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“關於嫉妒，之後雖然會再提，但可以先告訴大家的是：心存嫉妒的人根本沒有愛。哲學家三木清認為，這類「謀略式」的技術（《人生論筆記》）”
― 岸見一郎, 為愛徬徨的勇氣: 阿德勒的幸福方法論

“我很希望在我年輕時就看過這本書，那麼也許我會更懂得，什麼叫做：不用辛苦地活在別人的期待裡。我又十分慶幸，在已經經歷一陣工作的洗練後，看了這本書，它啟發我：如何選擇與決定自己的未來。我想在更年長時，我還會再翻閱這本書，也許那時更能理解：原來接受「被討厭」，也是一種人生的豁達。”
― 岸見一郎, 被討厭的勇氣: 自我啟發之父「阿德勒」的教導

“哲人　たしかに世の親たちは、頻繁に「あなたのためを思って」という言葉を使います。しかし、親たちは明らかに自分の目的——それは世間体や見栄かもしれませんし、支配欲かもしれません——を満たすために動いています。つまり、「あなたのため」ではなく「わたしのため」であり、その欺瞞を察知するからこそ、子どもは反発するのです。”
― 岸見 一郎, 嫌われる勇気

“所謂的人生，就像一圈又一圈跳著舞，跳著的每一個瞬間，成為一連串的剎那。然後當你回過神一看，才會發現：「啊！我已經來到了這裡！」”
― 岸見一郎, 被討厭的勇氣: 自我啟發之父「阿德勒」的教導

“「被討厭的勇氣」並不是要去吸引被討厭的負向能量，而是，如果這是我生命想活出的核心渴望，那麼，即使有被討厭的可能，我都要用自己的雙手雙腳往那裡走去。真摯地祝福，打從心底想創造美好的你。”
― 岸見一郎, 被討厭的勇氣: 自我啟發之父「阿德勒」的教導

“I have a young friend who dreams of becoming a novelist, but he never seems to be able to complete his work. According to him, his job keeps him too busy, and he can never find enough time to write novels, and that's why he can't complete work and enter it for writing awards. But is that the real reason? No! It's actually that he wants to leave the possibility of "I can do it if I try" open, by not committing to anything. He doesn't want to expose his work to criticism, and he certainly doesn't want to face the reality that he might produce an inferior piece of writing and face rejection. He wants to live inside that realm of possibilities, where he can say that he could do it if he only had the time, or that he could write if he just had the proper environment, and that he really does have the talent for it. In another five or ten years, he will probably start using another excuses like "I'm not young anymore" or "I've got a family to think about now”
― 岸見 一郎, 嫌われる勇気