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At the close of Paul’s first letter to the Thessalonians, he offers a series of short, urgent commands that call believers to a steady rhythm of communion with God. Among them is the well‑known instruction: “In everything give thanks.” Jerry Bridges once observed that we “are anxious to receive but too careless to give thanks. We pray for God’s intervention in our lives, then congratulate ourselves rather than God for the results.” Because of this tendency, we must cultivate the discipline of thankful prayer. Scripture shows that a life marked by gratitude brings rich spiritual benefits. Consider six of them.

1. Thankful prayer reminds us that God is our provider (1 Tim. 4:4–5).
Scripture teaches that all food—and everything necessary for life—is a gift from God. Paul explains that everything created by God is good and should be received with gratitude. Jesus modeled this when He gave thanks before distributing the loaves and fish (John 6:11). Moses likewise urged Israel to bless the Lord when they entered the Promised Land and enjoyed its abundance (Deut. 8:10). When I taught in the former Soviet Union, believers who not only prayed before meals but also stood to give thanks again after everyone finished eating deeply moved me. This simple practice reinforced their daily dependence on the Lord. Thankful prayer keeps us mindful that God alone provides what we need and that every good gift is reason for praise.

2. Thankful prayer brings glory to God (2 Cor. 9:12–15).
One purpose of Paul’s second letter to the Corinthians was to encourage them to complete their financial commitment to support the work of the gospel. False teachers had cast suspicion on Paul, claiming he ministered for personal gain, and their influence had squelched the church’s generosity. Paul pointed them to the Macedonian believers, whose sacrificial giving had produced “many thanksgivings to God.” When Christians give generously out of love for Christ and His people, the result is a chorus of gratitude directed to God. Needs are met, hearts are encouraged, and God receives glory. Thankful prayer ensures that when God provides—whether through others or directly—our first response is heartfelt praise.

3. Thankful prayer shows we are filled with the Spirit (Eph. 5:18–20).
Paul contrasts being filled with wine, which leads to a lack of control, with being filled with the Spirit, which leads to joyful obedience. To be Spirit‑filled is to live under His influence through submission to Scripture. When this is true, believers express worship to one another in psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, and they give thanks “for all things” in the name of the Lord Jesus. A thankful heart is one of the clearest evidences of the Spirit’s active work. Gratitude reveals humility, contentment, and trust—all qualities produced by the Spirit as we walk with Him.

4. Thankful prayer combats anxiety and invites peace (Phil. 4:6–7).
Paul tells us to bring everything to God in prayer “with thanksgiving.” This is not a decorative phrase or a cheap add-on, but a spiritual strategy. Anxiety and gratitude cannot coexist. Thankfulness reorients our hearts toward God’s character, reminding us of His past faithfulness and His present care. As we pray with thanksgiving, Paul says, “the peace of God” stands guard over our hearts and minds like a sentry at the door. Colossians 4:2 echoes this: “Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving.” Thankfulness does not make our problems disappear, but it drives out the frantic worry that tries to control our hearts and replaces it with settled trust in God’s sovereignty and goodness.

5. Thankful prayer reminds us of the fact that Christ alone qualifies us as God’s children (Col. 1:12).
Paul prayed that the believers in Colossae would continually give thanks to the Father who had qualified them to share in the inheritance of the saints. We do not come to God in prayer because of our moral performance or spiritual achievements. We come because Jesus, our Mediator, intercedes for us (1 Tim. 2:5; Heb. 7:25; 1 John 2:1). Thankfulness guards us from the subtle pride that imagines God owes us His attention. When we pray with gratitude, we remember that we approach the throne of grace only through Christ’s righteousness, Christ’s sacrifice, and Christ’s ongoing intercession. This keeps our hearts humble and our prayers filled with worship.

6. Thankful prayer recognizes God as our strength (1 Tim. 1:12).
Paul knew what it meant to be weak. His “thorn in the flesh,” whatever its exact nature, was permitted by God to cultivate humility and dependence. Satan meant it to harm him, but God used it to teach Paul that His power is made perfect in weakness. Along with this personal struggle, Paul endured crushing ministry hardships: affliction, perplexity, persecution, and physical suffering (2 Cor. 4:8–10). Yet he did not grow bitter. Instead, he thanked Christ for strengthening him and placing him into service (1 Tim. 1:12). Thankfulness acknowledges that every step of endurance, every moment of obedience, and every act of perseverance is sustained by God’s strength, not our own.

