Tina Swithin > Quotes

“They will often imagine non-existent criticism and will respond by shutting down and sulking or acting out in a rage. Any perceived attack or criticism of the narcissist is not dealt with in a healthy, normal way.  In his mind, you are either with him or against him and there is no gray area.”
― Tina Swithin, Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield

“From the beginning and in true narcissistic fashion, Seth was attracted to my free spirit and trusting nature. I was carefree and fun. He was socially awkward and boring. He literally fed off of my energy and emotions because he was incapable of his own.”
― Tina Swithin, Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield

“This is a time of self-discovery. When we suffer through years of emotional abuse at the hands of a narcissist, we tend to lose our identity. Many of us were married at such a young age that we never got to figure out who we were to begin with. I see life after the narcissist as blank walls that are ready to be painted and decorated. This is your life and you get to decide who you are, without someone telling you that your needs are silly or that your ideas are stupid. There is no one to tell you that the sky is purple when you know deep down that it really is blue. This is a time of self-reflection, self-acceptance and rebirth.”
― Tina Swithin, Divorcing a Narcissist: Rebuilding After The Storm

“I think narcissists look for people who shine very brightly. They look for a trophy. They see that as a source of power, validation for who they think they are. Yet once they have the "prize" they are so threatened by them or so afraid of losing them, that once the "honeymoon is over" think they must destroy them to fulfill and protect their own ego.”
― Tina Swithin, Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield