Lisa Lister's Blog

I had a massive response to how I was feeling about the writing process of Witch last week + while I’ve shared a li’l bit about the book writing/publishing process of both Code Red + Love Your Lady Landscape in the past, you have literally been sending out a big-ass care-bear stare style demand via the medium of emails + FB messages wanting the REAL how-to-write-a-book dirty deets.

I thought about writing the how-to-write-a-book blog post, but the thing is, to REALLY experience the SHE-led process that I personally go through to write a book, you need to be willing to crack your heart wide-open, trust your gut + most importantly, trust SHEin helping you to find your SHE spot – the spot of total runny honey-like truth, that when accessed can provide SHE medicine for both yourself and the world – and well, there are NO five-point plans for THAT.

So I figured if you want the good stuff, let’s get straight to the good stuff, let’s talk SHEspot. (For a someone who used to be a burlesque performer, I’m seriously rubbish at the tease.)

What is the SHE Spot?

It’s the crack where the light shines in.

It feels exquisitely vulnerable and yet divinely delicious.

Think of the best orgasm you’ve ever experienced (and if that wasn’t in the last week at least, go pleasure yourself right now) THAT’S the feeling we’re looking to experience when we hit our SHE spot, ‘k?

It is our total runny honey-like truth.

It’s our soul voice.

It’s our SHE medicine – the medicine that will provide healing for both ourself and the entire freakin’ world.

It’s this, and it’s a million other things in between.

Except we oftentimes ignore our SHE spot, because in order to access that runny honey-like truth that can be found there, it isn’t always pretty.

It can be painful, it can evoke feelings that have previously been pushed down deep into the darkness and lurk in our shadows. We’re fearful that if we DO touch ourSHE spot, we’ll express ourselves in a way that might make us do that snotty-nosed, mascara-running ugly cry. Or we might discover something too bright, too powerful, that fills us up with so much light and love we might implode in on ourself.

We get fear-filled.

We get shit-scared.

Yet, when we touch + pleasure that SHE spot?

Magic happens.

In SHE Flow yoga classes, I encourage + guide participants to find their SHE spot in every move. To feel their way into each asana knowing nothing needs to be held, simply trusting their body’s natural rhythm to take them where they need to go.

In SHE mentoring, I work with women to find their SHE spot in their menstrual cycle, to feel into the flow of their monthly cycle, each phase, every day and listen to what their body is telling them and what it is guiding them to do in their business, their career and their life.

Touch your SHE spot + your story will be revealed.

So my big write-a-book-advice would be to know that your capacity to write a book or tell your true-to-you story is directly linked to your willingness to find, crack open, feel into and express the honey-like truth, the SHE medicine that is activated every time you touch, pleasure and honour your SHE spot.

Are you ready to find your SHE spot?

Are you being called to share your story?

To write a book?

For your voice to be heard? 

If you are, I invite you with big open arms + heart to come join me for SHESTORIES (you’ve got 4 days left to sign up) – a 30 day online programme of daily emails + prompts, SHE insight sessions with actress Carrie Anne Moss, Hay House UK Editor, Amy Kiberd + Social Media Queen, Katie Brockhurst, along with rituals, practices + SHE Flow techniques to help you write your freakin’ heart (+ guts) out.

To find out more, head over here…

SHE Stories

It’s especially for you.

Yesterday I told my editor that I didn’t want to write the Witch book.

I told her, ‘I’ll pay back my advance, I don’t want to do it.’

Why?

I was day 28 of my menstrual cycle (my inner critic works overtime in my pre-menstrual phase) + I felt the fear.

A fear that festers in the deep feminine wound.

The fear of being seen + heard.

The fear of being judged + punished for my beliefs + actions.

So, my editor, Amy Kiberd, who you’ll meet + get to chat to if you’re joining me for SHE Stories – we start on the 30th October on the dark moon + we’ll be in circle for 30 days together, come join us – talked me through it.

Through the fear, the wounding + the judgement.

This isn’t the first time she’s had to do it. (I’m guessing it won’t be the last either.)

She reminded me of a similar conversation we had when Love Your Lady Landscape was just about to go for it’s final edit.

The feminine wound is real.

For me, the wound isn’t a perceived, societal one, it’s real.