A lifestyle of habitual thankfulness in prayer is God’s will for every believer, but these commands were first given to a local church. Gratitude should not only mark individual Christians; it should shape entire congregations. Families and churches that pray regularly—and give thanks—become communities marked by trust, unity, and joy. As we cultivate this habit together, we bear witness to the world that our confidence is in the God who provides, sustains, and strengthens His people.

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We were born into a world that God cursed when humanity first sinned against him in the garden of Eden (Gen. 3:17). As a result, we groan. We groan because life hurts badly—sometimes with unspeakable sorrows. But, unlike those who do not know Jesus, we groan with hope. We groan while we wait for the ultimate day of redemption when “the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption” (Rom. 8:21). We groan as our hearts ache for the day when Jesus will make “all things new” (Rev. 21:5). Until then, suffering is guaranteed.

In this post, I’ll offer both 6-session and 12-session sample plans rooted in biblical truth to help you walk alongside someone walking through a season of suffering—or to use for yourself. But first, let’s revisit the purpose of each element of a Personal Growth Assignment (PGA), and how to use them most effectively. (If you missed my introductory post explaining the “why” behind PGAs, I encourage you to read that first.)

These assignments help us learn not only to accept suffering but to embrace it as one of the primary tools that God uses to work out our sanctification in Christ and to appreciate God’s loving presence and care throughout our lives.

Three Core Elements of Effective PGAs

Each PGA should typically include the following elements:

1. Engage with the Word

This is the most essential component. Our aim is to minister to the heart by nurturing a habit of meditation on Scripture. God’s Word—His revealed mind in written form—is the Spirit’s primary instrument to renew the mind and transform the heart (1 Cor. 2:11–16; 2 Cor. 3:18). Encourage Scripture memorization to keep God’s truth close throughout the day. When assigning a passage for meditation, offer a few journal prompts to help the person engage meaningfully with the text. For example:

What does this passage reveal about God? Which of His attributes or works speak most directly to your current struggle?What does this passage reveal about you? Are there weaknesses, sins, or trials that hinder a trusting response to God?What affections of your heart are challenged by this passage? Are there desires the Spirit wants to change in you?What thoughts or behaviors need confession, and where do you need God’s help for change?2. Invite More Counsel

The second element introduces trusted biblical voices through carefully chosen resources—books, articles, sermons, podcasts, or videos. In a noisy world, it’s vital to point people toward biblically sound and soul-stabilizing content (Titus 2:1–6; Prov. 27:17). When you “bring another counselor into the room,” ask the person to interact with the resource actively—highlighting meaningful sentences and journaling personal takeaways. Links to recommended resources appear at the end of this post.

3. Put Feet to Faith

Spiritual growth isn’t just about learning; it’s about living. While renewing the mind is foundational, it must lead to changed actions (James 1:22–25). This third element invites the person to take a specific step of obedience based on what they’re learning.

That step might be:

Developing a new habit,Writing a prayer based on a Scripture meditation,Or having a hard but needed conversation.

Instead of assigning this yourself, consider asking: “What is one way you can apply this truth to your life this week?”

You may choose to meet weekly or biweekly. Remember, counseling is simply intentional discipleship shaped by someone’s specific needs and context. Keeping that in mind will help you avoid a one-size-fits-all approach.

Sample Plans for Hope in Suffering6-Session Plan#Engage with the WordMemorizeInvite More CounselPut Feet to Faith1Read Psalm 46 slowly at least four times this week. Journal about the character and promises of God, threats to peace, and life situations that match your own.Psalm 46:1Read The Most Encouraging Promise in the Bible by Armand Tiffe. Highlight meaningful sentences. Be ready to share 5–10 highlights.Begin a “My God Is…” list in your journal, based on Psalm 46 (e.g., “My God is a refuge,” “My God is ever-present”).21 Peter 11 Peter 1:6-9 (one verse at a time, building from week to week)Read Help! I Can’t Handle All These Trials by Joel James (Intro & Ch. 1).Complete one or two of the Practical Application Projects at the back of the booklet.31 Peter 21 Peter 1:6-9Read Help! I Can’t Handle All These Trials, Ch. 2Complete one or two of the Practical Application Projects at the back of the booklet.41 Peter 31 Peter 1:6-9Read Help! I Can’t Handle All These Trials, Ch. 3Complete one or two of the Practical Application Projects at the back of the booklet.51 Peter 41 Peter 1:6-9Read Help! I Can’t Handle All These Trials, Ch. 4Complete one or two of the Practical Application Projects at the back of the booklet.61 Peter 51 Peter 1:6-9Reflect on the lessons learned from 1 Peter.Create a list of biblical truths that will help to strengthen you in times of suffering, both now and in the future. Write a prayer of trust in the Lord in your suffering.Optional Continuation: 6 Additional Sessions#Engage with the WordMemorizeInvite More CounselPut Feet to Faith7–12Read James, one chapter per week. Journal about the promises of God you can hold on to in times of suffering, as well as the benefits of suffering to grow your faith and sanctify your heart.James 1:2-4Read 5 chapters per week from Hope: Living Confidently in God by John Crotts.Reflect on the questions at the end of each chapter.

