“This is a time of self-discovery. When we suffer through years of emotional abuse at the hands of a narcissist, we tend to lose our identity. Many of us were married at such a young age that we never got to figure out who we were to begin with. I see life after the narcissist as blank walls that are ready to be painted and decorated. This is your life and you get to decide who you are, without someone telling you that your needs are silly or that your ideas are stupid. There is no one to tell you that the sky is purple when you know deep down that it really is blue. This is a time of self-reflection, self-acceptance and rebirth.”