Lidiya K. > Quotes

“Your life looks like a prison because you focus on the things you wish you had and thus don’t appreciate what you already have.
So why don’t you try to see the abundance in your life? Because, if you haven’t noticed, you’ve got many things to thank for. Just look around.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“Every place you don’t want to be at feels like a prison. And we have so many desires, expectations and go back to the past and think about the future so often, that I can safely say that we live in such a prison all the time.
So each time you wish you were somewhere else right now is another solid wall you build and thus make this imaginary building even stronger.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“Everything real is in the present moment. Only here can we find happiness and harmony, feel alive and do something that will change our future. Only here can we be with the people we love, enjoy the things we like and see beautiful places.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“I’ve noticed that most of us don’t realize how important this moment is. They take it for granted, know it’s brief and think that it can’t change anything. But I think it can change it all.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“Often we suffer because we don’t realize what’s essential.
We may want to be rich, but the rich are lonely.
We see all those people on TV that have won the lottery and want to be at their place, but studies show that they are even more miserable after having won the big check. They don’t really know what to do with all that money, take poor decisions on how to spend them, change themselves and their friends don’t see them in the same way.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“There’s a void inside most people.
It’s been created by not being contented with who we are, not being happy with what we have, not being present and looking for something more, better, more exciting out there.
And we’ve always been trying to fill this void with something external.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“Most of the pain we experience, whether we realize it or not, comes from the fantasies we live in.
We create our own worlds, where there are certain rules, things to be done and said and events to happen. And every time that doesn’t go according to the plan (which, basically, means anything because we have no control over what might happen and can’t predict it), we panic.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“Kids want to be grown ups, adults want to be young and careless again.
Single people desperately want a relationship, but those who are in one still complain almost all the time and wish for freedom.
The poor want money, the rich want more of it.
This means that changing your situation doesn’t prevent you from suffering, doesn’t make your desires go away.
So you need to change something on the inside.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“No ideals. No illusions. Just reality - but more perfect than you’ve ever imagined. That’s what being mindful and living in the present means.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“A big part of personal growth is defining how your zone of comfort looks and finding ways to break free from it. That usually happens by trying new stuff, doing things you’re afraid of and challenging yourself by consciously putting yourself in new (possibly uncomfortable) situations. But with a phone in your hand, your comfort zone also becomes mobile and it’s just a locked screen away. The only way out is to ditch your phone for certain times of the day, to limit social media usage, build new habits, or completely unplug for some time to breathe freely and live life. There are more symptoms of social media networking obsession that you might have noticed or experienced yourself.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“Accept yourself for the person you are, for all the mistakes you did and also for the transformation you’re about to experience in the future. Love your future version from this moment.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“When using social media with limits, though, it can serve as an information source and be practical if you only open up networks with that in mind, check the news in the right places, and leave. But in this case, it means learning things from someone you barely know and seeing his ridiculous opinion on it, which is something you didn’t really need.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“Our heads are full of comparisons, needs for approval and attention, a desire to be at other places, imagining things could be better there and thus hating our reality.
We are the only ones to blame for our own suffering.
We hurt ourselves every time we think of how other people should behave according to our standards and then suffer when they appear to be individuals; every time we open a book with so many expectations about it from what we’ve heard and hoped it to be, and then close it in disappointment, realizing it’s something totally different (maybe beautiful, inspiring and challenging, but nothing that met our expectations).”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“FOMO is one of the main reasons why people join other social media platforms. You’ll constantly be prompted to get on Instagram and that can happen with a few clicks once you’re on Facebook. You’ll be notified when your friends are there, and when they post their first story or photo. All that makes you feel like you’re left behind. So you join. You post. You then want more followers. Start using hashtags. Start receiving messages on yet another channel. And add that to your social media rituals that happen a few times daily, which makes the time spent in such activities even longer. So, less attention for anything else, such as spending time with family, learning things, being outside, having hobbies, reading, planning your future, or just enjoying the silence and relaxing.