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“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18, NIV).

Gratitude is more than good manners. It’s more than remembering to say “thank you” or counting your blessings when life is going well.

Biblical gratitude is a spiritual discipline that transforms how we see God, ourselves, and the world around us. It’s both a response to God’s goodness and a catalyst for spiritual growth. Gratitude is, quite literally, fruit that produces more fruit.

But here’s what makes gratitude so challenging: We’re called to practice it “in all circumstances”—not just when things are easy, but when life is hard. Not just when prayers are answered the way we hoped, but when we’re still waiting. Not just when we feel thankful, but especially when we don’t.

So how do we cultivate grateful hearts in a world that constantly tells us we need more, deserve better, and should never settle? Let’s explore what Scripture teaches about gratitude and how it can transform our lives from the inside out.

The Biblical Mandate for Gratitude

Gratitude isn’t optional in the Christian life—it’s commanded. But before we bristle at the idea of being told to feel a certain way, let’s understand what Scripture is really asking of us.

Gratitude Is God’s Will for Us

Paul writes clearly: “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18, NIV). Notice he doesn’t say “give thanks for all circumstances” but “give thanks in all circumstances.” There’s a crucial difference.

We’re not called to thank God for tragedy, suffering, or evil. We’re called to thank God in the midst of every circumstance because of who He is and what He has done. Even in our darkest moments, we can give thanks for God’s presence, His promises, His faithfulness, and His ultimate redemption.

Gratitude Is the Heartbeat of Worship

The Psalms overflow with calls to thanksgiving:

“Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name” (Psalm 100:4, NIV).“Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever” (Psalm 107:1, NIV).“I will give thanks to you, LORD, with all my heart; I will tell of all your wonderful deeds” (Psalm 9:1, NIV).

Thanksgiving is how we enter God’s presence. It’s the posture of the worshiping heart—acknowledging that every good thing comes from Him and that He alone is worthy of our praise.

Gratitude Flows from a Changed Heart

When Paul describes life in Christ, gratitude is woven throughout:

“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him” (Colossians 3:15-17, NIV).

Notice the progression: Peace rules, Christ’s Word dwells richly, gratitude fills our hearts, and everything we do becomes an act of thanksgiving. Gratitude isn’t an add-on to the Christian life—it’s evidence of transformation.

Gratitude Protects Us from Sin

In Romans 1, Paul describes the downward spiral of humanity’s rejection of God. And where does it begin?

“For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened” (Romans 1:21, NIV).

The absence of gratitude opened the door to futile thinking and darkened hearts. Conversely, when we maintain grateful hearts, we protect ourselves from the pride, entitlement, and self-sufficiency that lead us away from God.

How Gratitude Changes Our Hearts and Minds

Gratitude isn’t just about saying the right words—it’s about what Christ has done in us. When we practice biblical gratitude, it fundamentally changes how we think and what we desire.

Gratitude Shifts Our Focus from Lack to Abundance

We live in a culture of scarcity. Advertising thrives on making us feel as if we don’t have enough, aren’t enough, and need more. Social media feeds us a constant stream of what everyone else has that we don’t.

But gratitude says, “Look at what God has already given.”

When we intentionally name our blessings—not in a superficial way, but deeply and specifically—we begin to see that we have been given far more than we deserve. We shift from a mindset of “I don’t have” to “Look what God has provided.”

This doesn’t mean ignoring real needs or pretending hardship doesn’t exist. It means choosing to acknowledge God’s goodness even in the midst of need.

Gratitude Battles Anxiety with Truth

Paul connects gratitude directly to peace in one of Scripture’s most beloved passages:

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7, NIV).

Did you catch that? With thanksgiving.

When we bring our anxious thoughts to God with gratitude—acknowledging His past faithfulness even as we present current needs—we open ourselves to His supernatural peace. Gratitude reminds us that the God who provided before will provide again. The God who was faithful yesterday is faithful today.

Gratitude Cultivates Contentment

One of gratitude’s greatest gifts is contentment—a rare treasure in our discontented age.

Paul wrote, “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:12-13, NIV).

Notice that contentment is something Paul learned. It didn’t come naturally—it came through practice, through intentionally training his heart to find sufficiency in Christ regardless of circumstances.

Gratitude is the practice that teaches contentment. When we thank God for what we have, we stop obsessing over what we don’t have. When we recognize His provision, we stop feeling entitled to more.

Gratitude Produces Generosity

Here’s a beautiful paradox: grateful people are generous people.

“You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God” (2 Corinthians 9:11, NIV).

When we’re aware of how much we’ve been given, we naturally want to give to others. Gratitude breaks the grip of greed and opens our hands. We move from hoarding to sharing, from consuming to contributing.

And here’s the cycle: Our generosity leads others to thanksgiving, which leads to more generosity, which leads to more thanksgiving. Gratitude multiplies itself through generous hearts.

Practical Gratitude Disciplines

So how do we actually cultivate grateful hearts? Like any spiritual discipline, gratitude requires intentional practice. Here are some practical ways to grow in thanksgiving:

1. Keep a Gratitude Journal

This is simple but powerful: Write down 3-5 specific things you’re grateful for each day. Not just “I’m thankful for my family” (though that’s good!), but specific moments, provisions, or evidences of God’s grace.

Examples:

“My grandson’s giggles and cuddles”“God’s Word speaking directly to my anxiety this morning”“The friend who texted at exactly the right moment”“Strength to get through a difficult conversation”

Specificity trains us to notice God’s hand in the details of our lives.

2. Practice “Gratitude in the Gap”

When you’re waiting—in traffic, in line, for test results, for answered prayer—use that time to thank God. Instead of letting impatience or anxiety fill the gap, fill it with thanksgiving for past faithfulness.

This retrains your brain to default to gratitude rather than frustration or fear.

3. Start and End Your Day with Thanksgiving

Bookend your day with gratitude:

Morning: Before you even get out of bed, thank God for three things.Evening: Before you fall asleep, review your day and thank God for how you saw Him at work.

This practice shapes your entire day with a posture of thanksgiving.

4. Thank God in the Hard Things

This is the most challenging practice, but perhaps the most life-changing. When you face difficulty, disappointment, or pain, intentionally thank God for what you can:

His presence with you in the trialHis promises that remain truePast times He brought you through hard thingsThe growth that can come from sufferingThe hope you have in Christ

This isn’t toxic positivity or denying pain—it’s choosing to anchor yourself in God’s character and faithfulness even when circumstances are dark.

5. Express Gratitude to Others

Biblical gratitude isn’t just vertical (toward God)—it’s also horizontal (toward others). Regularly express specific, genuine appreciation to the people in your life:

Write a thank-you noteTell someone specifically how they’ve blessed youAcknowledge the ways others serve you that you normally take for granted

When we practice gratitude toward people, we train our hearts to notice blessing everywhere.

6. Turn Complaints into Thanksgiving

This one requires vigilance: When you catch yourself complaining (out loud or in your mind), stop and reframe it as thanksgiving.

Instead of: “I’m so tired of doing laundry.” Try: “Thank you, God, for clothes to wear and a family to care for.”

Instead of: “Why is this taking so long?” Try: “Thank you for this opportunity to practice patience and trust Your timing.”

This isn’t about suppressing honest emotion—it’s about training your default response to lean toward gratitude rather than grumbling.

7. Share Your Gratitude in Community

Gratitude grows when we speak it aloud. In your small group, with friends, or in your family, regularly share what you’re thankful for. When others hear you express gratitude, it encourages them to do the same, and a culture of thanksgiving begins to develop.

Consider starting a meal, a meeting, or a gathering by inviting each person to share one thing they’re grateful for that week.

The Fruit of Gratitude

When we faithfully practice gratitude, we begin to see fruit in our lives:

Joy – Even in difficult circumstances, gratitude produces a deep-rooted joy that isn’t dependent on our situation.

Peace – Anxiety loses its grip when we remember God’s faithfulness.

Contentment – We find satisfaction in Christ rather than constantly chasing more.

Humility – Gratitude reminds us that everything is gift, not something we’ve earned or deserve.

Generosity – Grateful hearts become generous hearts.

Hope – When we remember what God has done, we trust Him for what He will do.

Spiritual Maturity – Gratitude deepens our relationship with God and conforms us into His likeness.

And perhaps most beautifully, gratitude itself becomes the soil in which more gratitude grows. The more we practice thanksgiving, the more we notice reasons to be thankful. Our eyes become trained to see God’s hand everywhere.