It’s one of the women that have gone before me.

My mumma who turned her back on her psychic + seer like powers through fear of being called a witch, my nanna who would never have the word ‘witch’ spoken, yet it was exactly what she was + the whole neighbourhood knew it.

It’s one of past life.

Yep, this is not my first rodeo sharing women’s wisdom. Doing women’s work. Of being a witch.

In at least one life time, I had my tongue cut from my mouth in front of the women I was talking to.

In another, I was the victim of a witch hunt where other women I believed to be kindred, sisters + friends, called me out to the authorities + I was burned.

It’s one of THIS lifetime.

A time where I’ve been manhandled, smacked, shamed, judged + disrespected by both men AND women.

Yet, I KNOW I’m here to be an advocate for the women who, while they may not have had their tongues sliced, feel that their voices are silenced + censored + not heard.

I’m here to show that while modern day witch hunts are real (you only have to look at any trash mag or reality TV show to see women being called out, judged + ‘burned’ by mainstream + social media) we have to practice being seen, heard + expressing our real.

I’ve said this MANY times,  but do you think if I had a choice, I’d be talking about periods + vaginas?

Do you think if I had a choice, I’d keep putting myself out there, over + over again, writing books that aren’t easy to market, that talk about SHE + how our womb is a power source, declaring I’m a witch + waking other witches so that others can potentially ridicule, judge + shame me?

It’s what I’ve signed up for.

And while there are definitely days that I wish I could just not know what I know, lay on a chez lounge, write chick lit + live in the South of France, I wouldn’t change it for the world.

I’m telling you this because I want you to know, if you’re thinking you want to write a book, or share your story, or speak on stage, or host a circle or a workshop, or create a social media feed that inspires + feels real – and you feel the fear, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

I feel it too. Every time I write a book, a blog post, stand on stage, begin an interview.

And for some that fear might be perceived + societal, + for others it might be real + experiential, either from past lives, or this lifetime.

But here’s the deal.

To share your story, your you-nique-to-you medicine, you have to be seen. And heard. And express your real.

It’s what I’ve had to learn every time I say yes to doing a podcast, a TV or radio interview or speaking on a big stage, when what I really wanted to do was say ‘no’ and stay in my PJs –

in order to share our powerful SHE medicine, our magic, our unique-to-us-flavour in the world, we have to be seen. And Heard. And express our real.

And for many of us, me included, it doesn’t come easy.

But if we let it, the fear that it’s ‘not safe’ for us to speak/write/share our story, which ultimately is our medicine to the world, renders our creative powers completely useless.

Like an impotent, limp dick.

And no one want’s that, right?

What the world wants + needs, damn it, what I want + need,  is a world where YOU are sharing your medicine, your story + your real.

If you let it, fear can render your creative powers completely useless. Like an impotent limp dick. And no one wants that, right?

So let’s do it together.

Let’s create a safe space for us to practice.

Join me for 30 days, dark moon through to new moon, as I encourage you to write your freakin’ heart (+ guts) out. To work with the cycles of mumma nature + the cycles of your own body to attune to your creative powers, to save them from fear-induced limp-dickness + use them for good. We’ll mud wrestle with our inner critic, we’ll see where she shows up, what she’s attached to + how we can help her to heal,  we’ll get a little messy as we separate what’s truth + what’s not + I’ll invite some incredible women – actress Carrie Ann Moss, Hay House UK editor, Amy Kiberd + social media queen, Katie Brockhurst – who support me in telling my truth + sharing my real to share their insight, advice + wisdom.

It’s going to be special.

To join SHE Stories, click HERE

I’ve not been sleeping well this week.

For countless reasons, but the main one is this, I’ve recently written a book about how a woman’s truth + power lies between her thighs – in her pussy, I’m currently writing a book about the persecution of women.

Now, I’m blessed to live in a time where we can remember, reconnect + reclaim.

I’m sick to my stomach to live in a time where a man who potentially could be the leader of the ‘free world’ talks about women + their pussies in such a degrading way + it’s written off as ‘boy banter.’

He is the epitome of, in fact he’s the orange-faced poster child of, the patriarchal structure that’s being dismantled ever time a woman takes back her power + shouts, ‘this pussy bites back, T***p.’

