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Another Synonym for Speaking is Appreciating!
Just stand at one place for 5 minutes and watch people around you --- in office, in the bazaar or in the park. Every corner comprises of someone who is struggling to communicate his 'point of view' to the other person or group of people. How much do we speak every day and how much of it is really needed? How many times did you have to chew your own words?
Well, I have had the experience as a college student! As a member of Miranda House college Table Tennis team, we were waiting for our new coach. It was already 3 O' clock in the noon when she was supposed to arrive. We were all playing Table Tennis amongst ourselves --- some players belonging to our team while others who were just coming in to play for recreation. Since I had to leave for home by our University Special, I was in a hurry but still playing and practicing, waiting anxiously for the arrival of our new coach.
Slowly and surely, I started sharing my views with girls around me and covered topics like why the coach should have come on time, why we are forced to play a game when I am actually looking forward to attend my music classes, why our games professor does not accompany us when we go out to represent our college... All this while, my friend was suggesting something to me and making funny gestures which I was too engrossed to be bothered at all. And then my partner, with whom I had being playing all this while, came up to my side, lifted her hand for a shake hand and said, ''You play well. Hi, I am your new coach!'' Imagine my predicament. Within seconds, I was planted into the ground where I stood, not knowing what to say. I was also more concerned about what all 'points of view' and 'great thoughts' I had divulged to my coach! I was lucky as my coach did not take offence. She looked so young and was a short woman. Anyone could have mistaken her for a 'fresher'. Thank God, I did not play smart enough and rag her!!
There are so many incidents which I can recall now and feel the uselessness of talking too much or even criticizing. Everyone is leading his own life and etching his own story. We do not know what the other person is going through but jump into conclusion so fast.
The best thing you can learn today is to only see the good in others. Seems simple. Just try it today and see yourself fumble not once but many, many times. This is because we are conditioned to look for the negative, to criticize and to catch people doing the wrong things.
Make a little shift and start appreciating people for the little good that they do. My uncle sits too quietly in the drawing room. He just doesn't speak at all. He keeps listening to what others are saying, not giving any expressions. We found this too distinct not to make fun of him! We copied him and when one of our siblings related an incident, one of us copied him by not giving any expressions and then laughing out loud. As we have grown in age, we realize now how smart he has actually been! He had realized well in advance not to waste precious energy gossiping and exclaiming his 'point of view'. While all others of his age have some or the other ailment to speak about, he is 89 years of age, hale and hearty and has visited so many countries in the world. That's outsmarting everyone! What do you say?
When we visited our neighbour's house to give them gifts for the new arrivals --- beautiful twins in their house, my daughter brought forward quite a pertinent question. She whispered to me, ''Mom, how will this little soul learn language, when will he begin to speak and then how and when will he start using it for criticism and unpleasant discussions?'' Hey, though my daughters laughed at this, I sensed quite a profound meaning into these words. Don't we do that all the time as adults?
We must use our power of speech to elevate lives around us, appreciate what we like and empower those who are in need of love and kindness. Every word we speak becomes a reality. Decide as to what kind of life you want to lead and use your words accordingly. Use positive words, loving words, empowering words and words that do not hurt anyone --- not even those persons who are not present at that time.
''Negative thoughts come to every person. Don't verbalize them. Be positive or be quiet.''
I went with my daughter to the dental hub to get her braces checked. There were no patients there as the clinic had just reopened after lunch time. Only one lady was sitting on the patient's bench engaged with her mobile phone. We talked to the receptionist, told the attendant about what we had come for and sat down waiting for the doctor. All this while, we either watched the television and I told my daughter to convey to the doctor properly what was causing her discomfort due to her braces. The attendant called my daughter's name and she made herself comfortable on the dentist's chair. Finishing her work, the lady got up from the patient's bench and headed for the cabin! She was the dentist. I heaved a sigh of relief and thanked the Almighty that I did not come up with any of my 'point of views' about doctors there or the clinic!
Life has taught me something really profound yet simple. If you want abundance in life, start appreciating. This brings good things to you --- material possessions, dreams come true or even success in life. For instance, if you dream of owning a big car, learn to appreciate those who are driving such cars!
When you appreciate, you send love to people and things and these in turn make you 'feel' good. Nice feelings bring happiness and when you are happy always, all good things come to you on their own! Can you imagine that when you listen to others who are complaining, you are actually bringing in more of such situations into your life too! Keep away from negative conversations and be careful of words you use every day while speaking with others and also while thinking! What you think is brought forward as reality in your life!
