“Beginning with our desired state of life, we explain what life is like when we are operating primarily from our frontal lobe and our ventral vagal nerve is operating optimally. We all wish to feel peaceful and calm as well as present and aware. We wish to get along with others and have a sense of connection and belonging. When “in our foundation,” we feel warm, open, calm, receptive, connected, engaged, present, happy, hopeful, expansive, tender, confident, powerful, safe, trusting, optimistic, positive, creative, playful, and valuable. We possess the ability to socially engage and form intimate bonds with those we love. The frontal lobe is the key to our regulation and to these attributes, for only here do we have any real conscious ability to change our reactions through conscious choice, reason, problem solving, impulse control, and spontaneity. Our frontal lobe makes us human, allowing us to bargain with our instincts instead of automatically acting on them.”