FOR COUNSELING TEENS: Check out the Lifeline Mini-Books for Teens

SMALL GROUP SUGGESTION: Work through the books of 1 Peter and James. Also use Trusting God by Jerry Bridges, one chapter at a time, using the group discussion guide in the back.

Final Thoughts

These plans are flexible and meant to get you started. As you gain more experience in discipleship counseling, you’ll grow in the ability to tailor assignments based on each person’s unique context and needs. But for now, use these suggestions as a helpful framework.

Mentioned Resources:

The Most Encouraging Promise in the Bible – Armand TiffeHelp! I Can’t Handle All these Trials – Joel JamesHope: Living Confidently in God (31-day devotional) – John CrottsTrusting God – Jerry BridgesLifeline Mini-Books for Teens – Shepherd Press

More recommended resources for suffering and trials may be found here.

The above resources are available from many online bookstores, such as Biblical Counseling Books, WTSBooks, and others. If you are in Canada, shop at Reformed Book Services.

Download a PDF of this plan.

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This morning, these words from Jerry Bridges helped my heart move toward trust.

It’s difficult to believe God is in control when we’re in the midst of heartache or grief. I’ve struggled with this many times myself. Each time I’ve had to decide if I would trust Him, even when my heart ached. I realized anew that we must learn to trust God one circumstance at a time.

It’s not a matter of my feelings but of my will. I never feel like trusting God when adversity strikes, but I can choose to do so anyway. That act of the will must be based on belief, and belief must be based on the truth that God is sovereign. He carries out His own good purposes without ever being thwarted, and nothing is outside of His sovereign will. We must cling to this in the face of adversity and tragedy, if we’re to glorify God by trusting Him.

I’ll say this as gently and compassionately as I know how: Our first priority in adversity is to honor and glorify God by trusting Him. Gaining relief from our feelings of heartache or disappointment or frustration is a natural desire, and God has promised to give us grace sufficient for our trials and peace for our anxieties (2 Corinthians 12:9; Philippians 4:6-7). But just as God’s will is to take precedence over our will (“Yet not as I will, but as you will” — Matthew 26:39), so God’s honor is to take precedence over our feelings. We honor God by choosing to trust Him when we don’t understand what He is doing or why He has allowed some adverse circumstance to occur. As we seek God’s glory, we may be sure He has purposed our good and that He won’t be frustrated in fulfilling that purpose.

Excerpted from Holiness Day by Day, page 246.

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The Lord will save me, and we will play my music on stringed instruments all the days of our lives, at the house of the Lord. – Isaiah 38:20

Hezekiah, one of the kings of Israel in Isa­iah’s day, was thirty-nine years old when he heard the diagnosis terminal illness. The prophet Isaiah delivered the sad news. “Set your house in order,” he said, “for you shall die, you shall not recover” (Isaiah 38:1). But the king wasn’t ready to die. He wanted more time. So, he pleaded with the Lord. God answered, “I have heard your prayer; I have seen your tears,” and God graciously gave him fifteen more years.

To encourage him even more, the Lord turned back the sun, ten steps on the dial, to symbolize how he had turned back the clock on the king’s life (Isaiah 38:1–8). When he recov­ered, Hezekiah wrote a poem (Isaiah 38:9–20). From his poem, you can learn more about how to cry out to God in lament and praise.

