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Kids should leave home with some basic skills – cooking, laundry, budgeting. But when I work with parents I ask them what are the VALUES they’d like their children to bringinto the world? Respect, personal responsibility, and compassion almost always make the top ten. Today, I’ll talk about modeling compassion. The values you impart to your child are your legacy. If you enjoy this video, please like, subscribe and then send me a note to request my free report “Parenting Myths, Assumptions, & Truths.” I sat down with the leading experts in parenting and asked them about the top concerns I hear from parents. The report is free, just visit my website at ariciashaffer.com to request it.

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Welcome to Discover Your Calling with Master Career Strategist, Aricia Schaffer. In today’s episode, we’re diving into the evolving landscape of job searching. Whether you’re a seasoned professional or a recent graduate, it’s essential to adapt to the changing trends in the job market. Let’s explore three outdated strategies that no longer serve job seekers and discover innovative approaches to finding your perfect fit.

1. Abandon the One-Position Focus

Gone are the days of laser-focused job searches tailored to a single position. While specialization remains crucial in certain fields, today’s job market demands a broader perspective. Embrace innovation by leveraging your soft skills and considering alternative positions that align with your strengths. With the rapid emergence of new industries and technologies, there’s ample opportunity to explore diverse career paths beyond traditional roles.

2. Embrace Learning Something New

In the past, sticking with familiar territory was often touted as sound advice. However, with the current pace of change, embracing new skills and experiences is key to staying relevant. Don’t shy away from taking leaps of faith or transitioning into unfamiliar territory. Instead, focus on continuous learning and adaptability to thrive in today’s dynamic job market.

3. Be Authentically You

Gone are the days of fitting into a predetermined mold to appease potential employers. Today, authenticity reigns supreme. Instead of masking your true self to fit a perceived office culture, prioritize finding a workplace that embraces your unique identity. Whether it’s showcasing your personality through your virtual workspace or openly discussing your interests and hobbies, authenticity fosters genuine connections and fosters a sense of belonging.

As the job market continues to evolve, it’s crucial to discard outdated strategies and embrace new approaches to finding your ideal career path. By adopting a broader perspective, embracing learning opportunities, and staying true to yourself, you can navigate today’s job market with confidence and authenticity. Remember, the key to success lies in embracing change and remaining true to who you are. If you need further assistance or guidance on your career journey, don’t hesitate to reach out. Until next time, take care and stay true to your calling.

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Are you feeling stuck in a whirlwind of regret after making a career move? You’re not alone. In today’s rapidly changing world, many find themselves grappling with the decision to switch fields or jobs. But here’s the thing – regret doesn’t have to be your constant companion. Let’s explore how you can flip that regret switch and embrace your career journey with confidence.

Understanding the Wave of Change

The current landscape resembles a modern-day industrial revolution, with transformative shifts spurred by global events like COVID-19 and advancements in technology. Many individuals, particularly those in hard-hit sectors like hospitality and small business, are navigating through unprecedented changes, seeking new opportunities amidst the chaos.

Navigating the Ups and Downs

It’s natural to reminisce about past roles, especially on rough days in your current job. You might find yourself longing for the familiar comforts of your previous workplace, reminiscing about the camaraderie or perks you once enjoyed. However, it’s essential to recognize that every job has its positives and negatives.

Reframing Your Perspective

Instead of viewing your current role through a lens of regret, consider reframing your perspective. Acknowledge the reasons behind your career move and reflect on the aspects of your new job that align with your goals and values. Take a step back from emotion and assess whether your current position meets your needs.

Finding the Right Fit

While there’s no such thing as a perfect job, there are ways to make your current role more fulfilling. Explore opportunities to customize your job to better suit your preferences, whether it’s negotiating for changes during the first 90 days or addressing specific pain points like office lighting or seating arrangements.

Embracing the Power of Reframing

Reframing your mindset can be a powerful tool in combating regret. Focus on the aspects of your job that bring you joy and satisfaction, rather than dwelling solely on the challenges. By shifting your perspective, you can create a more positive work environment and alleviate feelings of regret.

Seeking Support

If you’re struggling to find contentment in your current role, don’t hesitate to seek support. Whether it’s through coaching, mentorship, or peer counseling, there are resources available to help you navigate career transitions and overcome feelings of regret.

In the midst of career changes and transitions, it’s easy to get caught up in feelings of regret and uncertainty. However, by reframing your perspective, embracing the positives, and seeking support when needed, you can navigate your career journey with confidence and clarity. Remember, your decision to make a change was not a mistake – it was a step towards growth and opportunity.