Conclusion: A Lifestyle of Thanksgiving

“So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness” (Colossians 2:6-7, NIV).

Overflowing. That’s the picture—gratitude that can’t be contained, that spills out naturally from a heart rooted in Christ.

This month, as our culture pauses for Thanksgiving, let’s not let gratitude be a once-a-year practice. Let’s cultivate grateful hearts every single day, in every circumstance, until thanksgiving becomes not just something we do, but who we are.

Because ultimately, gratitude isn’t just about making ourselves feel better. It’s about rightly recognizing who God is—the Giver of every good and perfect gift, the One who is always faithful, always good, always worthy of our praise.

“Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever” (Psalm 136:1, NIV).

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“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23, NIV).

There’s a beautiful progression in how God transforms us from the inside out. It’s not random or haphazard—it follows a divine order that reflects the very nature of how He created us to function. Just as good soil must be cultivated layer by layer to produce lasting fruit, our spiritual transformation follows a deliberate pattern: heart, then mind, then mouth.

This isn’t just theological theory. It’s the practical pathway to authentic, lasting change that no amount of self-improvement or behavior modification can achieve. When we understand this divine order, we stop trying to change ourselves from the outside in and learn to cooperate with how God works from the inside out.

It All Starts with the Heart

The heart, in biblical terms, isn’t just the seat of our emotions—it’s the control center of our entire being. It’s where our deepest beliefs, desires, and motivations reside. And here’s what I’ve learned: You can’t think your way into heart change, and you certainly can’t speak your way into it. The heart must be transformed first, or everything else is just cosmetic.

God knows this. That’s why He promises in Ezekiel 36:26: “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh” (NIV). Notice the order—God doesn’t start by changing our behavior or even our thinking. He starts with a heart transplant.

What Heart Transformation Looks Like

When God begins working in our hearts, several things start to happen:

Our desires begin to shift. We find ourselves wanting things we never cared about before—like time in God’s Word, meaningful prayer, authentic community. It’s not that we force ourselves to want these things; the Holy Spirit cultivates new desires within us.

We become more tender toward conviction. Instead of hardening ourselves when God’s Word exposes sin, we become quicker to confess and repent. Our hearts become like good soil—soft and receptive to the seed of God’s Word.

God’s glory becomes more important than our comfort. This doesn’t happen overnight, but gradually we find ourselves asking different questions: “What would bring God glory?” rather than “What would make me happy?”

We develop a hunger for truth. People with transformed hearts aren’t satisfied with shallow Christianity or feel-good messages. They want to know what God actually says, even when it’s challenging.

The Mind: Where Truth Takes Root

Once the heart has been prepared as good soil, God begins the work of mind renewal. This is where many Christians get the process backwards—they try to renew their minds without first dealing with heart issues. But here’s the biblical order: The heart receives, then the mind processes and understands.

Romans 12:2 tells us to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (NIV). The Greek word for “renewing” here suggests an ongoing process, like software being continuously updated. Our minds need constant renewal because we live in a world that bombards us with messages contrary to God’s truth.

The Battle for Your Thoughts

Mind renewal isn’t passive—it’s an active, daily choice to align our thinking with God’s Word. Paul gives us the strategy in 2 Corinthians 10:5: “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (NIV).

This means we don’t just let our thoughts run wild and hope for the best. We actively evaluate them against Scripture. When anxiety whispers, “God doesn’t care about your problems,” we counter with Philippians 4:19. When comparison suggests, “You’re not as spiritual as her,” we remember Romans 8:1. When discouragement says, “You’ll never change,” we recall 2 Corinthians 5:17.

The mind renewed by God’s Word thinks differently about:

Trials: Instead of asking “Why me?” we ask “What is God teaching me?”Others: Instead of judgment, we see people as image-bearers needing graceOurselves: Instead of shame or pride, we rest in our identity as beloved childrenGod: Instead of distant judge, we know Him as faithful FatherThe Mouth: Where Transformation Becomes Visible

Here’s where the beautiful progression completes itself. When the heart has been transformed and the mind renewed, our speech naturally begins to change. We don’t have to force it or fake it—it flows from what God has done inside us.

Jesus explained this principle perfectly: “For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Matthew 12:34, NIV). Notice He didn’t say we should try harder to speak better things. He said the mouth reveals what’s actually in the heart. This is why behavior modification never works long-term—it doesn’t address the source.

The Evidence of Inner Change

When God has done His transforming work in our hearts and minds, several things happen in our speech:

We speak truth in love. We don’t compromise biblical truth to avoid conflict, but we also don’t use truth as a weapon. Love motivates both what we say and how we say it.

Encouragement becomes natural. People with transformed hearts see others through God’s eyes and naturally speak words that build up rather than tear down.

Confession comes easier. When we’ve been transformed by grace, we’re quicker to admit our faults and ask forgiveness. Pride loses its grip when we understand we’re all recipients of undeserved mercy.

Gratitude replaces complaint. Renewed minds focus on God’s blessings rather than life’s difficulties, and this perspective flows out in our words.

Gospel conversations happen organically. When Christ has captured our hearts and minds, talking about Him becomes as natural as talking about anything else we love.

Why the Order Matters

You might wonder why this progression is so important. Can’t we just work on all three at once? While God certainly works in mysterious ways, understanding this pattern helps us cooperate with His work rather than fight against it.

When we try to start with behavioral change (including speech), we’re putting the cart before the horse. We might succeed for a while through sheer willpower, but eventually we’ll revert to what’s actually in our hearts. It’s like trying to get good fruit from a bad tree—the problem isn’t the fruit, it’s the root.

When we try to start with mind renewal without heart transformation, we end up with head knowledge that doesn’t penetrate to the depths of our being. We know what we should think, but we lack the heart motivation to consistently choose truth over feelings.

But when we start with the heart—surrendering to God’s transforming work, developing spiritual disciplines that soften us toward His Word, asking Him to give us new desires—then mind renewal and speech transformation follow naturally.

Practical Steps for Heart, Mind, and Mouth TransformationCultivating Heart ChangeConfession: Regularly confess both specific sins and your general need for God’s graceScripture meditation: Don’t just read the Bible—meditate on it, letting it penetrate your heartSurrender: Daily yield your will to God’s will, asking Him to change your desiresCommunity: Surround yourself with people who will lovingly challenge you to growEngaging in Mind RenewalTruth over feelings: When emotions contradict Scripture, choose to believe God’s WordScripture memory: Hide God’s Word in your heart so it’s available when you need itBiblical thinking: Ask “What does God say about this?” before making decisionsMedia diet: Be intentional about what you feed your mindTransforming Your SpeechListen first: Seek to understand before seeking to be understoodSpeak truth: Don’t compromise biblical truth, but speak it with gentleness and respectEncourage others: Look for opportunities to speak words that build upGive thanks: Make gratitude a regular part of your vocabularyThe Beautiful Result

When God completes this work of transformation—heart, mind, and mouth—the result is beautiful. It’s not perfection, but it’s authentic change that others can see and that brings glory to God. People notice when our words match our beliefs, when our beliefs have actually captured our hearts, and when our hearts have been transformed by the gospel.

This is what Jesus meant when He told the Parable of the Sower. Good soil produces lasting fruit not because it tries harder, but because it’s been prepared to receive the seed, understand it, and let it grow into something beautiful.

The process takes time. There will be setbacks. You’ll have days when your heart feels hard, your mind is confused, and your words don’t reflect the transformation God is doing. That’s normal. Sanctification is a lifelong process, not a one-time event.

But here’s the encouragement: God is committed to completing the work He’s started in you. “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus” (Philippians 1:6, NIV).

So guard your heart, for everything flows from it. Let God renew your mind with His truth. And watch as your speech becomes a reflection of the beautiful work He’s doing inside you. This is transformation that lasts—not because we’ve worked harder, but because we’ve learned to cooperate with the God who changes hearts.

What area of transformation—heart, mind, or mouth—is God calling you to focus on today? Remember, authentic change starts from the inside out, in the order God designed. Trust His process, and watch Him do what only He can do.

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Have you ever noticed how the most impressive-looking fruit isn’t always the most flavorful? Those perfectly shaped, glossy apples in the grocery store often lack the rich taste of the smaller, imperfect ones from a home orchard. The difference isn’t just in appearance—it’s in the root system that produced them.