Complain to God, not about God

You may honestly voice your thoughts, fears, and disappointments to God. In raw honesty, the Bible records the king’s first re­sponse to the bad news. He was in the prime of life: “In the middle of my days I must depart!” He would not see God’s promise to return Is­rael to their land: “I shall not see the Lord . . . in the land of the living.” He felt like his home was a shepherd’s tent about to be “plucked up and removed.” His life had become a mere weaver’s cloth to be rolled up and carried away. Like a lion, God was breaking the king’s bones. As a result, he moaned like a dove. Like an in­jured bird, he chirped. But his complaining was directed to the right person: “O Lord, I am oppressed; be my pledge of safety!” (Isaiah 38:10–14).

Complaining about God, impugning his character, is sin. But Hezekiah shows us that complaining to God about your hurt, expressing the pain of your sorrow, can be an act of faith. It is a God-given means for you to grieve your loss, to walk through your valley with God. So, allow your heart and faith to be refined by suffering.

In bitterness of soul (Hezekiah 38:15), the king interacted with God. This bitterness is not stubborn resentment or rebellion against God, or a refusal to forgive others, of which a true believer in Christ must repent (Ephesians 4:31; Hebrews 12:15). It is bitterness of soul, the inner pain resulting from prolonged, multi-layered suffering which becomes oppressive. It is what Proverbs 14:10 speaks of, “The heart knows its own bitterness, and no stranger shares its joy.” This is what Hezekiah felt.

Look at Your Suffering Through the Lens of God’s Love

However, in time, the king came to realize that his illness was a gift. It was for his spiri­tual well-being: “Behold, it was for my welfare that I had great bitterness” (Isaiah 38:17). His health challenge was from God, given “in love,” in order that he might know more deeply the deliverance of God’s salvation. Infinitely more important than deliverance from death is God’s salvation from sin: “for you have cast all my sins behind your back.” The king needed to recog­nize this. For this reason, his poem ends with a confession of faith: “The Lord will save me, and we will play my music on stringed instru­ments all the days of our lives, at the house of the Lord.”

Who are you talking to about your strug­gles? You may want to read Hezekiah’s story in Isaiah 38 and then reread this meditation.

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About three years ago, the idea for a new children’s book series began to take shape in my heart—Pictures of Gospel Grace. My hope for this series is simple but profound: to help children see how God’s saving grace runs throughout the Bible, even in the lesser-known stories. Each book is designed to point little hearts to the greatest act of love and mercy ever shown—the redemption accomplished by Jesus Christ.

The first book, Dinner with the King, released last year and was warmly received. I’ve been encouraged by the many parents, grandparents, and teachers who’ve shared how much their children love the story of Mephibosheth and how it’s helping them grasp the kindness of God.

That’s why I’m thrilled to announce that book two is almost here! It will release next week, and it’s available now for pre-order (see links below). Pre-ordering at 30–40% off not only gives you early access, but it also helps spread the word and support the mission of this series.

If you’re excited to place another Christ-centered story into the hands of the next generation, would you consider pre-ordering—and maybe even sharing it with a friend? Thank you for being part of this journey with me.

The Best Bath Ever

In this second book of the series, the grace of Jesus shines through the story of a proud military commander named Naaman—who also happens to have leprosy. Though Naaman appears to have it all, he has a much bigger problem, one that goes deeper than his skin! With fun illustrations and a rich biblical message, this story helps kids ages 5–9 grasp an important truth: God’s grace can change any heart and help us listen and obey.

Endorsements

“There are never enough ways to convey the grace of God to children, and that’s why I’m so excited about Pictures of Gospel Grace. This marvelous series is a great way to tell the story of God’s favor and mercy over and over again to young readers!”

—Joni Eareckson Tada, Founder, Joni and Friends International Disability Center

“In a creative and biblical way, The Best Bath Ever! engages with a child’s understanding of their need to be washed clean on the outside to explain an even greater truth – the need to be washed clean by Jesus on the inside. It will give parents a helpful launching point for gospel conversations with their little ones.”

—Jeff and Sarah Walton, Authors, Together Through the Storms

“Paul Tautges captures hearts with the story of Naaman, pointing children to the life-changing power of God’s grace! Full of warmth and gospel truth, this book is one you’ll reach for again and again, as it joyfully celebrates the cleansing and forgiveness Christ offers to all who call on him.”

—Tedd and Margy Tripp, Authors and Conference Speakers

PRE-ORDER HEREWestminster KidsCumberland Valley Bible & Book ServiceBC BooksIn Canada: Reformed Book Service

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Here’s another recommended Resource List as you minister grace and truth. There are many more list links in the right-hand margin of this homepage.

