobody talks to them. It’s as if they became invisible ghosts. That’s worse than death.   Long”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“A relationship will always be based upon habits. If you create a habit where he doesn’t have to put in an effort at first, why would he change later? If sex is easy to get, why would he diligently work for it later? If he doesn’t need to treat you well, take you out, buy you flowers, put his best foot forward to get your attention and affection, why would he all of a sudden start doing this later?   Create the right habits as soon as you can.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“not. Dr. Robert Glover, a psychologist, has studied the behaviors of Nice Guys for a very long time, and he concludes that Nice Guys are actually not that nice. They manipulate the women they are with. They try to get something from them (affection, sex, love) by being nice to them. They’re not just nice to be nice; they want something in return.   Have”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“He needs to know he has worked for your love and attention. What is given too soon and freely seems cheap. Your love and attention are not cheap. So be careful on whom you spend it.   High-value”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“cognitive filter in our brain that sticks to the first image we get. That’s a cognitive distortion often called the first impression bias. As soon as we have created our first impression we set it in stone and start filtering out everything that proves our impression was right. All of the evidence against our first impression is automatically discarded.   Our brains do this to save energy. Since our brains use up a ton of energy, they have a lot of shortcuts to avoid using processing power whenever it’s not necessary. When you see a car, your brain doesn’t look back at that car to second-guess whether you were right or not. If it looks like a car, it is a car. We can make misjudgments because of this.   Did”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“him). She plays by her rules and doesn’t let them get clouded by her emotions.   Your emotions are never to be trusted. Countless times you’ve had fear, anger, or other negative emotions when they were not needed. I come from a background of panic attacks (I had them for fourteen years while growing up), so I know from firsthand experience how untrustworthy our emotions can be. If you let them rule your life, you’ll be living a severely limited life.   Her”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“She uses her emotional intelligence, looks at the long term, and asks herself, “If this guy never changed, would I really want to be with him ten or twenty years from now?” She is the one who’s still weighing all of his pros and cons.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“But if you’re ever in doubt, simply follow the golden rule. When a man doesn’t behave the way you want, withdraw and do what you would do if you found him less important.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“The high-value woman doesn’t ever let men have their way with her emotions, time, body, money, or career. And this is a boundary she strongly protects. Every boundary she bends or changes is only changed when he deserved it. It’s never given.   When a high-value woman is in a relationship with a high-value guy, they behave like a team. They both make concessions, but there’s always an equilibrium. Not a quid pro quo where every concession from her needs to be met by a concession from him. The relationship is always a win-win. Never a lose-win or even a win-lose. (She doesn’t want to dominate her guy either.)   The”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“He wants a strong woman, and this here is weak behavior. Men don’t walk away from a woman lightly. When they do, they have made up their mind. They want someone else, someone different, someone better than who you were during that relationship. The more you’d then start to push him, the more you will prove he made the right decision. He can get better.   That’s”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“If a man knows a woman finds him the most important anything in his life, he just got the green light to invest a minimum of his time and efforts into the relationship, and still keep all of the positive rewards like sex, companionship when needed and so on.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, Red Flags: How to know he’s playing games with you

“I don’t like it when you, because...” Instead of “Why do you never...” or “Why did you...” That’s pointing the finger and a sign of aggression. Assertiveness is all about “I,” not showing what the other person did wrong.   As”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“I’m not ready for this yet. You’ll need to pass a couple more tests first” with a big smile. This is flirty, playful, and will allow him to build up the anticipation and chase you harder. Most importantly, it will give you the time to really gauge his personality before being blinded by the oxytocin rush after having had sex with him.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“she thinks, “No, no. I choose me first. I need to enforce my boundaries. Even though I prefer not to lose him, this behavior is unacceptable. I’ll assertively state my needs. If he then makes that same mistake again, he’s out!”   Ignore him and withdraw whenever he does something you don’t like. If, however, he does something truly disrespectful, you should always state it and show you are ready to walk away, without bluffing…even after thirty-five years of marriage.   The”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“When someone with a borderline personality disorder feels bad -- and they can feel bad for any reason under the sun -- they feel so bad they want to explode. If you’re standing close and say anything at all that gives them a bad feeling on top of what they’re already experiencing, explode they will and the entire blast will be directed at you.   The most important takeaway is that it is not your fault. People with a borderline personality disorder have had some really negative experiences growing up, causing their personalities to be malformed. This is a true disorder, a true mental disease. People with this disorder will behave in ways that make absolutely no sense since their inner worlds are totally different than ours.   It’s not up to you to fix it. You cannot fix it.    The narcissist suffers from a similar disorder. He believes he is the center of the universe. What you might not know, however, is that his behavior stems from a well-covered fear of not being enough, of not being liked. A narcissist will manipulate you because he wants to feel important. Everything has to be his way; other people have to live up to his expectations. This guy will manipulate you and might”
― Brian Keephimattracted, 21 Traps You Need to Avoid in Dating & Relationships

“The queen, however, knows what she wants, understands exactly how she wants to be treated, and will not accept any bad behavior. Period. The men who mistakenly believe they can disrespect her get to spend the rest of their lives in the cold, dark, and moldy dungeon.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“And she shows this from the very first second they meet. She’ll be sassy in her responses when he teases her. She’ll be assertive and strict when he tries to push or play her. She’ll stop giving him attention altogether when he shows undesirable behavior.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“assertive, and sexy way, and state what’s important to you. Say, “Honey, it’s important to me that you _________.” Try to avoid saying, “Honey can you please _________” or “Honey why don’t you ever___________.” That would give him the power. You are not asking for his majesty’s approval. Simply state your instructions to him in a sexy but assertive way. It will do wonders, as you’ll see.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, 21 Traps You Need to Avoid in Dating & Relationships

“Any man she meets is on probation first, regardless of what her feelings tell her.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“She realizes her neediness simply comes from her natural instincts that have been programmed to “get a man and make babies” (even though she might be 40 or 60 and babies are the last thing on her rational mind). She knows this is just her primitive programming, and she surpasses that. She would love to be in a great relationship but not”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“It’s best to never spend time with a guy who’s not willing to put in some effort to get or keep you. That’s a game you will always lose and you can spare yourself a lot of heartache by cutting guys like that loose as fast as you can.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, Are You Scaring Him Away?: The Top 4 Reasons Why Men Lose Interest Quickly

“Another great strategy used by the high-value woman is to ask another man to help her with something. She asks her guy to do a certain chore, twice, without nagging. He doesn’t do it? Fine. “Hey John, I called my brother/colleague/friend to ask him over for dinner with his wife on Saturday. I told him about _______ that needs to get fixed, and he told me he was happy to look at it.” You can bet money on it that whatever needed fixing will be fixed before Saturday.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single

“Seeking his approval puts a ticking time bomb on his feelings and attraction toward a woman.”
― Brian Keephimattracted, F*CK Him! - Nice Girls Always Finish Single