''Words are free. It's how you use them that may cost you.'' Yes, words are powerful. Use them to lift your own spirits and that of others. Think before you speak for your words can either hurt or heal! Choose your words wisely.
Well, I have had the experience as a college student! As a member of Miranda House college Table Tennis team, we were waiting for our new coach. It was already 3 O' clock in the noon when she was supposed to arrive. We were all playing Table Tennis amongst ourselves --- some players belonging to our team while others who were just coming in to play for recreation. Since I had to leave for home by our University Special, I was in a hurry but still playing and practicing, waiting anxiously for the arrival of our new coach.
Slowly and surely, I started sharing my views with girls around me and covered topics like why the coach should have come on time, why we are forced to play a game when I am actually looking forward to attend my music classes, why our games professor does not accompany us when we go out to represent our college... All this while, my friend was suggesting something to me and making funny gestures which I was too engrossed to be bothered at all. And then my partner, with whom I had being playing all this while, came up to my side, lifted her hand for a shake hand and said, ''You play well. Hi, I am your new coach!'' Imagine my predicament. Within seconds, I was planted into the ground where I stood, not knowing what to say. I was also more concerned about what all 'points of view' and 'great thoughts' I had divulged to my coach! I was lucky as my coach did not take offence. She looked so young and was a short woman. Anyone could have mistaken her for a 'fresher'. Thank God, I did not play smart enough and rag her!!
There are so many incidents which I can recall now and feel the uselessness of talking too much or even criticizing. Everyone is leading his own life and etching his own story. We do not know what the other person is going through but jump into conclusion so fast.
The best thing you can learn today is to only see the good in others. Seems simple. Just try it today and see yourself fumble not once but many, many times. This is because we are conditioned to look for the negative, to criticize and to catch people doing the wrong things.
Make a little shift and start appreciating people for the little good that they do. My uncle sits too quietly in the drawing room. He just doesn't speak at all. He keeps listening to what others are saying, not giving any expressions. We found this too distinct not to make fun of him! We copied him and when one of our siblings related an incident, one of us copied him by not giving any expressions and then laughing out loud. As we have grown in age, we realize now how smart he has actually been! He had realized well in advance not to waste precious energy gossiping and exclaiming his 'point of view'. While all others of his age have some or the other ailment to speak about, he is 89 years of age, hale and hearty and has visited so many countries in the world. That's outsmarting everyone! What do you say?
When we visited our neighbour's house to give them gifts for the new arrivals --- beautiful twins in their house, my daughter brought forward quite a pertinent question. She whispered to me, ''Mom, how will this little soul learn language, when will he begin to speak and then how and when will he start using it for criticism and unpleasant discussions?'' Hey, though my daughters laughed at this, I sensed quite a profound meaning into these words. Don't we do that all the time as adults?
We must use our power of speech to elevate lives around us, appreciate what we like and empower those who are in need of love and kindness. Every word we speak becomes a reality. Decide as to what kind of life you want to lead and use your words accordingly. Use positive words, loving words, empowering words and words that do not hurt anyone --- not even those persons who are not present at that time.
''Negative thoughts come to every person. Don't verbalize them. Be positive or be quiet.''
I went with my daughter to the dental hub to get her braces checked. There were no patients there as the clinic had just reopened after lunch time. Only one lady was sitting on the patient's bench engaged with her mobile phone. We talked to the receptionist, told the attendant about what we had come for and sat down waiting for the doctor. All this while, we either watched the television and I told my daughter to convey to the doctor properly what was causing her discomfort due to her braces. The attendant called my daughter's name and she made herself comfortable on the dentist's chair. Finishing her work, the lady got up from the patient's bench and headed for the cabin! She was the dentist. I heaved a sigh of relief and thanked the Almighty that I did not come up with any of my 'point of views' about doctors there or the clinic!
Life has taught me something really profound yet simple. If you want abundance in life, start appreciating. This brings good things to you --- material possessions, dreams come true or even success in life. For instance, if you dream of owning a big car, learn to appreciate those who are driving such cars!
When you appreciate, you send love to people and things and these in turn make you 'feel' good. Nice feelings bring happiness and when you are happy always, all good things come to you on their own! Can you imagine that when you listen to others who are complaining, you are actually bringing in more of such situations into your life too! Keep away from negative conversations and be careful of words you use every day while speaking with others and also while thinking! What you think is brought forward as reality in your life!
''Words are free. It's how you use them that may cost you.'' Yes, words are powerful. Use them to lift your own spirits and that of others. Think before you speak for your words can either hurt or heal! Choose your words wisely.