BOOKS/BOOKLETS

“Freedom of the Will or Bondage of the Will?” – (Chapter on gambling) in Decisions, Decisions: Seeking God’s Guidance (Dave Swavely_Hope & Help for Gambling (Mark Shaw)MONEY: Seeking God’s Wisdom, 31-day devotional (Jim Newheiser)Money, Debt, and Finances (Jim Newheiser)

ONLINE RESOURCES

A Biblical Look at Gambling (Focus on the Family)Casino Culture and the Collapse of Character (Albert Mohler)Dangerous Dollars (David Murray)Freedom That Lasts (Truth in Love podcast episode with Ben Marshall)Gambling vs. Stewardship (John MacArthur)On the Harmful and Predatory Nature of Sports Betting (SBC resolution)Should Christians Bet on Sports? (John Piper)Silent Killers and Silent Christians (Kevin DeYoung)Smartphone Gambling Is a Disaster (American Institute for Boys and Men)The Sports Betting House Always Wins. Who Loses? We Do (TGC)What Does the Bible Say about Gambling (Got Questions)When the Accounts Are Called: A Christian Understanding of Gambling (Al Mohler)Why Is Gambling Wrong? (John Piper)

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Here’s another recommended Resource List as you minister grace and truth. There are many more list links in the right-hand margin of this homepage.

BOOKS/BOOKLETS

“Freedom of the Will or Bondage of the Will?” – (Chapter on gambling) in Decisions, Decisions: Seeking God’s Guidance (Dave Swavely_Hope & Help for Gambling (Mark Shaw)MONEY: Seeking God’s Wisdom, 31-day devotional (Jim Newheiser)Money, Debt, and Finances (Jim Newheiser)

ONLINE RESOURCES

A Biblical Look at Gambling (Focus on the Family)Dangerous Dollars (David Murray)Freedom That Lasts (Ben Marshall)Gambling vs. Stewardship (John MacArthur)Should Christians Bet on Sports? (John Piper)Why Is Gambling Wrong? (John Piper)What Does the Bible Say about Gambling (Got Questions)

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Pornography is the #1 sin-plague of our day. According to Covenant Eyes, an average of 61% of the general population views pornography regularly (78% of men and 44% of women). We could wish this were only true outside of the Christian church, but sadly, that is not the case. Therefore, believers must be equipped to come alongside one another in the pursuit of holiness in the fear of the Lord.

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor.

1 Thessalonians 4:3–4

In this post, I’ll offer both 8-session and 16-session sample plans rooted in biblical truth to help you walk alongside others who are battling sexual sin. You may especially find it helpful to work through these in a small group setting. But first, let’s revisit the purpose of each element of a Personal Growth Assignment (PGA) and how to use them most effectively. (If you missed my introductory post explaining the “why” behind PGAs, I encourage you to read that first.)

Three Core Elements of Effective PGAs

Each PGA should typically include the following elements:

1. Engage with the Word

This is the most essential component. Our aim is to minister to the heart by nurturing a habit of meditation on Scripture. God’s Word—His revealed mind in written form—is the Spirit’s primary instrument to renew the mind and transform the heart (1 Cor. 2:11–16; 2 Cor. 3:18). Encourage Scripture memorization to keep God’s truth close throughout the day. When assigning a passage for meditation, offer a few journal prompts to help the person engage meaningfully with the text. For example:

What does this passage reveal about God? Which of His attributes or works speak most directly to your current struggle?What does this passage reveal about you? Are there weaknesses, sins, or trials that hinder a trusting response to God?What affections of your heart are challenged by this passage? Are there desires the Spirit wants to change in you?What thoughts or behaviors need confession, and where do you need God’s help for change?2. Invite More Counsel

The second element introduces trusted biblical voices through carefully chosen resources—books, articles, sermons, podcasts, or videos. In a noisy world, it’s vital to point people toward biblically sound and soul-stabilizing content (Titus 2:1–6; Prov. 27:17). When you “bring another counselor into the room,” ask the person to interact with the resource actively highlighting meaningful sentences and journaling personal takeaways. Links to recommended resources appear at the end of this post.

3. Put Feet to Faith

Spiritual growth isn’t just about learning, it’s about living. While renewing the mind is foundational, it must lead to changed actions (James 1:22–25). This third element invites the person to take a specific step of obedience based on what they’re learning.