Watching this play out would be almost amusing as he, along with others like him, cling desperately to the out-of-date paradigms + belief systems that has fed over-puffed egos for centuries.

Except it’s not funny.

And as the feminine wakes, fully rooted after being pushed underground for the past 3,000+ years by patriarchy, shit WILL get continually unfunny.

For a while at least.

Such is the nature of transition.

That’s a LOT of conditioning that has to unravel + come undone, right there.

Look, I don’t love Hilary.

I’m under no illusion she’s the ‘answer’, (far from it) I’m not a US voter. For me this isn’t about the election, honestly? Either one in charge seems like a scary + shady prospect to me, I am a woman though, and while I know essentially what follows is a campaign speech for Hilary, (shit lady, you’re lucky you’ve got MO on your team) this speech pretty much sums up the not-okay-ness of T***p + his behaviour + for me at least what truth + power ACTUALLY looks like. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7e3QKKOp50

There is much still to do, it IS going to get messy + we need to call back + claim our power to do it.

Women, it lies between your thighs.

Dudes, it’s your big beating, caring, respectful warrior hearts.

Call back your power, NOW.

The world need powerful pussies + big hearts more than ever right now.

I’m day 22 of my menstrual cycle + I ‘should’ be amazing everyone with my ability to stay unruffled in the face of ANY crisis. I should be experiencing ‘unshakeable serenity’ because progesterone is ‘meant’ to have me feeling relaxed, calm + centred, but honestly? Right now I’m howling with anger, pain + frustration – for myself + for the world we live in.

I’m angry because I’m back in the UK + it’s fucking freezing.

I’m angry at my phone + it’s incessant demands for me to respond to it every fucking five minutes.

I’m angry that we have to have International Day of The Girl, but then instantly realise that the bigoted man with the stupid orange tan proves exactly why we need International Day of The Girl.

This picture is me telling progesterone to  hurry up with its ‘supposed’ bloody serenity.

Now, unless I’d told you, you’d be mistaken for thinking that’s EXACTLY what I was experiencing, right? But that’s the thing with social media + online story sharing, not everything is as it seems.

I could go deep with this one because there is a LOT o’ talk about ‘authenticity’ on the internet + it makes me mad, but right now it would just turn into a shout-y pre-menstrual rant + NOBODY wants that, so instead I’ll offer up an invitation to you.

If like me you’re over people claiming to be an authority, or so-called experts telling you ‘how to be authentic’ in life, in business, or on the page + you simply want to show up, without feeling the need to ask for permission or seek approval from others + tell your truth, share your stories + express your real no matter how messy it might first appear, join me this November, as I open up the SHE Stories Circle.

Yep, I know I usually talk about periods + vaginas (A LOT) but every November, I invite women to gather in circle + allow their cyclic nature to be their SHE guide in expressing their voice, their truth + their vision through the written word.

I used to ache for my voice to be heard.

I wanted more than anything to be able to fully express myself – the glory, the pain, the wild + the exquisite in-between space – and share my truth from deep down in my heart + gut.

But for so long I got the fear.

Big crazy-ass fear.

Fear so paralysing, I became a writer-for-hire and wrote Justin Bieber annuals.

True. Actual. Fact.

On paper, and in my every day life, I self-edited, tamed + censored my vulnerable + raw SHE-powered voice so that I was likeable, loveable, acceptable.

It was a bullshit existence, because what I know now, that I didn’t know then, was that you will never be an in-your-power, totally-of-service badass if you are not sharing your from the heart + guts truth – no matter how messy, imperfect + not-likeable it might appear.

This is why every November, my birthday month, I connect with the cycles of the moon + my menstrual cycle + devote serious love to my writing practice + I’m inviting you to join me.

It’s going to be Fierce. Feminine. Devotional.

It’s not about being a great writer.

There’s no end goal.

You don’t have to show anyone what you’ve written although you’re SO welcome to share.

It’s about using the daily practice of writing in tune with the cycles of the moon + your menstrual cycle, to unravel your SHE story + express your real.

The content will be dictated by what you bring to the circle.

If you have questions about the publishing industry, bring it.

If you want to know how to co-collaborate with SHE, ask.