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Networking—a term that evokes various reactions, from excitement to dread, depending on one’s perspective and experiences. In this episode of Discover Your Calling, Master Career Strategist Aricia Schaefer unravels the complexities surrounding networking and unveils its true essence as a collaborative endeavor rooted in genuine connections.

Dispelling Misconceptions

Schaefer confronts common misconceptions about networking, challenging the notion that it entails uncomfortable interactions with strangers or obligatory participation in stagnant networking groups. Instead, she emphasizes the importance of forging connections with individuals whom one genuinely likes and resonates with.

Embracing Authenticity

Drawing from her extensive experience, Schaefer encourages individuals to embrace authenticity in networking, rejecting the notion of donning a professional façade. Whether introverted or extroverted, individuals are urged to engage authentically, leveraging their unique personalities and interests to foster meaningful connections.

The Power of Curiosity

Schaefer advocates for a shift in mindset from transactional networking to curiosity-driven engagement. By approaching networking with genuine curiosity and a willingness to learn, individuals create opportunities for serendipitous connections and unexpected collaborations.

Navigating Networking Dynamics

Schaefer introduces the concept of “networking one cup at a time,” encouraging individuals to initiate informal meetups over coffee or tea with both familiar contacts and new acquaintances. By prioritizing curiosity over transactional agendas, individuals cultivate genuine connections that transcend the confines of traditional networking.

Networking as a Pathway to Opportunities

Contrary to conventional job search methods, Schaefer asserts that networking is the most effective way to uncover job opportunities. By tapping into personal networks and fostering genuine relationships, individuals gain access to insider information about job openings and career prospects before they are publicly advertised.

The Relational Nature of Networking

Highlighting the relational aspect of networking, Schaefer emphasizes that it transcends mere transactions—it’s about nurturing mutually beneficial connections based on trust and genuine rapport. Networking fosters a supportive ecosystem where individuals collaborate, support, and uplift one another on their professional journeys.

Cultivating a Networking Mindset

Schaefer concludes with a reminder that networking is a skill rooted in fundamental human relationships. By embracing curiosity, authenticity, and a willingness to connect, individuals can unlock the full potential of networking as a pathway to professional growth and fulfillment.

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In the realm of career exploration, the journey often begins with a daunting question: What do you want to do with your life? While traditional job searches might emphasize structure and accountability, there exists an alternative approach—one rooted in comfort, curiosity, and genuine interest.

As a seasoned career strategist, Aricia Schaefer unveils her unique coaching philosophy, which centers on guiding individuals through their job search within the realm of their comfort zones. In this enlightening discourse, Schaefer dismantles the myth that certain passions are unattainable or financially unsustainable, paving the way for a more fulfilling and enjoyable pursuit of career aspirations.

Embracing Comfort:

Contrary to conventional coaching methods that prioritize accountability, Schaefer champions a different strategy—one that empowers individuals to explore job opportunities in alignment with their interests and inclinations. Rather than coercing clients into prescribed methodologies, she advocates for a personalized approach that respects individual learning styles and preferences.

The Power of Interest-based Exploration:

Drawing inspiration from educational psychology, Schaefer emphasizes the importance of intrinsic motivation in the learning process. Echoing the principles of Summerhill—a progressive educational institution—she encourages clients to pursue areas of genuine interest, fostering rapid and meaningful skill acquisition.

Navigating the Job Search Journey:

Rather than embarking on a conventional resume-driven quest, Schaefer urges clients to delve into their passions and hobbies, leveraging platforms like YouTube as catalysts for discovery. By encouraging clients to observe their interests and curiosities, she facilitates a more organic and enjoyable exploration of potential career paths.

From Passion to Profession:

Through Schaefer’s guidance, clients are empowered to identify career avenues that resonate with their interests and aptitudes. By infusing the job search process with curiosity and enthusiasm, individuals not only discover viable career options but also cultivate a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Building Networks and Nurturing Growth:

In embracing a more unconventional approach to job searching, individuals expand their networks and engage with like-minded professionals, laying the foundation for future career opportunities. By fostering an environment of collaboration and exploration, Schaefer facilitates a more holistic and rewarding journey towards career fulfillment.

Conclusion:

In a world inundated with conventional wisdom and standardized approaches to career development, Aricia Schaefer offers a refreshing alternative—one rooted in comfort, curiosity, and authenticity. By embracing individual interests and inclinations, Schaefer empowers individuals to chart their own paths towards professional fulfillment, one YouTube video at a time.

For those seeking a more enjoyable and effective approach to the job search process, Schaefer’s coaching philosophy provides a beacon of hope and guidance. With her expertise and unwavering commitment to client-centered care, she invites individuals to embark on a transformative journey towards discovering their true calling.

For personalized guidance and support on your career journey, reach out to me for a complimentary consultation. Together, let’s navigate the path to professional fulfillment with comfort, curiosity, and confidence.