That step might be:

Developing a new habit,Writing a prayer based on a Scripture meditation,Or having a hard but needed conversation.

Instead of assigning this yourself, consider asking: “What is one way you can apply this truth to your life this week?”

You may choose to meet weekly or biweekly. Remember, counseling is simply intentional discipleship shaped by someone’s specific needs and context. Keeping that in mind will help you avoid a one-size-fits-all approach.

Sample Plans for Fighting Sexual Sin8-Session Plan#Engage with the WordMemorizeInvite More CounselPut Feet to Faith1Read Matthew 5 slowly, at least four times this week. Journal about what Jesus teaches about the heart, and God’s view of sin and righteousness. What truths encourage you? Which ones convict you?Matthew 5:8MEN: Read Help! He’s Struggling with Pornography by Brian Croft (Intro & Ch. 1).   WOMEN: Read Help! She’s Struggling with Pornography by Rachel Coyle (Intro & Ch. 1).  TEENS: Read Help! I Want to Stay Pure (Intro & Ch. 1)  

Highlight meaningful sentences. Be ready to share 5–10 highlights.Work on the Practical Application Projects at the back of each of these mini books.2Matthew 6 (follow the same process as above).Matthew 5:27-30Chapter 2 in the preferred mini book.Work on the Practical Application Projects at the back of each of these mini books.3Matthew 7 (follow the same process as above).Matthew 5:27-30Chapter 3 in the preferred mini book.Work on the Practical Application Projects at the back of each of these mini books.41 Thessalonians 4:3-8 (follow the same process as above).1 Thess. 4:3-4Chapter 4 and Conclusion in the preferred mini book.Work on the Practical Application Projects at the back of each of these mini books.5Romans 5Romans 6:5-7Read The Liberating Truth of Romans 6 by Armand Tiffe (Ch.1)Complete application questions at the end of the chapter.6Romans 6Add Romans 6:8-9Read The Liberating Truth of Romans 6 by Armand Tiffe (Ch. 2)Complete application questions at the end of the chapter.7Romans 7Add Romans 6:10-11Read The Liberating Truth of Romans 6 by Armand Tiffe (Ch. 3)Complete application questions at the end of the chapter.8Romans 8Add Romans 6:12-14Read The Liberating Truth of Romans 6 by Armand Tiffe (Ch. 4)Complete application questions at the end of the chapter.Optional Continuation: 8 Additional Sessions#Engage with the WordMemorizeInvite More CounselPut Feet to Faith9-16Psalm 119 (three 8-verse portions per week). Journal as you did before.Review all memory verses.Read four chapters/week in the 31-day devotional, Pornography: Fighting for Purity by Deepak Reju.Journal your response to the reflection questions at the end of each chapter.

Other resources to consider (use at a helpful pace):

Pure in Heart by Garrett KellRescue Plan by Deepak Reju & Jonathan HolmesSexual Detox by Tim Challies

For married couples:

Reclaim Your Marriage by Curtis SolomonRedeem Your Marriage by Jenny SolomonFinal Thoughts

These plans are flexible and intended to help you get started. As you grow in discipleship counseling, you’ll gain confidence in tailoring assignments to each person’s unique context and need. For now, let these suggestions serve as a helpful framework.

The listed resources are available from many online bookstores, including:

Biblical Counseling BooksWTS BooksCumberland Valley Bible & Book ServiceReformed Book Services (Canada)

MORE RECOMMENDED resources for Sexual Sin (Adultery, Porn, and Masturbation)

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More Personal Growth AssignmentsPGA: Anxiety

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Anxiety is a persistent part of human experience. It’s so widespread that about 23 million Americans have panic attacks, and millions more report living with various forms of anxiety disorders. Scripture speaks honestly and helpfully to this struggle—it shines a light on the way anxiety affects our bodies and minds, and it builds the faith that strengthens our inner peace and security in Christ.

In this post, I’ll offer both 6-week and 12-week sample plans rooted in biblical truth to help you walk alongside someone wrestling with anxiety—or to use for yourself. These plans will also work great in a small group setting. But first, let’s revisit the purpose of each element of a Personal Growth Assignment (PGA), and how to use them most effectively. (If you missed my introductory post explaining the “why” behind PGAs, I encourage you to read this first.)

