Dave Di Vito

“Grief is an all-encompassing thing. It ticks away under the surface and from its veiled position it attempts to derail anything and everything that stands before it. Grief is the only trace of the things that will forever be denied to us. The future moments, possibilities and promises that we are forced to accept will never eventuate. And the past glories from our own histories that we always thought we, at some point, would be able to relive, regardless of where circumstances may have led us in the meantime.
The thing about grief is that it is very much the counterpart of unmitigated joy. But unlike joy, it lends itself to being repeated in the exact form in which it first presented. Where joy changes, grief can remain as fixed as it chooses, over any protracted amount of time. Regardless of what people will tell you about it being something that can be resolved and dealt with, it can’t be. Instead it’s like a predator that stalks its prey and waits for just the right moment to resurface so it can wreak the most carnage or simply crowd out all other thoughts. It is the acknowledgment of its presence and its right to exist that makes it bearable, not the processing of it or attempts at eradicating it as if it’s an infection that can be cut at the stem.”
― Dave Di Vito, Vinyl Tiger