If you want to know how to deal with the inner critic, let’s chat.

If you want to know how to write a proposal, this will be the place to quiz me.

For those who have joined me in previous circles, this time round, I’m also inviting three of my favourite women, actress Carrie Ann Moss, Hay House editor, Amy Kiberd + social media angel Katie Brockhurst to join me in SHE insight Sessions – recorded conversations with sisters who have supported + been my cheerleaders in sharing my truth + my voice, and I’m asking them to provide their insight + wisdom to help inspire, motivate + support you too.

To find out more + to join me in the SHE Stories circle, click HERE

What a month September has been, eh?!

Are you feeling all the feelings?

Despite all my best intentions, I’ve not written a SHE mail all month, I had plans to launch courses + workshops, in fact I had a LOT of plans for a LOT of things + as the month comes to an end, I realise that NONE of them have come to fruition.

NONE.

But instead of sharing my offerings with you, instead of sharing the gazillion blog posts + insights I got while on retreat braless up a mountain in Spain, it seems the work for me this month was to be with myself.

It’s been painful, exhilarating + all-consuming but I teamed up with the goddess Lilith + with her support, I called my power back.

I write about ‘calling your power back’ in my book, Love Your Lady Landscape so you might be wondering why I’m still having to do it, I’ll tell you for why.

Calling back our power, whether you’ve done it in an ancient Goddess temple with me in Malta, whether you’ve placed your hand on your copy of Love Your Lady Landscape, whether you’ve created your own ritual, or pulled the SHE Power card over + over from the SASSY SHE oracle, it’s not a one-time practice + voila, power is back + installed, womankind have been stripped of their SHE power by the patriarchy + it’s a daily freaking practice for all of us to remember, reconnect + most importantly reclaim it.

So why did I call in Lilith?

Because Lilith is a badass.

She’s hypnotic + she’s magnetic.

She’s the goddess of sexual energy, creativity, rebellion + SHE power.

She’s a symbol of divine matriarchal energy that refuses to be dominated or controlled.

She’s the one you need when you want to see where you’re being taking advantage of, where you’re letting others make decisions for you, where you need to get super clear about what’s necessary + what’s not + to see all the places where you’re not acting from a place of power.

This month has been a tough one for me. Seeing where I’m not taking responsibility for myself + my actions, having to call out people who were taking advantage of me, having to be compassionate to myself for letting it happen, having to be firm in my decisions when people wanted to use guilt + blame to make me feel bad for those decisions, seeing where I’ve allowed people to tell me what to do about the things I care about + having to act in a way that might mean people won’t like me + then having to be okay with that.

Oy freakin’ vey.

So basically, today this  is a love letter from my heart + womb to yours, to let you know that NO ONE has it figured out. At least not all of the time.

Even if they write books about it. (Yes, I’m talking about me.)

THIS is SHE business.

Trusting SHE, trusting flow (menstrual/lunar/universal), trusting your body wisdom + trusting that EVERYTHING is cyclic.

When I finished the shitty first draft of WITCH (the next book), I wanted to go straight into doing 1-to-1s, I wanted to launch three courses, I wanted to do in person events + workshops,  I wanted to be back in the blood + guts of being a woman WITH YOU.

But each time I tuned in, I got a super-loud ‘woah lady, not yet’ – also my website broke, technology failed me (over + over) + my menstrual cycle was super extended as she begins to move my bleed away from the full moon energy she’s been residing in during LYLL book launch + the writing WITCH (I’m so grateful for that full beam energy) towards the dark moon, + I trusted it.

I continually trust it all.

I got still, I got silent (silent meditation is my favourite thing – no frills, no pranayama, simply sit your arse on a meditation cushion, close your eyes + let the nothingness eat your mind over + over + over + over + over + over…) and I got slow + intentional, only doing what needed to be done + trusting that I knew what that was.

Which is why I’ve got nothing to sell you, nothing  to share with you or tell you about (I mean I have, but apparently not yet) this is simply an invitation, under today’s black moon which is linked to the goddess Lilith,  to call back + reclaim your SHE power too.