In our Instagram-perfect culture, it’s easy to mistake impressive external appearances for authentic spiritual fruit. We see believers who seem to have it all together—who pray eloquently, quote Scripture effortlessly, and navigate life’s challenges with apparent ease—and wonder if our more ordinary, sometimes struggling faith measures up.

But Jesus taught us that we’d know people by their fruit (Matthew 7:16), and authentic spiritual fruit—like the best produce—comes from deep, healthy roots, not perfect appearances.

The Question That Haunts Many Believers

Maybe you’ve wondered about the genuineness of your own faith, or you’ve been hurt by Christians whose outward appearances didn’t match their character. How can we tell the difference between authentic spiritual growth and mere religious performance?

Jesus addressed this very concern in His Parable of the Sower, where He described four different responses to God’s Word. Only the seed that fell on good soil—hearts that truly heard and understood—produced lasting fruit. The others looked promising initially but failed to endure because they lacked the deep root system that authentic faith requires.

What Authentic Spiritual Fruit Actually Looks Like

When Paul described “the fruit of the Spirit” in Galatians 5:22-23, he gave us a beautiful picture of what authentic spiritual growth produces: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

Notice that this fruit is singular—it’s one fruit with multiple manifestations. Like a healthy tree that naturally produces fruit appropriate to its nature, a heart rooted in Christ naturally displays these characteristics. But what does this look like in real life?

Love That Includes Truth

Authentic spiritual growth produces love that’s both gracious and truthful. It’s not the cultural version of “love” that affirms everything and challenges nothing, nor is it harsh judgment disguised as truth-telling. Instead, it’s love that genuinely cares about others’ well-being enough to speak difficult truths with gentleness and humility.

This kind of love shows up in how we respond to difficult people, how we treat those who can’t do anything for us, and how we navigate disagreements with other believers. It’s patient with slow growth in others because it remembers its own need for grace.

Joy That Transcends Circumstances

The joy that comes from deep spiritual roots isn’t dependent on favorable circumstances. It’s not the forced positivity that insists everything is fine when it’s not, nor is it the temporary happiness that comes from getting what we want.

Instead, it’s a settled confidence in God’s character and promises that can coexist with sorrow, disappointment, and even doubt. It’s the kind of joy that can worship God in the storm because it knows that He is good regardless of what we’re experiencing.

Peace That Passes Understanding

Authentic spiritual fruit includes a peace that, as Paul says, “transcends all understanding” (Philippians 4:7). This isn’t the absence of conflict or difficulty, but rather a deep settledness that comes from knowing we’re held by Someone bigger than our circumstances.

This peace shows up in how we respond to uncertainty, how we handle criticism, and how we navigate seasons of waiting. It’s the kind of peace that can rest in God’s sovereignty even when we don’t understand His ways.

The Root System That Produces Lasting Fruit

But here’s what I’ve learned: This kind of fruit doesn’t come from trying harder to be loving, joyful, or peaceful. It comes from staying connected to the Vine, as Jesus described in John 15. The fruit is the natural result of a healthy root system, not the goal we strain to achieve.

Rooted in God’s Word

Authentic spiritual growth requires deep roots in Scripture. Not just knowing Bible verses or being able to quote passages but allowing God’s Word to shape our understanding of reality. When we’re rooted in Scripture, we have a framework for understanding who God is, who we are, and how we should live.

This means spending time not just reading the Bible, but studying it carefully, learning to interpret it properly, and allowing it to challenge our assumptions and cultural biases. It means being like the Bereans, who “received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true” (Acts 17:11).

Grounded in Prayer

Prayer is another essential element of the root system. Not just asking God for things, but developing a conversational relationship with Him. This includes worship, confession, intercession for others, and simply spending time in His presence.

When our spiritual life is rooted in regular communication with God, it shows in how we respond to crises, how we make decisions, and how we treat other people. We begin to think more like God thinks because we’re regularly in conversation with Him.

Nourished by Community

God designed us for community, and authentic spiritual growth happens best in the context of relationships with other believers. This doesn’t mean perfect Christians—it means people who are committed to growing together in grace and truth.

Healthy Christian community provides encouragement when we’re discouraged, accountability when we’re drifting, and wisdom when we’re confused. It’s where we learn to love imperfect people, practice forgiveness, and discover what it means to “bear one another’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2).

How to Recognize Authentic Growth in Your Own Life

So how can you tell if your spiritual growth is authentic? Here are some indicators to look for:

1. Increasing Hunger for God’s Word

When your spiritual roots are deepening, you’ll find yourself more drawn to Scripture, not less. You’ll want to understand it better, study it more carefully, and apply it more consistently. The Bible becomes less like homework and more like the avenue for knowing God.

2. Growing Concern for Others’ Spiritual Well-being

Authentic spiritual growth naturally produces concern for others. You’ll find yourself praying for people’s salvation and spiritual growth, not just their physical needs and circumstances. You’ll care about their relationship with God, not just their opinion of you.

3. Increasing Awareness of Your Own Sin

Paradoxically, the closer we get to God, the more aware we become of our own need for grace. This isn’t condemnation but conviction—the kind that drives us to the cross rather than away from God. We become quicker to confess, quicker to forgive, and slower to judge others.

4. Deepening Trust in God’s Character

As we grow spiritually, we become less dependent on trying to understand God’s ways and more confident in His character. We can trust Him in difficult circumstances because we know He is good, even when we can’t see how everything will work out.

5. Natural Overflow of Grace

When we’re truly rooted in God’s grace, it begins to overflow naturally to others. We become more patient, more forgiving, more generous. Not because we’re trying harder, but because we’re more aware of how much we’ve been forgiven.

When Growth Feels Slow or Invisible

But what about those seasons when spiritual growth feels stagnant? When you don’t see the fruit you long for in your life? This is where understanding the Parable of the Sower becomes so important.

Sometimes what feels like a lack of growth is actually the deep, underground work of root development. The farmer knows that the most important work happens beneath the surface, where strong root systems develop slowly and steadily. The fruit we see above ground is only possible because of the unseen work happening below.

Don’t despise the seasons of root development. Don’t mistake the absence of visible fruit for the absence of growth. God may be doing the most important work in your life during seasons when you feel as if nothing is happening. Trials and temptations are often opportunities for spiritual growth.

Trust the Process

Remember that authentic spiritual growth is a lifelong process. Paul reminded the Philippians that he was confident that “he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus” (Philippians 1:6). God isn’t finished with you yet.

The same God who can make seed grow in secret places can produce authentic spiritual fruit in your life. But He does it His way, in His timing, according to His wisdom. Our job isn’t to manufacture the fruit but to maintain the root system—staying connected to Christ through His Word, prayer, and community.

The Beauty of Authentic Growth

Here’s what I love about authentic spiritual growth: It’s not about perfection or performance. It’s about transformation. It’s not about impressing others with our spirituality but about becoming more like Jesus in our character.

When spiritual growth is authentic, it’s attractive to others not because it’s flawless but because it’s real. People are drawn to believers who are genuine about their struggles, honest about their failures, and yet clearly growing in grace. They see the fruit and want to know about the root.

This is what the world desperately needs to see—not perfect Christians, but authentic ones. Not people who have it all figured out, but people who are being transformed by the power of the gospel. Not fruit that’s been forced or manufactured, but fruit that grows naturally from deep roots in Christ.

Your Invitation to Deeper Roots

As we continue through this season of spiritual growth and harvest, I want to encourage you: Don’t be discouraged if your spiritual fruit doesn’t look like someone else’s. God is growing you according to His purposes and His timeline. Your job is to stay rooted in Him.

Keep studying His Word, even when it’s difficult to understand. Keep praying, even when you don’t feel like it. Keep connecting with other believers, even when relationships are messy. Keep trusting His process, even when growth feels slow.

The fruit will come. Not because you’re perfect, but because He is faithful. Not because you’ve earned it, but because you’re connected to the True Vine. Not because you’re trying harder, but because you’re trusting deeper.

Jesus promised that those who abide in Him will bear much fruit (John 15:5). The question isn’t whether you’re good enough to produce fruit—you’re not, and neither am I. The question is whether you’re willing to stay connected to the One who is the source of all spiritual life and growth.

The harvest is coming. Your spiritual fruit may look different from others’, but if it’s growing from deep roots in Christ, it will be beautiful, nourishing, and lasting.

