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Michael Barta
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“Beginning with our desired state of life, we explain what life is like when we are operating primarily from our frontal lobe and our ventral vagal nerve is operating optimally. We all wish to feel peaceful and calm as well as present and aware. We wish to get along with others and have a sense of connection and belonging. When “in our foundation,” we feel warm, open, calm, receptive, connected, engaged, present, happy, hopeful, expansive, tender, confident, powerful, safe, trusting, optimistic, positive, creative, playful, and valuable. We possess the ability to socially engage and form intimate bonds with those we love. The frontal lobe is the key to our regulation and to these attributes, for only here do we have any real conscious ability to change our reactions through conscious choice, reason, problem solving, impulse control, and spontaneity. Our frontal lobe makes us human, allowing us to bargain with our instincts instead of automatically acting on them.”
― TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction
― TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction
“Addicts live more in their unconscious, emotional, and instinctual brains than in their frontal lobe or social engagement system. When the limbic and reptilian brain take over, the conscious brain turns off and the brain is hijacked, so we are not thinking—we are just reacting. This is why we do not worry about consequences when we are active in our addiction, because only the thinking brain has the capacity to worry. The limbic and reptilian brain just react to threats. Addiction is a dissociative disorder; when we are partaking of the substance or doing the behavior, we are not functioning optimally out of the fully evolved part of our brain. This is why when our partners ask, “Weren’t you thinking of me?” the honest answer is no. When we act out, conscious thought is turned off, and everything else is out the window, including loved ones and consequences.”
― TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction
― TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction
“The attachment figure is intended to be the source of joy, connection, and emotional soothing,” according to Daniel Siegel (2017). “Instead, the experience of the child who develops a disorganized attachment is such that the caregiver is actually the source of alarm, fear, and terror, so the child cannot turn to the attachment figure to be soothed.” Because attachment is linked to attunement and being adequately cared for as a child, attachment without attunement is not enough for optimal development. Proper development and the process of attunement have very little to do with having the right clothes, enough food, or adequate shelter. Instead, attunement is the ability of a caregiver to adequately and consistently respond to the child’s nonverbal cues for attention and regulation. It means that our nonverbal responses and distress cues are met appropriately. It is something that occurs between a caregiver and a child that has to be consistent and positive and constant.”
― TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction
― TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction
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