Sit still, close your eyes + ask Lilith to show you (like she has been for me this month, sometimes more painfully than I’d have liked if I’m honest) where you’re not taking responsibility, where you’re handing your power over to someone else + ask for what you need in order to really begin to trust your inner authority, your body wisdom, flow + SHE – comment below, or come share with me over at instagram or facebook + declare them to me if you feel you need to be witnessed.

I’ve got you.

Dark moon blessings, witches.

Over on Instagram + Facebook, I’m currently running #sharemycycle – every day from day 1 of my menstrual cycle, through to the next time I bleed, I share my daily experience of what it is to be a menstruating woman.

Sometimes I share a SHE Flow Yoga pose, sometimes some spiritual wisdom + other times practical insight as to what our hormones are doing + what impact that has on physically + emotionally.

Come on over.

Today because it’s  #worldcontraceptionday, I’m talking contraception. 

Now, contraception is a subject I’m super passionate about and I talk about it in both books, Love Your Lady Landscape + Code Red.

FYI: If you’re currently on the pill, I recommend the book Sweetening the Pill: How We Got Hooked On Hormonal Birth Control to EVERYONE too.

But so you know, my chosen method is DAYSY.

Yep, about six months ago, I started using the Daysy Fertility Monitor.

So, six months later, what’s the deal?

I freakin’ love it + at the risk of sounding like an infomercial, I now recommend it to ALL my clients – the ones who are trying for a baby, the ones who are coming off the pill + don’t want a baby, basically anyone that wants accurate information about their fertility, because y’know, Daysy is a fertility monitor.

It monitors fertility.

How?

It calculates your fertile days using your basal body temperature (BBT) and information about your menstrual cycle. It’s different from a regular BBT thermometer because it stores the data for you + sends you a lil morning reminder on your phone to take your temp.

You take your temperature by placing Daysy under your tongue before you get out of bed each morning, you tell it when you’re bleeding, and then after three months of ‘learning’, Daysy can give you your fertility status of the day (red=fertile, green=infertile, yellow=learning/fluctuation)

Daysy will show you are fertile or not with an accuracy of 99.3%.

So, it’s super easy to use – you do it in bed, it couldn’t be ANY easier – + unlike other forms of birth control, it has no hormones. There are no objects IN your body – I’ve had an IUD + the contraceptive implant at different points + my body is still recovering – and it effectively prevents pregnancy/shows you your most fertile days.

Yes it’s pricey, but honestly? I could not put ANY cost on something that meant I no longer had to put synthetic hormones in my body. (Also condoms, which is what the Viking + I were using for contraception before Daysy, are super expensive over a year + the Daysy will last a LOT longer than a year!)

The pill had me thinking I was crazy, when in fact it was completely disconnecting me from my experience as a woman.

The Daysy will completely reconnect you to your cyclic experience, provide you with a no-fuss method of contraception AND super accurate information about your fertility.

To find out more go to: www.eu.daysy.me and for today only, to support + honour World Contraception Day, the AMAZING Daysy team are offering a 20% discount off the full price of a Daysy Fertility Monitor use code: CONTRACEPTION24 at checkout.

Just so you know, full disclosure, I was given a Daysy to review six months ago, but I hope you know by now, that I do not + will not share anything that I don’t believe in or wouldn’t happily buy myself.

I am in LOVE with this prod + if I could buy every woman I know one, I totally would.

A few weeks ago I went to a party.

Yes, sometimes it happens. What can I say? I’m a sucker for champagne + salmon on a stick. (a total whole fillet of salmon. On a stick. I had two.)

Anyway, I met this guy who said he loved the title of my book Love Your Lady Landscape, and asked ‘how are you ever going to follow that up?’  I said ‘I’m writing a book called Witch.‘

He laughed + said: ‘Well, that’ll do it.’

So, yes, I’m writing a book.

A book called Witch.

And right now, I’m writing about power.

The feminine power that we’ve been taught to be afraid of, that we’ve been told is unsafe, because an untamed, angry, joyous, unbound woman is a scary proposition to the world, right?

What would being fully in your power feel like?

What would it feel like to go ALL THE WAY in one direction? What would it feel to disappoint or upset people in your life for making a choice that feels right + powerful for you? What are the repercussions of this power, and are we willing to take the risk?