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Sometimes the seed of God’s Word was scattered on hearts that weren’t ready—hardened by religious hypocrisy, shallow from lack of understanding, or choked by worldly concerns. But the beautiful truth is that the same Farmer who scattered that first seed can prepare the soil and plant again. Your story isn’t over.

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What evidence of spiritual growth have you noticed in your own life recently? I’d love to hear your stories of how God has been working in your heart. Share in the comments below and let’s encourage one another in this journey of authentic faith.

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“A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown” (Matthew 13:3-8, NIV).

Jesus told many parables during His earthly ministry, but there’s something unique about the Parable of the Sower. It’s one of the first parables He actually explained to His disciples, and it comes with this sobering warning: “If you don’t understand this parable, how will you understand any of the parables?” (Mark 4:13, NIV).

Why is this story so foundational? Because it reveals something crucial about the human heart and how we respond to God’s truth. In our current cultural moment, when so many are walking away from faith or questioning what they once believed, understanding this parable has never been more important.

The Seed That Never Changes

Before we examine the different types of soil, we need to understand what remains constant in Jesus’ story: the seed. In Luke’s account, Jesus explicitly tells us that “the seed is the word of God” (Luke 8:11, NIV).

The seed doesn’t change. God’s Word is living and active, sharper than any double-edged sword. The gospel message—that we are sinners in need of a Savior, that Jesus died in our place, that salvation comes by grace through faith—remains the same across cultures and centuries.

The power isn’t in the sower’s technique or the circumstances surrounding the planting. The power is in the seed itself. As Isaiah reminds us, God’s word “will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it” (Isaiah 55:11, NIV).

This gives me hope when I see people walking away from faith. The problem isn’t with the gospel—it’s with how the gospel was received or presented. The seed is still good. The question is: What kind of soil are our hearts?

The Path: When Truth Never Takes Root

“When anyone hears the message about the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what was sown in their hearts. This is the seed sown along the path” (Matthew 13:19, NIV).

The path represents hearts that are hardened by repeated exposure to superficial Christianity. Maybe you grew up in a home where the name “Christian” was claimed, but the life wasn’t lived. Perhaps you encountered legalism without love, rules without relationship, or performance without genuine transformation.

In first-century Palestine, villagers would create pathways right through farmers’ fields. The constant foot traffic packed the soil so hard that seeds couldn’t penetrate. Before they could take root, they were either trampled underfoot or snatched away by birds.

This is what happens when our hearts become hardened by hypocrisy, hurt, or hollow religion. The gospel bounces off the surface because there’s no soft soil for it to penetrate. Satan, described here as the evil one, quickly snatches away whatever truth was shared before it can take root.

If this describes your experience, please know: The problem wasn’t with the gospel itself, but with how it was presented or the condition of your heart when you first heard it. The same Farmer who scattered that first seed can prepare the soil and sow again.

Rocky Ground: Faith Without Foundation

“The seed falling on rocky ground refers to someone who hears the word and at once receives it with joy. But since they have no root, they last only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, they quickly fall away” (Matthew 13:20-21, NIV).

This might be the most heartbreaking response because it starts so well. There’s genuine joy, immediate acceptance, and visible growth. The problem isn’t insincerity—it’s shallowness.

In Jesus’ day, rocky ground referred to limestone bedrock covered with a thin layer of topsoil. Seeds would sprout quickly because the rock layer would heat up in the sun, but when that same sun beat down later, the shallow-rooted plants would wither and die.

This represents people who respond to the gospel emotionally but never develop deep roots through discipleship. They’re drawn to the benefits of faith—love, joy, peace, purpose—but they’re never grounded in the foundational truths of Scripture. When trials come (and Jesus promised they would), their faith has nothing to sustain it.

Modern evangelism often creates this kind of shallow faith. We emphasize the benefits of following Jesus without explaining the cost. We promise your best life now without mentioning the call to take up your cross daily. We give people Jesus as Savior but never teach them to surrender to Him as Lord.

The result? Converts without disciples. Decisions without transformation. People who “prayed the prayer” but never learned to follow the Person.

Among the Thorns: Choked by Competing Loves

“The seed falling among the thorns refers to someone who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, making it unfruitful” (Matthew 13:22, NIV).

This soil produces the most tragic result of all: believers who never become fruitful. They understand the gospel. They’ve even weathered some storms. But their spiritual growth is stunted because their hearts are divided.

Jesus identified three specific “thorns” that choke out spiritual fruitfulness:

The worries of this life – When anxiety about health, finances, relationships, or the future consumes our thoughts, there’s little room for God’s truth to grow.

The deceitfulness of wealth – It’s not riches themselves but the lie that more stuff will satisfy us. When material things become our treasure, our hearts follow.

The desires for other things – This is the catch-all category. Anything that competes with Christ for the affection of our hearts—career ambition, social media approval, entertainment, even good things like family—can become thorns if we make them ultimate.

The seed among thorns doesn’t die; it just never produces fruit. These believers may attend church regularly, know biblical facts, and even serve in ministry. But they’re spiritually barren because their love is divided.

Good Soil: Hearts That Hear, Understand, and Bear Fruit

“But the seed falling on good soil refers to someone who hears the word and understands it. This is the one who produces a crop, yielding a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown” (Matthew 13:23, NIV).

Finally, we come to the heart condition that Jesus desires for all of us. Good soil faith is characterized by three key elements:

Hearing – Not just listening to information, but receiving God’s truth with a heart that’s open and eager to learn.

Understanding – This goes beyond intellectual comprehension to heart-level conviction. It’s the kind of understanding that leads to transformation.

Bearing fruit – The inevitable result of good soil faith is spiritual fruitfulness—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control flowing from a life connected to Christ.

Notice that Jesus doesn’t promise uniform production. Some yield a hundred-fold, others sixty, others thirty. But all good soil produces fruit. That’s the non-negotiable mark of authentic faith.

The Question That Changes Everything

As we examine these four responses to the gospel, the question isn’t “Which soil am I?” but rather “Which soil am I becoming?” The beautiful truth is that hearts can change. The Farmer is patient and persistent, continually working to prepare good soil for His word.

Maybe your first encounter with Christianity was on the hardened path of religious hypocrisy. Maybe you had a shallow, emotional response that withered when life got hard. Maybe you’ve been a believer for years but recognize that worldly concerns have choked out your spiritual fruitfulness.

The same God who spoke this parable can soften hard hearts, deepen shallow soil, and clear away the thorns that prevent growth. He’s not looking for perfect people—He’s looking for receptive hearts.

Preparing Good Soil

So how do we cultivate the kind of heart that receives God’s word and bears lasting fruit? It starts with honestly examining the condition of our spiritual soil:

Break up the hard ground through repentance. Ask God to reveal any areas where your heart has been hardened by hurt, pride, or rebellion.

Dig deeper roots through consistent Bible study and prayer. Shallow faith comes from shallow engagement with God’s truth.

Clear away the thorns by identifying and addressing the competing loves in your life. What besides Christ is vying for your ultimate affection?

Stay connected to the Vine through daily surrender and dependence on Christ. As Jesus said, “Apart from me you can do nothing” (John 15:5, NIV).

The gospel is still the power of God for salvation. The seed is still good. The question is whether our hearts are prepared to receive it, understand it, and allow it to bear fruit that lasts.

In a world full of shallow spirituality and hardened hearts, good soil faith stands out. It’s rooted, resilient, and fruitful. It’s the kind of faith that can weather any storm and thrive in any season.

What kind of soil is your heart today?

This month, we’re exploring the profound truths found in Jesus’ Parable of the Sower as we prepare for the launch of my new book, “Good Ground: Cultivating Deep Roots of Faith after Disillusionment, Disappointment, or Doubt” on September 1st.

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“A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown” (Matthew 13:3-8, NIV).

Jesus told many parables during His earthly ministry, but there’s something unique about the Parable of the Sower. It’s one of the first parables He actually explained to His disciples, and it comes with this sobering warning: “If you don’t understand this parable, how will you understand any of the parables?” (Mark 4:13, NIV).

Why is this story so foundational? Because it reveals something crucial about the human heart and how we respond to God’s truth. In our current cultural moment, when so many are walking away from faith or questioning what they once believed, understanding this parable has never been more important.

The Seed That Never Changes

Before we examine the different types of soil, we need to understand what remains constant in Jesus’ story: the seed. In Luke’s account, Jesus explicitly tells us that “the seed is the word of God” (Luke 8:11, NIV).

The seed doesn’t change. God’s Word is living and active, sharper than any double-edged sword. The gospel message—that we are sinners in need of a Savior, that Jesus died in our place, that salvation comes by grace through faith—remains the same across cultures and centuries.

The power isn’t in the sower’s technique or the circumstances surrounding the planting. The power is in the seed itself. As Isaiah reminds us, God’s word “will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it” (Isaiah 55:11, NIV).

This gives me hope when I see people walking away from faith. The problem isn’t with the gospel—it’s with how the gospel was received or presented. The seed is still good. The question is: What kind of soil are our hearts?

The Path: When Truth Never Takes Root

“When anyone hears the message about the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what was sown in their hearts. This is the seed sown along the path” (Matthew 13:19, NIV).

The path represents hearts that are hardened by repeated exposure to superficial Christianity. Maybe you grew up in a home where the name “Christian” was claimed, but the life wasn’t lived. Perhaps you encountered legalism without love, rules without relationship, or performance without genuine transformation.

In first-century Palestine, villagers would create pathways right through farmers’ fields. The constant foot traffic packed the soil so hard that seeds couldn’t penetrate. Before they could take root, they were either trampled underfoot or snatched away by birds.

This is what happens when our hearts become hardened by hypocrisy, hurt, or hollow religion. The gospel bounces off the surface because there’s no soft soil for it to penetrate. Satan, described here as the evil one, quickly snatches away whatever truth was shared before it can take root.

If this describes your experience, please know: The problem wasn’t with the gospel itself, but with how it was presented or the condition of your heart when you first heard it. The same Farmer who scattered that first seed can prepare the soil and sow again.

Rocky Ground: Faith Without Foundation

“The seed falling on rocky ground refers to someone who hears the word and at once receives it with joy. But since they have no root, they last only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, they quickly fall away” (Matthew 13:20-21, NIV).

This might be the most heartbreaking response because it starts so well. There’s genuine joy, immediate acceptance, and visible growth. The problem isn’t insincerity—it’s shallowness.

In Jesus’ day, rocky ground referred to limestone bedrock covered with a thin layer of topsoil. Seeds would sprout quickly because the rock layer would heat up in the sun, but when that same sun beat down later, the shallow-rooted plants would wither and die.

This represents people who respond to the gospel emotionally but never develop deep roots through discipleship. They’re drawn to the benefits of faith—love, joy, peace, purpose—but they’re never grounded in the foundational truths of Scripture. When trials come (and Jesus promised they would), their faith has nothing to sustain it.

Modern evangelism often creates this kind of shallow faith. We emphasize the benefits of following Jesus without explaining the cost. We promise your best life now without mentioning the call to take up your cross daily. We give people Jesus as Savior but never teach them to surrender to Him as Lord.

The result? Converts without disciples. Decisions without transformation. People who “prayed the prayer” but never learned to follow the Person.

Among the Thorns: Choked by Competing Loves

“The seed falling among the thorns refers to someone who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, making it unfruitful” (Matthew 13:22, NIV).

This soil produces the most tragic result of all: believers who never become fruitful. They understand the gospel. They’ve even weathered some storms. But their spiritual growth is stunted because their hearts are divided.

Jesus identified three specific “thorns” that choke out spiritual fruitfulness:

The worries of this life – When anxiety about health, finances, relationships, or the future consumes our thoughts, there’s little room for God’s truth to grow.

The deceitfulness of wealth – It’s not riches themselves but the lie that more stuff will satisfy us. When material things become our treasure, our hearts follow.

The desires for other things – This is the catch-all category. Anything that competes with Christ for the affection of our hearts—career ambition, social media approval, entertainment, even good things like family—can become thorns if we make them ultimate.

The seed among thorns doesn’t die; it just never produces fruit. These believers may attend church regularly, know biblical facts, and even serve in ministry. But they’re spiritually barren because their love is divided.

Good Soil: Hearts That Hear, Understand, and Bear Fruit

“But the seed falling on good soil refers to someone who hears the word and understands it. This is the one who produces a crop, yielding a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown” (Matthew 13:23, NIV).

Finally, we come to the heart condition that Jesus desires for all of us. Good soil faith is characterized by three key elements:

Hearing – Not just listening to information, but receiving God’s truth with a heart that’s open and eager to learn.

Understanding – This goes beyond intellectual comprehension to heart-level conviction. It’s the kind of understanding that leads to transformation.

Bearing fruit – The inevitable result of good soil faith is spiritual fruitfulness—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control flowing from a life connected to Christ.

Notice that Jesus doesn’t promise uniform production. Some yield a hundred-fold, others sixty, others thirty. But all good soil produces fruit. That’s the non-negotiable mark of authentic faith.

The Question That Changes Everything

As we examine these four responses to the gospel, the question isn’t “Which soil am I?” but rather “Which soil am I becoming?” The beautiful truth is that hearts can change. The Farmer is patient and persistent, continually working to prepare good soil for His word.

Maybe your first encounter with Christianity was on the hardened path of religious hypocrisy. Maybe you had a shallow, emotional response that withered when life got hard. Maybe you’ve been a believer for years but recognize that worldly concerns have choked out your spiritual fruitfulness.

The same God who spoke this parable can soften hard hearts, deepen shallow soil, and clear away the thorns that prevent growth. He’s not looking for perfect people—He’s looking for receptive hearts.

Preparing Good Soil

So how do we cultivate the kind of heart that receives God’s word and bears lasting fruit? It starts with honestly examining the condition of our spiritual soil:

Break up the hard ground through repentance. Ask God to reveal any areas where your heart has been hardened by hurt, pride, or rebellion.

Dig deeper roots through consistent Bible study and prayer. Shallow faith comes from shallow engagement with God’s truth.

Clear away the thorns by identifying and addressing the competing loves in your life. What besides Christ is vying for your ultimate affection?

Stay connected to the Vine through daily surrender and dependence on Christ. As Jesus said, “Apart from me you can do nothing” (John 15:5, NIV).

The gospel is still the power of God for salvation. The seed is still good. The question is whether our hearts are prepared to receive it, understand it, and allow it to bear fruit that lasts.

In a world full of shallow spirituality and hardened hearts, good soil faith stands out. It’s rooted, resilient, and fruitful. It’s the kind of faith that can weather any storm and thrive in any season.

What kind of soil is your heart today?

This month, we’re exploring the profound truths found in Jesus’ Parable of the Sower as we prepare for the launch of my new book, “Good Ground: Cultivating Deep Roots of Faith after Disillusionment, Disappointment, or Doubt” on September 1st.

Click here to join the launch team for Good Ground!

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When the waves of life crash against us with relentless force, where do we find our stability? When circumstances shift like sand beneath our feet, what keeps us from being swept away? The answer isn’t found in positive thinking, personal strength, or comforting ourselves with unhealthy responses. Our unshakeable foundation is found in the unchanging character of God Himself.

The Foundation That Cannot Be Moved

I’ve witnessed many women who’ve faced devastating seasons: unexpected job loss, marriage struggles, wayward children, health crises, or the death of loved ones. In these moments, well-meaning friends often offer comfort through platitudes: “Everything happens for a reason,” or “God won’t give you more than you can handle” (which isn’t even true–see 2 Corinthians 1:8-9). While the intentions are kind, these phrases often fall short of providing the deep, lasting comfort our souls desperately need.

What does provide that comfort? Knowing who God is—not just what He does, but His essential character and attributes. When we’re grounded in the truth of God’s nature, we have an anchor that holds firm regardless of our circumstances.

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea” (Psalm 46:1-2, NIV).

Notice that the psalmist’s confidence isn’t based on his circumstances remaining stable, but on God’s unchanging character as refuge and strength.

Three Attributes That Anchor Us

Let me share three of God’s attributes that have personally sustained me through difficult seasons, and how understanding these truths can transform how we navigate trials.

1. God’s Sovereignty: He Is in Complete Control

When life feels chaotic and unpredictable, we can rest in the truth that God is sovereign over all things. This doesn’t mean He causes every difficult circumstance, but it does mean that nothing touches our lives without His knowledge and permission.

“The LORD has established his throne in heaven, and his kingdom rules over all” (Psalm 103:19, NIV).

God’s sovereignty isn’t distant or detached—it’s the sovereignty of a loving Father who works all things together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28).

I remember a season when multiple crises hit our family simultaneously. My natural tendency was to try to control and fix everything (and eat a pizza). But understanding God’s sovereignty allowed me to release my death grip on circumstances I couldn’t change anyway. It didn’t remove the pain, but it provided peace in the midst of the storm.

2. God’s Faithfulness: He Always Keeps His Promises

Human promises are fragile things. People disappoint us, circumstances change, and even our own commitments sometimes falter. But God’s faithfulness is perfect and unwavering.

“Your faithfulness continues through all generations; you established the earth, and it endures” (Psalm 119:90, NIV).

Just as the earth continues its faithful orbit around the sun, God’s commitment to us never wavers.

When doubts whisper that God has forgotten you or that His promises don’t apply to your situation, remember: God’s faithfulness isn’t dependent on your feelings or circumstances. It’s rooted in His unchanging character. Every promise in Scripture is yes and amen in Christ Jesus (2 Corinthians 1:20).

3. God’s Love: It Is Unchanging and Unconditional

Perhaps the most difficult truth to grasp during trials is that God’s love for us never diminishes. We’re tempted to measure His love by our circumstances, concluding that painful seasons mean He loves us less or is punishing us.

But Scripture tells us a different story:

“Neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:39, NIV).

God’s love isn’t a feeling that fluctuates based on our performance or circumstances—it’s a settled commitment rooted in His character.

Practical Ways to Ground Yourself in God’s Character

Knowing these truths intellectually is one thing; allowing them to transform how we navigate trials is another. Here are some practical ways to ground yourself in God’s character:

1. Study God’s Names and Attributes Each name of God in Scripture reveals something about His character. Spend time studying names like El Shaddai (God Almighty), El Roi (the God who sees), or Adonai (Lord and Master).

2. Keep a “Character Journal” When you read Scripture, note what each passage reveals about God’s character. Over time, you’ll build a treasury of truths about who He is that you can draw from during difficult seasons.

3. Pray God’s Character Back to Him Instead of just asking God for what you need, spend time acknowledging who He is. “Father, because You are faithful, I trust You with this uncertainty. Because You are sovereign, I rest in Your control over this situation.”

4. Memorize Anchor Verses Choose key verses about God’s character and commit them to memory. When emotions threaten to overwhelm you, these truths will be readily available to steady your heart.

The Difference It Makes

Understanding God’s character doesn’t eliminate trials, but it fundamentally changes how we experience them. Instead of being victims of circumstances, we become people who can say with Job, “Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him” (Job 13:15, NIV).

When we know that God is sovereign, we can rest instead of strive. When we know He is faithful, we can trust instead of fear. When we know He loves us unconditionally, we can find peace instead of despair.

This isn’t positive thinking or denial of real pain—it’s grounding ourselves in objective truth about who God is, regardless of what we feel or see in the moment.

Your Next Step

As we begin this month focused on knowing God more deeply, I encourage you to ask yourself: Which of God’s attributes do I most need to understand better right now? Is it His sovereignty when life feels out of control? His faithfulness when I’m struggling with doubt? His love when I feel distant from Him?

Choose one attribute to focus on this week. Search for verses that reveal this aspect of God’s character, and ask Him to make these truths real to your heart, not just your head.

Remember: The storms of life will come, but when we’re anchored in the unchanging character of God, we can weather any storm with confidence and peace.

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Rachel watched as her sister Leah was given in marriage to Jacob first, despite Jacob’s love for her. Later, as Leah bore child after child while Rachel remained barren, we can almost feel the weight of comparison crushing Rachel’s heart. “Give me children, or I shall die!” she cried to Jacob in Genesis 30:1, her pain spilling over into desperate demand.

But here’s what’s remarkable about Rachel’s story: even in her struggle with comparison and envy, God had a unique plan for her life. She would eventually bear Joseph and Benjamin—sons who would play crucial roles in God’s redemptive story. Her worth wasn’t determined by how quickly she bore children compared to her sister, but by God’s sovereign timing and purpose for her life.

Rachel’s story resonates across the centuries because comparison is one of humanity’s oldest struggles. And unfortunately, it’s become easier than ever to fall into this trap in our social media-saturated world, where we’re constantly confronted with curated glimpses of everyone else’s highlight reels.

The Deadly Lie Behind Comparison

At the heart of every comparison lies a deadly spiritual lie: that our worth and calling are determined by how we measure up to others rather than by God’s sovereign choice and design.

When we compare our ministry, our gifts, our impact, or our spiritual growth to someone else’s, we’re essentially saying that God made a mistake when He created us with our unique combination of experiences, personality, and calling. We’re suggesting that He should have made us more like someone else instead of exactly who He designed us to be.

This isn’t just harmful to our self-esteem—it’s a subtle form of rebellion against God’s perfect plan and design for our lives.

Why Comparison Is Especially Dangerous for Christian Women

As Christian women, we face unique challenges when it comes to comparison:

1. The “Good Christian Woman” Standard

Social media presents us with an endless parade of women who seem to have it all together spiritually. They post beautiful Scripture graphics, share profound insights, lead ministries, and appear to have perfect families who love Jesus. Against this backdrop, our own struggles with doubt, parenting challenges, and ordinary spiritual growth can feel inadequate.

But here’s the truth: those curated online personas don’t represent the full reality of anyone’s life. Everyone struggles. Everyone has seasons of doubt. Everyone has areas where they’re still growing. The difference is that most people don’t post about their failures, fears, or ordinary Tuesday afternoons.

2. The Ministry Comparison Game

In ministry circles, comparison can be particularly toxic. We compare:

The size of our platforms to others’The eloquence of our teaching to others’The dramatic nature of our testimonies to others’The success of our books, blogs, or ministries to others’The number of people we’ve influenced to others’

This kind of comparison not only steals our joy but can actually hinder our effectiveness. When we’re focused on what others are doing, we’re not fully present to what God is calling us to do.

3. The Calling Confusion

Perhaps most dangerously, comparison can make us question or abandon the specific calling God has placed on our lives. We see someone else’s success and think, “Maybe I should be doing what she’s doing instead.” Or we see someone else’s gifts and think, “I’ll never be as good as her, so why bother trying?”

This is exactly what the enemy wants—for us to be so focused on others’ callings that we neglect our own.

The Spiritual Roots of Comparison

To truly overcome comparison, we need to understand its spiritual roots:

Pride in Disguise

Often, what we think is humble self-deprecation (“I’m not as good as her”) is actually pride in disguise. We’re so focused on ourselves—our performance, our reputation, our success—that we can’t see beyond our own reflection to serve others or glorify God.

True humility isn’t thinking less of ourselves; it’s thinking of ourselves less.

Lack of Trust in God’s Sovereignty

When we constantly compare ourselves to others, we’re revealing that we don’t fully trust God’s sovereignty over our lives. We’re essentially saying, “God, I know You say You have plans for me, but I think You gave her better plans.”

Fear-Based Living

Comparison often stems from fear—fear that we’re not enough, fear that we’ll be forgotten, fear that our lives won’t matter. But “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7).

The Freedom Found in Your Unique Calling

Here’s the beautiful truth that comparison tries to steal from us: God designed you with your exact combination of experiences, personality, gifts, and circumstances because the world needs what only you can offer.

Your Story Matters

Your testimony doesn’t have to be the most dramatic to be powerful. Sometimes the most impactful stories are the quiet ones—the testimonies of God’s faithfulness in ordinary circumstances, His grace in everyday struggles, His love in mundane moments.

The woman who overcame addiction has a powerful story, but so does the woman who learned to trust God through years of infertility. The woman who helped plant a church has an important testimony, but so does the woman who faithfully taught Sunday school for thirty years.

Your People Are Waiting

There are people in your sphere of influence who need to hear exactly what God has taught you, in exactly the way you would share it. Your personality, your way of explaining things, your particular insights—these aren’t accidents. They’re part of how God designed you to serve others.

Your Obedience, Not Your Success

God doesn’t call us to be successful by worldly standards; He calls us to be faithful. Your job is to steward the gifts, experiences, and calling He’s given you. The results are His responsibility.

Practical Steps to Break Free from Comparison1. Limit Social Media Consumption

If social media consistently triggers comparison for you, it’s time to set boundaries. Consider:

Unfollowing accounts that consistently make you feel inadequateSetting specific times for social media rather than mindless scrollingTaking regular social media breaksFocusing on encouraging others online rather than self-promotion2. Practice Gratitude for Others’ Success

When you see someone else succeeding in an area where you’d like to grow, instead of allowing envy to take root, practice genuine gratitude. Thank God for what He’s doing through that person, and ask Him to help you celebrate others’ victories rather than viewing them as competition.

3. Focus on Your Own Growth

Keep a journal of how God is working in your life, the lessons He’s teaching you, and the ways you’re growing. When you’re tempted to compare your progress to others’, look back at how far you’ve come in your own journey.

4. Seek Wise Counsel

Find a mentor or trusted friend who can help you gain perspective when comparison threatens to derail your calling. Sometimes we need others to remind us of our unique gifts and calling when we can’t see them clearly ourselves.

5. Remember Your Why

Regularly remind yourself why you feel called to write, teach, minister, or serve. When your motivation is rooted in love for God and others rather than personal achievement, comparison loses much of its power.

Moving Forward in Freedom

As we journey together through this month’s focus on moving from comparison to contentment, I want to encourage you with this truth: God’s calling on your life is not a consolation prize. It’s not what He gave you because someone else got the “better” calling. It’s His perfect, intentional design for your unique contribution to His kingdom.

Your story matters. Your voice matters. Your calling matters.

Don’t let comparison steal another day of walking in the freedom and purpose God designed specifically for you.

A Prayer for Freedom from Comparison

Father, forgive me for the times I’ve looked at others’ callings and wished You had given me something different. Help me to trust Your sovereignty over my life and to see my unique gifts and experiences as treasures rather than limitations. Give me the courage to step into the calling You’ve placed on my life, regardless of how it compares to others’. Help me to celebrate others’ successes without feeling diminished by them. Show me how to steward the story and gifts You’ve given me for Your glory and others’ good. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Have you ever watched a potter at work? There’s something mesmerizing about seeing a lump of formless clay gradually take shape under skilled hands. The transformation doesn’t happen through force or sudden pressure, but through steady, purposeful touch. The clay yields to the gentle yet firm guidance of the potter, becoming something beautiful it could never become on its own.

This image comes to mind when I think about the Holy Spirit’s work in our lives. So often, we approach spiritual growth with checklists and self-improvement strategies, forgetting that true transformation isn’t something we accomplish but something we yield to.

The Helper We Often Overlook

I’ve noticed a curious tendency in many of our conversations about spiritual growth. We talk about reading our Bibles, praying faithfully, serving in ministry, and confessing our sins. All of these disciplines are vital, of course. But how often do we explicitly acknowledge the Person who makes all spiritual growth possible?

As A.W. Tozer reminds us, “The Spirit-filled life is not a special, deluxe edition of Christianity. It is part and parcel of the total plan of God for His people.” The Holy Spirit isn’t an optional upgrade to our faith — He’s the very power by which we live the Christian life.

Think about what Jesus told His disciples: “It is to your advantage that I go away, for if I do not go away, the Helper [Gr. parakletos: one who pleads another’s cause, who helps another by defending or comforting him] will not come to you” (John 16:7). What an astonishing statement! Jesus was saying that having the Holy Spirit would be better than having Jesus physically present because He would come to dwell within us. That’s how essential the Spirit’s role is in our lives.

The Spirit’s Transforming Work

So what exactly does the Holy Spirit do in our sanctification? Let me share three key aspects of His gentle yet powerful work:

1. He Illuminates Truth

Have you ever read a familiar Bible passage only to suddenly see it in a completely new light? That’s the Holy Spirit’s illuminating work. He doesn’t just help us understand information; He helps us encounter the living God through His Word.

“When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth” (John 16:13). Notice that Jesus doesn’t say the Spirit will merely teach us truth but guide us into it. This suggests a journey, an unfolding process of discovery rather than a one-time download of information.

I remember wrestling with a particular sin pattern in my life for years. I had memorized all the right verses and could tell you theologically why my behavior was wrong. But it wasn’t until the Holy Spirit illuminated those truths to my heart — making them personal and alive — that transformation began to happen.

2. He Convicts Without Condemning

One of the Spirit’s most misunderstood roles is conviction. Many of us grew up thinking of the Holy Spirit as a divine policeman, always on the lookout for our mistakes. But conviction is not the same as condemnation.

Romans 8:1 tells us, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” The Spirit’s conviction doesn’t crush us with shame or fear; it lovingly exposes what’s hindering our relationship with God so we can return to full fellowship with Him.

When the Spirit convicts, He always points to a solution — the cross of Christ. The enemy condemns to paralyze us; the Spirit convicts to free us.

3. He Produces Spiritual Fruit

Perhaps the most beautiful aspect of the Spirit’s work is how He produces fruit in our lives. Notice Galatians 5:22-23 says “the fruit of the Spirit,” not “the fruits of the Christian.” Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control aren’t character traits we manufacture through willpower. They’re the natural result of the Spirit’s presence in our lives.

Just as an apple tree doesn’t strain to produce apples — it simply yields to the life-giving processes that cause fruit to grow — we don’t need to strain to produce spiritual fruit. Our role is to abide in Christ (John 15:5) and keep in step with the Spirit (Galatians 5:25).

The Art of Yielding

If the Holy Spirit is the one who transforms us, what’s our role in sanctification? I believe it’s best captured by a single word: yielding.

This isn’t passive resignation but active surrender. It means:

Creating space for the Spirit to work through spiritual disciplinesResponding promptly to His gentle nudges and convictionRemoving obstacles that grieve or quench His work in our livesTrusting His timing rather than demanding instant transformation

As Tozer beautifully expresses it: “If you yield yourself up to His divine working, the Lord will alter your nature; He will subdue the old nature, and breathe new life into you.”

When Transformation Feels Slow

Can I be honest about something? Sometimes I grow impatient with the pace of my spiritual growth. I want immediate victory over sin, instant emotional healing, and quick answers to difficult questions. Perhaps you can relate.

In those moments of impatience, I try to remember that the Spirit works like a gardener, not a magician. Gardeners understand the importance of seasons, the necessity of pruning, and the reality that growth happens slowly, often imperceptibly, but steadily over time.

The transformation the Spirit works in us isn’t just about changing our behavior; it’s about changing our deepest desires and motivations. That kind of deep change rarely happens overnight.

A Prayer for Greater Yielding

As we enter this month focused on the Holy Spirit’s work in our lives, I invite you to pray this prayer with me:

Holy Spirit, I acknowledge my complete dependence on You for my spiritual growth. Forgive me for the times I’ve tried to transform myself through sheer willpower or have ignored Your gentle guidance. Today, I yield myself afresh to Your work in my life. Illuminate truth to my heart, convict me where needed, and produce Your fruit in me as I abide in Christ. Help me to recognize and respond to Your voice. In Jesus’ name, amen.

In the coming weeks, we’ll explore practical ways to cooperate with the Spirit’s transforming work in our lives over on the Facebook page, Grounded & Growing with Jennifer H. Yates. But for now, I encourage you to simply sit with this question: In what area of your life might the Holy Spirit be inviting you to yield more fully to His gentle touch?

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Have you ever been caught in a cycle that goes something like this?

You wake up determined: “Today will be different. Today I’ll conquer this sin. Today I’ll trust God completely.”

By mid-afternoon, you’ve failed. Again. The familiar weight of shame settles on your shoulders, and you find yourself thinking, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I get this right? Other Christians don’t seem to struggle this much.”

And so you resolve to try harder tomorrow. To be more disciplined. To finally become the Christian you think you should be.

But what if I told you that this exhausting cycle isn’t just unnecessary—it actually misses the heart of the gospel?

The Surprising Truth About Our Struggles

For too many of us, struggles with sin and suffering feel like evidence that we’re failing at the Christian life. We assume that mature Christians don’t struggle like we do, or at least not with the same sins we face. And we believe the path forward is simply more effort, more discipline, more striving.

But what if our struggles—far from being obstacles to experiencing Christ—are actually doorways to deeper communion with Him?

This isn’t just wishful thinking. It’s the consistent testimony of Scripture.

Consider Paul, who pleaded with God three times to remove his “thorn in the flesh.” God’s response wasn’t, “Try harder” or “Be more disciplined.” Instead, He said, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9).

Or remember Peter, who after denying Jesus three times, was met not with condemnation but with a gentle restoration and a threefold commission to feed Jesus’s sheep.

The pattern is clear: our weaknesses are not barriers to God’s work in our lives but the very places where His grace shines most brightly.

The Heart That Draws Near When We Struggle

One of the most profound insights of Scripture is that Jesus is not repelled by our weakness. In fact, the opposite is true.

In Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus doesn’t say, “Come to me, all you who have gotten your act together.” He says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

As Dane Ortlund beautifully expresses in his book Gentle and Lowly, “The sins of those who belong to God open the floodgates of his heart of compassion for us.”

This isn’t a license to sin, of course. But it is a reminder that when we do sin, we run to Christ rather than away from Him. Our failures don’t disqualify us from His presence—they’re precisely why we need His presence.

Gospel-Driven Sanctification

Many of us operate with a subtle but dangerous assumption: the gospel saves us, but our sanctification (our growth in holiness) depends primarily on our efforts.

But this misunderstands both the gospel and sanctification. The same grace that justifies us also sanctifies us. The same Christ who died to forgive our sins lives to heal them.

Consider Galatians 3:3, where Paul asks, “Are you so foolish? After beginning by means of the Spirit, are you now trying to finish by means of the flesh?”

The point is clear: Our growth in Christ isn’t powered by human effort alone but by continuing to rest in and respond to the finished work of Christ. We don’t graduate from grace to law, we simply go deeper into the inexhaustible riches of Christ.

Practical Steps for Grace-Driven Growth

So what does this look like practically? How do we embrace a vision of sanctification that’s driven by grace rather than by guilt and striving? Here are four suggestions:

1. Run the Right Direction

When you sin, notice your first instinct. Is it to hide from God until you can “fix yourself”? Next time, try the counterintuitive approach: run immediately to Christ with your failure.

Pray honestly: “Lord, I’ve failed again. But instead of hiding in shame, I’m bringing this straight to You. Show me Your heart toward me right now.”

2. Replace “Try Harder” with “Trust Deeper”

When facing temptation or failure, our natural response is to grit our teeth and try harder. But what if instead, we paused to remember and trust the character of Christ?

Instead of saying, “I need to be stronger,” try saying, “Jesus, I need to see Your strength and beauty more clearly right now.”

3. Let Your Struggles Deepen Your Compassion

Our own struggles with sin and suffering give us unique insight into the struggles of others. As Paul writes, God “comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God” (2 Corinthians 1:4).

How might your current struggles be preparing you to extend grace to someone else?

4. Meditate on Christ’s Heart Toward You

Our view of Jesus profoundly shapes how we approach Him in our struggles. If we see Him primarily as disappointed or frustrated with our failures, we’ll naturally avoid Him when we fail.

Take time this month to meditate on passages that reveal Christ’s heart toward struggling sinners: His gentle restoration of Peter, His compassion for the woman caught in adultery, His friendship with tax collectors and sinners.

An Invitation to Freedom

If you’re exhausted from trying to earn what Christ has already freely given—His love, acceptance, and delight—I invite you to lay down that burden.

The Christian life isn’t about striving to become worthy of God’s love. It’s about learning to rest in the love He already has for you in Christ, and allowing that love to transform you from the inside out.

Your struggles aren’t proof that you’re failing at the Christian life. They’re opportunities to experience more deeply the heart of Christ who came not for the healthy but for the sick, not for the righteous but for sinners.

And that’s good news indeed.

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As we approach our Equipped to Engage conference on March 29th, I’ve been reflecting deeply on what it means to engage culture from a biblical perspective. Before we can effectively engage, we need to understand what culture is and how profoundly it shapes our worldview—often without our conscious awareness.

What Is Culture and How Does It Shape Us?

Culture is like the water a fish swims in—it surrounds us so completely that we often don’t recognize its influence. It’s the collective beliefs, values, customs, and social behaviors of a particular group or society. Culture shapes everything from how we view success to how we define family to what we consider beautiful or important.

The challenging reality is that our cultural context constantly forms and informs our thinking. Even as believers committed to a biblical worldview, we can unconsciously absorb cultural values that may run counter to Scripture’s teachings.

As I’ve been preparing for our conference, I’ve become increasingly aware of how digital culture in particular has subtly shaped my own heart and habits. The constant pings, notifications, and endless scrolling have gradually eroded my capacity for the deep, attentive engagement that meaningful cultural conversations require.

A Personal Heart Check

I’ve recently recognized how my phone has drawn my heart away from deep conversation with others. The social media feeds, the quick dopamine hits from notifications, the endless stream of content—all of it has made me more distracted and less present with the actual people God has placed in my life, not to mention the subtle ways the culture of this world impacts my heart.

So, for the Lenten season, I’m removing social media and game apps from my phone. This isn’t about legalism or spiritual performance. It’s about creating space to be more intentional and engaged with the people right in front of me—to focus less on the sways of culture and more on the faces and hearts of those in my everyday life.

For me, this is a first step in preparing my heart for cultural engagement. Because I’m discovering that true engagement isn’t primarily about having all the right answers about cultural issues—it’s about being fully present, listening well, and seeing others as God sees them.

Heart Preparation: The Foundation of Meaningful Engagement

The foundation for all cultural engagement must be God’s Word. Scripture provides the unchanging truth we stand on while navigating a constantly shifting culture. Without this solid biblical foundation, our engagement will lack both direction and authority.

At the same time, Jesus shows us that knowledge alone isn’t enough. When He sent out His disciples in Matthew 10, He addressed not just what they knew, but the condition of their hearts—their motivations, their fears, their trust in Him. He knew that effective ministry flows from both truth and the right heart posture.

Scripture consistently reminds us of this dual emphasis:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23, NIV).

“For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34).

When our hearts are aligned with biblical truth, our words and actions naturally follow in alignment with God’s purposes. This isn’t about elevating feelings over Scripture, but recognizing that God’s Word must transform both our understanding and our affections.

Four Heart Attitudes for Cultural Engagement

As we prepare for meaningful engagement with our culture, let’s focus on cultivating these four heart attitudes:

1. A Heart of Humility

Cultural engagement isn’t about winning arguments; it’s about winning hearts. And that begins with humility. Peter reminds us to share our hope “with gentleness and respect” (1 Peter 3:15). When we approach conversations with humility, we create space for genuine dialogue rather than defensive debate.

Heart Check: Am I more concerned with being right or with being Christ-like in my interactions?

2. A Heart of Compassion

Jesus was moved with compassion when He saw the crowds, because they were “harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd” (Matthew 9:36). When we see our culture through the eyes of compassion rather than criticism, we engage differently.

Think about it: people aren’t projects to be fixed; they’re image-bearers to be loved. Our engagement should flow from genuine concern for their spiritual well-being.

Heart Check: Do I see the people in my sphere of influence primarily as opponents to be convinced or as souls to be loved?

3. A Heart of Courage

Cultural engagement requires courage. Speaking truth in love isn’t always comfortable, and standing firm in biblical convictions can sometimes feel isolating. But remember Joshua’s commission: “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9).

Heart Check: What fears might be holding me back from meaningful engagement? How can I surrender these to God?

4. A Heart of Dependence

Perhaps most importantly, effective cultural engagement flows from a heart that’s continuously connected to Christ. Jesus told His disciples, “Apart from me you can do nothing” (John 15:5). When we depend on our own wisdom or strength, our engagement will fall flat. But when we rely on His Spirit, we find ourselves speaking words that come not from human wisdom but from God Himself.

Heart Check: Am I trying to engage in my own strength, or am I daily abiding in Christ?

Practical Heart Preparation for the Conference

As we approach our “Equipped to Engage” conference, here are some practical ways to prepare your heart:

Consider a technology fast like I’m doing for Lent. Even a day or week of reduced screen time can create space for deeper reflection and prayer.Set aside daily quiet time specifically focused on surrendering your fears about cultural engagement to God.Identify your “why” for wanting to engage culture. Is it out of love for others? Out of obedience to Christ? Understanding your motivations helps purify your heart.Practice listening prayer, asking God to show you any attitudes or biases that might hinder your effectiveness.Find an accountability partner who will pray with you before and after the conference, helping you process what you’re learning.Begin practicing now by engaging in one conversation this week where you intentionally listen more than you speak.The Most Important Preparation

In just a few weeks, we’ll gather together to learn practical tools for biblical cultural engagement. We’ll discuss strategies, study Scripture, and sharpen our understanding. But remember: the most important preparation won’t happen in the chapel at Camp Pinehill—it’s happening right now, in the quiet moments between you and God.

As you prepare your heart, trust that He is faithful to equip you for every good work He’s called you to do. After all, effective cultural engagement isn’t ultimately about having all the right answers—it’s about pointing to the One who is the Answer.

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