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“No person that has ever felt the benefits of being present can consider himself a victim, or unhappy in any way.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“Life is a series of such moments. And making each one matter means you’re living your life to the fullest.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“You have the ability to choose what you focus on.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“What makes the social media effect even stronger and more personal, is that all our friends are there, and we feel like we’re missing out. Guess what? In any minute there are 347,222 tweets, 31.25 million messages are sent on Facebook, 48,611 photos posted on Instagram, and 300 hours of video uploaded on YouTube. (Source) These shocking numbers are what the active social media user has to live with daily, knowing how much he’s missing out. That’s insane, but it also leads to real conditions called information overload and the fear of missing out.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“Here are some examples of excessive use of social networking sites. There was this guy who fell for online dating so much, that it became his zone of comfort. He boosted his confidence, became a better communicator, knew what works and what doesn’t. Even kept interacting with girls for weeks and grabbed their attention with every word, while still playing it casual. But he never went on a real date. That’s because when you meet someone in person, you don’t have a screen between you two and that makes you vulnerable. It’s because you don’t always look your best and can’t choose a ‘profile picture’ that suits your mood. Because you’ll be asked questions you won’t expect, and wouldn’t have the time to pretend like you’re not on the phone and think of the best possible answer before replying. So, your image can be ruined, although it was never the real you in the first place.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“Mindfulness helps you understand that the past is gone, can’t be changed and all the lessons are already learned.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“We lose self-control. It’s easy to slip back into some routines without realizing. That could be checking Facebook first thing in the morning, while still in bed. The first thoughts we feed our mind with, though, are crucial to what mood we’ll be in for the day. Ultimately, how we start our days shapes who we become and what our life looks like. If each new day begins by scrolling down a feed just because it’s something you’re used to and do effortlessly, then you end up watching a video or a few without wanting to. You see an old relative inviting you to play a game, someone from college posting details about their life that they could have kept for themselves, another guy you barely know sharing photos from their holiday, and much more. Does it feel right to let these people in your head, overwhelm yourself with that unnecessary information, and even let your brain start comparing your situation with theirs? No. That’s time-wasting and harmful for many reasons.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“Looking at digital influencers, often at the beach or another luxurious destination in the background, sipping cocktails, or seeing them smiling with their families, shopping, looking good and confident, you realize that you don’t have any of that. Or at least not in the same way. You not just start comparing but also focusing on what’s missing in your life. Over time, you feel a void inside, that was never there before. But here’s the thing. This void is imaginary. It came to be because you let your guard down and allowed something to influence your brain. It turned out to be a well-thought-out tool for changing your whole life, but without your role in it.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“Turns out, peer pressure is even more big of a deal on social networks, than it is in real life. So, a parent can no longer be calm knowing their kid has good friends and environment, simply because all the bad influences get to its head right in front of the screen, before bed, during school breaks, or at any other moment of the day. That begins the moment you buy it a smartphone without setting some limits.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“What Science Says Researchers have found that social media - or using Facebook and Twitter in particular - is more addictive than cigarettes and alcohol.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“One of the reasons for not being contented is our inability to accept things as they are, together with ourselves, other people, events and every little detail of our days.
And we try to change the unchangeable and control the uncontrollable.”
― Lidiya K., This Moment

“It might look like a good thing if you go to a restaurant because you saw many friends recommend it on Facebook. Or when you made a purchase because of what an Instagram influencer said about a brand. One week you liked a page because someone invited you and from then on you started being exposed to their messages too. Then, you read a scary tweet about how something we all do daily might be harmful and started making plans on how to break the habit without doing your own research.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide

“Regardless of how okay with yourself you are, and even though you might have goals and are eager to achieve them, too many posts of a particular type will make you rethink all that and ask yourself if you’re even happy at all. There’s some social media content that is unhealthy to consume. That’s the body images of people who seem perfect in every possible way. When the whole Internet is talking about them, there are at least thousands of comments on their posts and your friends are even re-sharing some of that, you can't help but wonder if that’s how everyone should be.”
― Lidiya K., Quitting Social Media: The Social Media Cleanse Guide