I don’t have the answers, I’m just riffing on these questions. I invite you to heart riff too.

For me, it feels like freedom, but I wonder if that’s an idealised version of freedom, y’know?

I wonder if I really could exist without the need to seek approval in people?

When my parents died I got to really practice that. My writing was edgy + powerful, the decisions I made were daring + risky. I did not give a FUCK.

People kept dying, two of my aunties, an uncle + cousin in the following 12 months + I cared less + less – not about those that had died but about what people thought of me because I had no one alive to judge me or approve anymore.

I really walked the edge.

And while I think I still do, writing books, doing workshops + being seen has meant that some people dig you + they tell you so, and while I try not to attach to that, (I’m a yogi, I’m all about non-attachment. Ahem.) it actually feels really nice when people like what you do, but then when I sit down to write or create, it does mean that sometimes I think, ‘what if those people who loved me last week, disagree with what I’m sharing this week + don’t dig me anymore?’

What then?

I’ve been thinking it about the book too.

I can feel why it’s absolutely the next book that had to be written but what if people are like, why is she writing about witches? She talks about wombs + periods?

What if people don’t take my womb work seriously anymore?

What if witches question who I am to write a witch book?

I CRAVE the liberation + freedom of not giving a fuck (and I reckon I spend about 80% of my time in that place) but I’ll also hold my hands up + say I still really want to be loved too.

I have noticed though, that the more I love my decisions – (I love that I get to write about women’s work, because that’s what ALL of this is – wombs, witches, heart riffing, truth, ritual + sharing, vulnerability) the less I need others to love them.

How about you? My truth is that I’m still navigating being a woman fully in her power + what that actually means to me, I feel like there’s still a long way to go + that I carry the persecution of the women that went before in my blood + bones, yet I see how different is for me as a white woman, compared to my sisters of colour for example – what’s your truth?

The post SHE power appeared first on The sassy she.

Insight + wisdom from SHE through me.

This week’s SASSY SHE oracle pull is: NO LIMIT

SHE SAYS:

The only thing between you + limitless freedom are the stories you tell yourself.

Yep, this is all down to you, ladylove.

Of course, society + patriarchy have put us in the shackles, but lady, you have the key.

Unearth all the stories you’ve been told about who you should be, how you should be + what you should be.

Examine those stories, strip them off one by one – this may get dirty + will definitely get messy – decide what still fits, what you want to keep and what you need to let go of.

These stories have shoved down your female-ness.

Strangled your voice.

They’ve let you allow others to be in control of you, to know better than you.

Enough.

Enough.

Enough.

Take a breath + unlock those shackles.

Yes, you will become undone.

Yes, you will become raw + vulnerable as you shed skin after skin.

Yes you will die, but the good news is you will be reborn.

This is what a life of no limits is like.

An unshackled, unbound, unravelling of you who is able to show up + bring it all. Who is able to be whole.

Not perfect.

Not together.

But whole + complete.

Limitless.

Five personal SHE readings become available at every full moon, if you want to read for yourself, you can buy a set of SASSY SHE Oracle Cards HERE

The post SHE Reading: Limitless appeared first on The sassy she.

 

While some people go away for the summer holidays, I’m currently cauldron-stirring + writing my next book, Witch. Can I tell you how weird it is to write a book that’s already for sale on Amazon?

VERY WEIRD. That’s how weird.

Now, I vow to SHE everyday that I’ll share my experience of being a woman in real time, not when I have shit figured out, it’s what I signed up for, so over the weekend, as I wrote, it had me feeling ALL the personal feels + I want to share.

I’m often portrayed as the ‘dark and intense one’ by friends + people I work with and I’m so happy to own that, because I AM dark and intense – I’m a witch, I write about subjects that have been placed in the dark + called taboo, I’m a Scorpio, I’ve got black hair + gypsy eyes, I prefer ocean-deep conversations over shallow + surface level chat, but I heard my heart screaming ‘tell them you’re funny too, show them how funny you are, woman you’re funny!’

Secondly, + I shared this in the coven I’m currently circling with in SHE Power Summer School, I dropped all the fierce self-responsibility.

Consciously.

I wrote:

I want to experience being the woman who ISN’T dark.

I want to be the woman who has it super easy for a while.