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Hello, friends! I’m Aricia Shaffer, a Master Career Strategist, and welcome to another episode of Discover Your Calling. Today, let’s delve into the concept of the 9%, those resilient individuals who successfully stick to their New Year’s resolutions. If you’re among them, kudos! For the rest of us in the 91%, this show is tailored just for you.

Understanding Career Seasons:

As we embark on our career journeys, we navigate various seasons—student life, career exploration, parenthood, retirement, and the inevitable changes life throws our way. Just as the seasons impact nature, they also influence our decisions and actions. Daniel Kahneman, in “Thinking, Fast and Slow,” introduces the concept of noise, emphasizing how external factors affect our choices.

The Challenge of January Resolutions:

Setting resolutions in the midst of winter, a time of darkness and post-holiday fatigue, can be challenging. Whether it’s adopting a freezing cold shower routine or making drastic lifestyle changes, the timing matters. The 9% who succeed often have resolutions aligned with their comfort zones and genuine desires.

Harmony with Nature’s Seasons:

Considering nature’s seasons, spring emerges with renewed energy and inspiration. It’s a time for envisioning, goal-setting, and contemplating the future. This parallels well with career planning and finding one’s path. I recommend staying within your comfort zone, fostering innovation, and aligning actions with personal desires rather than societal expectations.

Winter as a Time for Introspection:

Contrary to January’s push for drastic actions, winter serves as an excellent period for introspection. If uncertain about your career direction, winter allows you to reflect on where you want to be next year and make thoughtful decisions. Rather than succumbing to January pressure, consider the spring as an energetic time for change.

Strategic Networking in Winter:

Winter is conducive to reconnecting with old friends and laying the groundwork for future endeavors. Networking doesn’t have to involve explicit career discussions; it can be a casual coffee catch-up. This season encourages reflection and preparation for the upcoming work challenges, much like planting seeds for a fruitful harvest.

Taking Small Steps:

To ease into change, start small. Whether it’s jotting down ideas, networking, or reconnecting with friends, lay the groundwork during the winter months. It’s about initiating small steps that align with the introspection and reflection typical of this season.

Conclusion:

Dear friends, as you navigate your career seasons, remember that timing matters. Embrace the natural ebb and flow of life, and don’t be too hard on yourself if January resolutions feel challenging. Winter is a time for introspection and strategic groundwork. Enjoy the season you’re in, and I’ll talk to you soon. Take care!

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Greetings, dear readers! I’m Aricia Shaffer, a master career strategist, and today we dive into key number four from my book, “Unlocking the Secrets of the Successful Career Seeker.” But first, let me share how this book came to be—a culmination of my decades-long experience guiding career seekers from various perspectives, including psychotherapy, education, and coaching.

The Journey to Success

Having observed those who swiftly found ideal jobs, I identified key characteristics and mindsets that contribute to success. These keys, primarily centered around mindset, not only expedited job searches but also led to enhanced relationships and overall life satisfaction. For those interested, a complimentary downloadable PDF of the book is available on my website.

Key #4: Celebrate the Good, Learn from the Bad, and Let It Go

Today, let’s delve into key number four: Celebrate the good, learn from the bad, and let it go. Successful people, like ducks, allow the good to enrich their lives while letting the bad roll off like water. Consider a day that starts with small misfortunes, and we let them dictate the entire day, perpetuating negativity.

Shifting Perspectives

Successful individuals handle setbacks differently. They isolate the negative experience, using humor and gratitude to avoid letting it infect their entire day or life. Similarly, in career transitions, those who embrace a positive mindset after a layoff often find new opportunities, while bitterness can hinder progress.

Mindset Matters

The stories we tell ourselves shape our mindset. By reframing narratives surrounding challenging experiences, we become more resilient, find humor, and cultivate gratitude. Celebrating the good, even amid difficulties, enhances attractiveness to potential employers and energizes our pursuit of opportunities.

Practical Steps

To receive a deeper understanding of this key, visit my website and request a free downloadable copy of “Unlocking the Secrets of the Successful Career Seeker.” By embracing the mindset of celebrating the good, learning from the bad, and letting go, you can navigate career transitions with resilience and positivity.

Dear readers, as you navigate your career journey, remember the power of celebrating successes, learning from challenges, and letting go of negativity. Until next time, take care, and embrace the season you’re in. Bye-bye!

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I’m master career strategist Aricia Shaffer, and in this episode we delve into the concept of having a “delicious life” and explore the pursuit of satisfaction and fulfillment in our everyday habits and choices.

