Kitty Chambliss, MCC, CPC, TIC's Blog

Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! I am delighted to share my latest podcast interview with Eve Rickert, a solo polyamorous, relationship anarchist, and author. We met in person back in 2019 at Southwest Love Fest towards the end of the weekend. It was great to meet one of the authors of “More Than Two”…

Beautiful people, I have to share something with you. A few weeks ago, Authority Magazine featured me in a piece called “Five Things You Need To Create a Highly Successful Career As a Life or Business Coach.” And I’ll be honest — every time one of these features goes live, there’s a little voice that…

Most people use “jealous” as a catch-all word for every uncomfortable feeling that shows up when a partner is out living their non-monogamous life. But jealousy and envy are not the same feeling, and mixing them up means you end up trying to solve the wrong problem. My client Sarah described the exact moment this…

Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! I got to do something fun this week: I built a curated reading list on a platform called BookDNA, five books I actually recommend to my coaching clients navigating jealousy, guilt, and shame in open relationships. I lovingly invite you to go check it out: The best books for surviving…

Here’s the question underneath the question: is what I’m feeling telling me something true about right now, or is it telling me something true about what happened to me a long time ago? Those two things can feel exactly identical in your body. That’s what makes this so hard. And it’s exactly what my client…

Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! I get asked this constantly. Someone’s just found their way into this life — open, polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous, whatever word fits them best — and jealousy has them by the throat. They’ve read my book. They want more. They want to know what else actually helped, from someone who’s actually…

Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! I get asked this constantly. Someone’s just found their way into this life — open, polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous, whatever word fits them best — and jealousy has them by the throat. They’ve read my book. They want more. They want to know what else actually helped, from someone who’s actually…

No, you’re not asking too much. But something in the pattern probably does need to shift — and the shift isn’t “ask for less.” It’s “get some of what you need from somewhere other than your partner’s mouth.” Here’s a moment that’s stayed with me since I first heard it from Ellecia Paine, a non-monogamous…

Here’s the honest answer, not the one that sells better: it doesn’t fully go away. Not at five years in, not at twenty. And I want you to hear that as relief, not a life sentence — because the goal was never to arrive at a place where you never feel jealous again. The goal…

No. And I want to say that clearly, right up front, because I have heard some version of “maybe I’m just not built for this” on more intake calls than I can count. It is never true. Jealousy doesn’t mean you’re broken. It doesn’t mean you picked the wrong relationship structure. And the reflex to…