Virginia Duan's Blog
October 14, 2025
How Much of My Personality Is ADHD vs. Actually Me?
Untangling personality from undiagnosed ADHD, processing my grandmother's death, and an unordered list of tiny joys
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September 2, 2025
I WANT I WANT I WANT (and What a Relief We Are Together)
On surviving difficult anniversaries, celebrating properly, and the moment prayer became “I WANT I WANT I WANT
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August 12, 2025
I Got 5 Chairs for $15 and I Still Don’t Know If I’m Okay
Writing paralysis, the existential dread of approaching 50, and why I'm learning Korean (for the umpteenth time)
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July 29, 2025
My 13-year-old Called Me Out, and She Wasn’t Wrong
Parenting reality check: when your kid calls you out for being absent, you're too tired to be a better person, and you just want to hide upstairs forever.
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July 22, 2025
When Your K-pop Heart Writes Checks Your Body Can’t Cash
My heart was like, "JIN CONCERTS! ROAD TRIPS! ALL THE SOCIALIZING!" and my body was like, "Ma’am, we are not equipped for this level of enthusiasm."
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July 15, 2025
4:30am Research Spirals and Idols Who Won’t Stay in Their Timezone
Staying up until 4:30am researching iconic performances (for book research, obviously), longing for the certainty of my Christian days, and wondering how I'm supposed to live my life when BTS won't stay in Korea.
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July 9, 2025
I Missed a Week and My Brain Said, “Guess We’re Done Forever”
My ADHD brain thinks one missed newsletter means I should quit forever, and I celebrate the discovery of Melona bars in my freezer
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June 24, 2025
j-hope’s Adam’s Apple vs. My Last Functioning Brain Cell
A BTS side profile has consumed my brain, Pedro Pascal propaganda is working, and my hormones are now my personality.
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June 20, 2025
Min Yoongi Is Free and So Are 1600+ Romance Books
Celebrating Min Yoongi's return to civilian life by enabling your book hoarding habits with 1600+ free romance ebooks, including my own.
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June 17, 2025
Funeral Season, Unrealistic Expectations, and j-hope Thirst Traps
ADHD, periods, and the audacity of expecting productivity while parenting a toddler. Plus: j-hope's new single, and why I'm laughing at my own terrible puns.
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