Three Core Elements of Effective PGAs

Each PGA should typically include the following elements:

1. Engage with the Word

This is the most essential component. Our aim is to minister to the heart by nurturing a habit of meditation on Scripture. God’s Word—His revealed mind in written form—is the Spirit’s primary instrument to renew the mind and transform the heart (1 Cor. 2:11–16; 2 Cor. 3:18).

Encourage Scripture memorization to keep God’s truth close throughout the day. When assigning a passage for meditation, offer a few journal prompts to help the person engage meaningfully with the text. For example:

What does this passage reveal about God? Which of His attributes or works speak most directly to your current struggle?What does this passage reveal about you? Are there weaknesses, sins, or trials that hinder a trusting response to God?What thoughts or behaviors need confession, and where do you need God’s help for change?2. Invite More Counsel

The second element introduces trusted biblical voices through carefully chosen resources—books, articles, sermons, podcasts, or videos. In a noisy world, it’s vital to point people toward biblically sound and soul-stabilizing content (Titus 2:1–6; Prov. 27:17). When you “bring another counselor into the room,” ask the person to interact with the resource actively—highlighting meaningful sentences and journaling personal takeaways. Links to recommended resources appear at the end of this post. There is also a link to download a PDF of these plans.

3. Put Feet to Faith

Spiritual growth isn’t just about learning, it’s about living. While renewing the mind is foundational, it must lead to changed actions (James 1:22–25). This third element invites the person to take a specific step of obedience based on what they’re learning.

That step might be:

Developing a new habit,Writing a prayer based on a Scripture meditation,Or having a hard but needed conversation.

Instead of assigning this yourself, consider asking: “What is one way you can apply this truth to your life this week?”

You may choose to meet weekly or biweekly. Remember, counseling is simply intentional discipleship shaped by someone’s specific needs and context. Keeping that in mind will help you avoid a one-size-fits-all approach.

Sample Plans for Addressing Anxiety6-Week PlanWeekEngage with the WordMemorizeInvite More CounselPut Feet to Faith1Read Psalm 46 slowly at least four times this week. Journal about God, anxiety, and life situations (sin or suffering) that match your own.Psalm 46:1Read The Most Encouraging Promise in the Bible by Armand Tiffe. Highlight meaningful sentences. Be ready to share 5–10 highlights.Begin a “My God Is…” list in your journal, based on Psalm 46 (e.g., “My God is a refuge,” “My God is ever-present”).2Psalm 27 (follow the same process as above).Psalm 27:1Read Help! I’m Anxious by Philip DeCourcy (Intro & Ch. 1). If panic is more prevalent, use Help! I Get Panic Attacks by Lucy Ann Moll.Complete the Practical Application Project for Ch. 1.3Psalm 121Psalm 121:1–2Read Help! I’m Anxious, Ch. 2Complete the Practical Application Project for Ch. 2.4Psalm 91Psalm 91:1–2Read Help! I’m Anxious, Ch. 3Complete the Practical Application Project for Ch. 3.5Psalm 23Psalm 23:4Read Help! I’m Anxious, Ch. 4Complete the Practical Application Project for Ch. 4.6Matthew 6:24–34Matthew 6:33Reflect on Matthew 6 and Philippians 4:8.Create a list of biblical truths to recall when anxious. Write a prayer based on Jesus’s counsel.Optional Continuation: 6 Additional WeeksWeekEngage with the WordMemorizeInvite More CounselPut Feet to Faith7–10Read through Philippians, one chapter per week. Journal about truths of Christ and peace in Him.Philippians 4:4–8Read 5 chapters per week from Anxiety: Knowing God’s Peace (adjust to 3 if meeting weekly).Reflect on the questions at the end of each chapter.11Psalm 19:1–6. Journal how creation reveals God’s glory and brings peace.Review all memory verses.Continue reading Anxiety: Knowing God’s Peace.Take a long walk in nature. Praise God for His creation and cast your cares on Him in prayer.12Psalm 19:7–14. Reflect on how daily feeding on Scripture transforms your inner life.Review all memory verses.Finish Anxiety: Knowing God’s Peace.From Psalm 19, list how God’s Word changes you. Consider working through Psalm 119 in the same way (8 verses at a time).Final Thoughts

These plans are flexible and meant to get you started. As you gain more experience in discipleship counseling, you’ll grow in the ability to tailor assignments based on each person’s unique context and needs. But for now, use these suggestions as a helpful framework.