(I laugh at that now, because seriously, does she ACTUALLY exist?)

I want to be the one who has a rich husband that pays for everything while I play, create + go on retreats.

I want parents who love and support me (and are alive, that would help.)

I want to be the one who success comes easy to, I want to be the one who had 20k followers on Instagram.

I want to write about something that’s everyone loves + that’s easy to package.

Honestly, in that moment, as I was journalling, I wanted to be THAT woman. SO BAD.

Because sometimes, being THIS one, in THIS body, experiencing THIS life, is bloody tough.

I wrote + wrote + wrote until I finally felt ready to consciously claim back my power + Take self-responsibility.

But before I did, I took a deep breath, laid naked in my garden + gave it all back to SHE.

Here you go lady, YOU deal with that.

I didn’t try + fix it, or try to figure out its meaning, I didn’t feel guilt or shame for being someone who should have this all figured out, I just placed my palms flat on the earth and gave it to her.

SHE can handle it.

Then I took the picture that’s above.

It’s my truth selfie.

I then turned on FB + read something that made me feel witnessed and seen and embarrassed + shy in circle – a Wonder Woman had expressed her truth of how she saw me in the world.

Usually, rightly or wrongly, I don’t allow myself to meet the gratitude or the criticism.

But that day, I welcomed the validation.

I welcomed being seen. Fully.

I felt grateful to be seen in all my messiness + that despite that messiness, grateful that women still show up + want to be in circle with me, to work with me, to share with me.

And it prompted me to want to thank you.

For letting me show up in your world each week.

For letting me write you love letters, for letting me share my stories, my truth + my offerings.

For digging what I share even when I don’t come in a glossed up package, even when I don’t make sound-bite worthy videos + get fear-y anytime I make them.

I’m a woman getting messy in the blood and guts of  this experience, a woman offering herself up to SHE as a vessel + and sharing what I feel and learn as insight, in real time, not waiting ’til I have it all figured out + tied up in a pretty pink bow ready to sell to you as something that can fix you or mend something.

I work with women to take fierce self-responsibility for themselves, to call back their power, to learn ways in which to respond to life and not react to it, and this is how I did it this weekend.

I made a conscious decision to let myself feel what needed to be felt – the need to be mothered, to be looked after financially – I let myself be in my shadow + I pulled it all up to the surface.

And I saw it + I witnessed it + I didn’t try to fix it.

I placed my hands on mumma earth + I gave it back to her.

SHE can handle it.

But guess what SHE is me.

I am SHE.

SHE can handle it. I can handle it.

We are SHE + SHE is WE.

We’ve got this, women.

 

The post Laying it bare appeared first on The sassy she.

Unedited insight + wisdom direct from SHE through me.

So the moon is coming into her fullness + today’s pull from the SASSY SHE oracle cards is: PLEASURE

SHE SAYS:

In order for you to claim your throne as queen (which is absolutely what you are, and your throne is your pelvic bowl, your seat of SHE power) you need to come into full and loving connection with it. So many women are SO disconnected from ‘down-there’ that they’d rather let someone else touch them or put fingers inside them -doctors/partners/lovers- than touch themselves. Now, pleasure isn’t ALL about sex + touching ourselves, but our vulva is so sensitive and receptive and connecting with her means you’re able to to truly feel and make decisions from her, and they will be intuitive + potent decisions, I promise.

And the best suggestion I have to do this is to claim back your birthright + receive self-nourishing pleasure.

When you’re able to receive self-love + experience pleasure without thinking it’s dirty or wrong, you’re able to open yourself up to receive in ALL the ways – physically, emotionally AND spiritually. This may seem wild, but it only seems wild because you’ve been shamed and conditioned NOT to touch.

Yet pleasure, receiving + allowing are natural female states and when women fully embody them, women fully embody their SHE Power.

Imagine a world where all women remembered that they were not meant to give, give, give until their well was empty…Where they remembered that they were natural receivers of ecstasy and pleasure…Where there was no guilt or shame about their lady landscape because women owned their thrones, set boundaries and made all their intuitive life decisions from their place of pleasure…That’s the world that you’re creating when you rub both your clitoris and your third eye simultaneously.

SHE MEDICINE: