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Molly Millwood
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To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma
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2019
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8 editions
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“That our virtues in one context may be vices in another is but one of the many profound lessons our children teach us best. They teach us that with fierce love comes deep fear, and that we cannot have joy without also inviting sorrow. They teach us that life does not go the way we planned. They teach us that we, and they, are imperfect. They teach us that no one emerges from childhood unscathed—that we did not get all our needs met as children, and neither will they. They teach us that the only constant is change. They teach us that we are neither as fabulous nor as horrible as we thought. Motherhood not only transforms us; it also forces us to relinquish our illusions about who we were all along.”
― To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma
― To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma
“The true opposite of depression is neither gaiety nor the absence of pain, but vitality—the freedom to experience spontaneous feelings.”
― To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma
― To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma
“Rubin’s conceptualization of fog happiness helps resolve what appear to be contradictory research findings about the happiness of parents. Ask a young mother to pause from playing with her fifteen-month-old at eleven a.m. and indicate her current happiness level, and her answer will be about the same as when she’s vacuuming at four p.m. Ask that same woman when she’s eighty-five years old what her top three sources of happiness were, and “being a mother” or “caring for my children” will surely make the list. Vacuuming, not so much. Immediate joy and fun in parenting are scattered stars in the great black sky of strain, boredom, and unrelenting responsibility in parenting. But when the joy comes, it comes insisting. And when we take the long view and ascribe meaning to our life’s activities, little else competes for first place with raising our very own human beings.”
― To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma
― To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma
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