Mentioned Resources:

The Most Encouraging Promise in the Bible – Armand TiffeHelp! I’m Anxious – Philip DeCourcyHelp! I Get Panic Attacks – Lucy Ann MollAnxiety: Knowing God’s Peace (31-day devotional) – Paul TautgesA Student’s Guide to Anxiety (for teens) – Edward T. Welch

The above resources are available from many online bookstores, such as Biblical Counseling Books, WTSBooks, CVBBS, and others. If you are in Canada, shop at Reformed Book Services.

More recommended resources for anxiety, fear, and panic can be found here.

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“I’m not a counselor; I’m a pastor who counsels his people.” That’s how I usually describe my ministry. My passion is to help individuals come to know Christ and walk with Him in the power of the Spirit. This extends beyond the public ministry of preaching to the personal ministry of the Word—what I often call focused or intensive discipleship. This kind of one-another care comes alongside preaching to help uncover the root causes of mental, emotional, behavioral, and relational struggles, so we can offer Christ-centered hope that leads to lasting heart transformation.

The Confessional Statement of the Biblical Counseling Coalition expresses this commitment to inner renewal well:

We believe that human behavior is deeply connected to the thoughts, intentions, and affections of the heart. Our actions arise from hearts that are worshiping God or something else. Therefore, we place great importance on the heart and seek to address the inner person. God fully understands and rightly evaluates who we are, what we do, and why we do it. While we may never fully grasp the depths of a person’s heart—our own included—God’s Word pierces to the core of the heart’s beliefs and motivations (Hebrews 4:12–13).

Addressing the Inner and Outer Life

Counseling and soul care—or focused discipleship—must address both the inner and outer dimensions of a person’s life to bring about real and lasting change into the likeness of Christ. Scripture makes clear that our behavior is not mechanical. It flows from a heart that desires, thinks, chooses, and feels—either in submission to or rebellion against the Lord Jesus, who is worthy of being preeminent in all things (Colossians 1:18).

Faithful biblical counseling must therefore speak to both the vertical relationship with God and the horizontal relationships with others. We aim to care for both the workings of the heart and the behaviors they produce (Matthew 23:23–28). Biblical counselors and disciple-makers strive to guide others toward wise living—loving God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength, loving our neighbors as ourselves, and enduring suffering with Christ-centered hope.

Why Growth Assignments?

I’m excited to introduce a new category here at Counseling One Another—Growth Assignments.

Over the years, I’ve intentionally moved away from using the term homework, since that word often carries associations from our school years that can make this work feel merely academic. (To be honest, I may have borrowed the term Growth Assignment from one of my students!) While growing in biblical knowledge is vital, our goal must always be more than information—we want transformation. Or, as one of my favorite churches puts it, this is truly heartwork.

Three Key Elements of Growth Assignments

Here are the three essential elements that make growth assignments effective. They are listed in order of priority:

1. Engage with the Living Word
The first and most important element is engaging personally with the living Word of God (Hebrews 4:12). This kind of Scripture engagement goes beyond surface-level reading. It includes thoughtful, prayerful meditation—slowing down to ask good questions, allowing God’s truth to sink deeply into the heart. Any counseling assignment that claims to be biblical must begin here. Slow, careful meditation on an appropriate portion size of Scripture is where effective Growth Assignments begin.

2. Invite Another Counselor or Caregiver into the Conversation
The second element encourages us to listen to other faithful voices that help us understand and apply the truth. These resources might be written (books, mini-books, blog posts), auditory (podcasts, sermons), or visual (videos, diagrams). In a world full of noise, we want to guide people to trustworthy voices that reinforce biblical counsel. Wisely selecting an appropriate counseling tool to accompany Scripture is the second most important element of Growth Assignments (Titus 2:1-6; Proverbs 27:17).

3. Put Feet to Your Faith
The final element involves action—tangible steps of obedience in response to what’s been learned. This is where biblical wisdom meets everyday life, and Christ’s Word reshapes our habits, relationships, and routines. We want to help others become doers of the Word, not hearers only (James 1:22-25).

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If you’ve read this far, be sure to check back in a few days for the first Growth Assignment, where I’ll share practical tools for overcoming sexual sin habits.

*To understand the theology behind this kind of interpersonal discipleship, I encourage you to read the foundational book, Counseling One Another.

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