Charlie Houpert > Quotes

“In terms of inspiring people, your energy is more essential than your message.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“That’s what high energy does.  It amplifies everything.  Speak louder, gesticulate more, feel more alive than your audience.  That will amplify your message.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Remember, Steve Jobs didn’t promise that Apple’s next product would change the world.  Jobs said that he would change the world.  It didn’t matter if the vehicle was the Lisa, The Mac, or even Pixar Studios.  Any individual endeavor might fail, but he was 100% certain he would eventually achieve his goals.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Whoever controls the silence has the power.  When you can sit with it comfortably, people will go out of their way to agree, offer more information, or make small talk. Uncharismatic people fill that silence with backpedaling.  They make a request of someone and when they don’t get an immediate response, they say “But you don’t have to if you don’t want to.”  They pounce on the end of every sentence like they are in a race to finish their thought. Allow there to be silence after your requests.  Allow there to be silence after your sentences.  And most powerfully, allow there to be silence in…. The middle of your thoughts (see what I did there?)  It creates massive anticipation and draws people into your story.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Being polite at the expense of authenticity serves no one.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“The charismatic person is attractive because he is whole.  If you want to demonstrate charismatic qualities, don’t deny any aspect of yourself.  Don’t shy from the truth.  Live with integrity.  Do what amuses you.  Say what you think.  Share what you feel.  Don’t wait for anyone’s permission.  Don’t seek anyone’s validation.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Coach Wooden nailed it: “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Be the first to bring fun into a situation and you’re the charismatic leader.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charismatic Conviction 4: Charisma doesn’t convince”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“These microgestures are often called subcommunications.  They are transmitted and received subconsciously.  Which is why even though we may lie with our words, we shout the truth with our bodies.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“What you are and how you present yourself BOTH matter.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“By reusing jokes, you train yourself to alter them in ways that are unique to you, developing your own natural sense of humor.”
― Charlie Houpert, Captivate: Conversational Secrets To Be Instantly Likeable, Make Unforgettable Impressions, And Never Run Out Of Things To Say

“If you ever think or say anything nice about someone, make sure they know.  People can’t read your mind.  Make a call, send a text, leave a comment –”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charisma = Conviction + Energy + Presentation”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Today I will do what others won't, so tomorrow I can accomplish what others can't.” - Jerry Rice”
― Charlie Houpert, Attract Women: The Anti Pick Up Line:

“It might seem counterintuitive, but bringing conflicts to light is the charismatic thing to do.  Have the courage to call out when there is tension beneath the surface of an interaction. Let people know when they transgress boundaries, even when you want their favor.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“The second mode of conversation is fun.  It includes joking, messing around, and everything where the goal is to spread laughter.”
― Charlie Houpert, Captivate: Conversational Secrets To Be Instantly Likeable, Make Unforgettable Impressions, And Never Run Out Of Things To Say

“Instead, find the angle that supports other people.  Make the subtext of your jokes point to positive traits (“Does it hurt having a brain so big?” is nicer than “God you’re a moron.”)  Whether the tone is serious or goofy, always frame others in the best light possible.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charisma. It is the quality that makes us like someone.  That makes us want them to like us back.  It makes us want to follow them.  To trust them implicitly.  It is that feeling when someone walks into a room and you can’t take your eyes off them.  It is the ”X-factor.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“What people really want is simple: to connect.  Help them feel something and you’ll be welcome everywhere.”
― Charlie Houpert, Captivate: Conversational Secrets To Be Instantly Likeable, Make Unforgettable Impressions, And Never Run Out Of Things To Say

“Find a purpose that fires you up.  Make it bigger than you.  Share it.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Becoming a good conversationalist is all about developing good conversational habits.  Habits that show who you are in an engaging way and encourage the other person to do the same.”
― Charlie Houpert, Captivate: Conversational Secrets To Be Instantly Likeable, Make Unforgettable Impressions, And Never Run Out Of Things To Say

“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” - John Wooden”
― Charlie Houpert, Attract Women: The Anti Pick Up Line:

“The best conversationalists don’t just engage on the literal, surface level of conversation.  They listen instead to tonality, pay attention to eye contact, note shifts in body language.”
― Charlie Houpert, Captivate: Conversational Secrets To Be Instantly Likeable, Make Unforgettable Impressions, And Never Run Out Of Things To Say

“People may not care enough about you in the opening minutes of conversation to listen to your life story or even remember your name, but they are certainly available to laugh with you.”
― Charlie Houpert, Captivate: Conversational Secrets To Be Instantly Likeable, Make Unforgettable Impressions, And Never Run Out Of Things To Say

“You need to connect with people.  You need people to like you.  And you need to like them back.  If you don’t, it doesn’t matter how many boxes you check.  You’re going to come up short in success, happiness, and fulfillment.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“And the riskiest, but highest reward situations: be the first to bring up the subjects of money, relationships or sex.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Build conviction in everything you do and people will respect, support, and believe in you.  Conviction is mind control.  Conviction is magic.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Keep your messages uplifting and positive and people will be drawn to you.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Show people that you can read past the surface level of their responses (in a humorous way) and they will laugh and share their honest feelings”
― Charlie Houpert, Captivate: Conversational Secrets To Be Instantly Likeable, Make Unforgettable Impressions, And Never Run Out Of Things To Say