Choosing a Word for the Year

Many of my friends adopt a word for the year, ranging from courage to adventure, empowerment to balance. This year, my chosen word is “curiosity.” This decision was inspired by a delightful vlog featuring a woman in Japan who finds joy in savoring delicious things, discovering unique treasures, and exploring new places. This led me to contemplate our habits, goals, and resolutions, and how they contribute to the quality of our lives.

Breaking Free from Restrictive Mindsets

During a recent gathering with friends, one shared her struggle with quitting diet coke. Having successfully abstained for years, a sudden craving led her to pick up the habit again. This scenario made me ponder the restrictions we place on ourselves, avoiding certain pleasures because we believe they are “bad” for us. The constant internal conflict of wanting something deemed unhealthy creates unnecessary tension and dissatisfaction.

Reflecting on my mother’s avoidance of butter despite her love for it, I questioned the societal narratives around what is considered “good” or “bad” for us. Experts now suggest that it’s more about sugar than fat, prompting me to wonder how many satisfying experiences we deny ourselves based on outdated beliefs. My work with clients revolves around helping them find meaningful and fulfilling work, but it’s essential to extend this pursuit of satisfaction to all aspects of life.

Cultivating Satisfaction for a Happy Life

While having a happy life is a common goal, achieving it begins with cultivating satisfaction. Our culture’s tendency to swing between extremes leaves us in a constant struggle. This mindset not only affects personal habits but also influences how we approach work. The misconception that work must be grueling to be considered “work” can hinder our ability to negotiate for a fulfilling job that aligns with our passions.

Coaches often ask clients about habits that aren’t working for them, but it’s equally crucial to identify habits that bring deep satisfaction. Indulging in small pleasures labeled as “guilty pleasures” can enhance life’s satisfaction. While I’m not advocating for harmful addictions, there’s room for enjoying a piece of chocolate before bed, a glass of wine with dinner, or a leisurely morning in bed on the weekend.

Reframing Your Perspective

The misconception that life is meant to be endured rather than enjoyed can significantly impact our overall happiness. As my hypothetical client, I would encourage you to ask yourself: What can you do in your life right now to feel more satisfied? Life is meant to be relished, not endured.

As we navigate the seasons of life, let’s challenge the narratives that dictate what is deemed “bad” or “good” for us. Embrace the small, delightful habits that bring satisfaction and joy. Remember, you weren’t put on this planet to endure a miserable job and an unsatisfying routine. Until next time, enjoy the journey, savor the moments, and find ways to infuse your life with satisfaction. Talk to you soon!

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In today’s blog, Master Career Strategist Aricia Shaffer delves into a question that often confuses individuals exploring personal development – the distinctions between coaching, consulting, and therapy. Drawing from her background as a therapist, Shaffer sheds light on the unique qualities of each approach and discusses the importance of selecting the right tool for your specific needs.

Coaching – Asking the Right Questions

Coaching is described as a process where a professional guides you by asking the right questions, helping you discover your own answers. Shaffer emphasizes that coaches are trained to ask specific, insightful questions, focusing on where you want to go rather than dwelling on the past. While coaching isn’t regulated, it’s crucial to vet potential coaches for their training and background.

Consulting – Tapping into Expertise

Consultants, on the other hand, are experts in a particular field, armed with the knowledge and experience to guide you successfully. Shaffer points out that consultants provide suggestions and advice but may not delve into the same thought-provoking questions as coaches. They are valuable for those seeking specialized expertise in their career pursuits.

Therapy – Exploring Emotions and Motives

Therapists, with extensive education and often holding advanced degrees, examine the motives behind behaviors and emotions. Unlike coaches and consultants, therapists focus on past experiences and their influence. While not employment experts, therapists bring a unique ability to understand client motivations and feelings, ensuring they address the root causes of issues.

The Hybrid Approach

Shaffer advocates for a hybrid approach, combining the strengths of coaching, consulting, and therapy. She shares a client’s story, demonstrating how a blend of these approaches can lead to a comprehensive understanding of one’s life, including career goals, relationships, and personal well-being. By utilizing tools from therapy without conducting therapy, Shaffer helps clients navigate various aspects of their lives.

Conclusion

As you embark on your personal development journey, it’s crucial to understand the differences between coaching, consulting, and therapy. Each approach offers unique benefits, and the key is to find the right blend that suits your needs. Whether you’re seeking career guidance, expert advice, or emotional support, a thoughtful combination of these approaches can lead to a more holistic and fulfilling personal and professional life.

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In the latest instalment of “Discover Your Calling,” Master Career Strategist Aricia Shaffer dives deep into the concept of self-definition and its profound impact on our careers. Aricia asserts that understanding and consciously defining oneself is crucial, not just for personal development but for building a compelling professional brand. Let’s explore the key insights and exercises she shares to help individuals navigate this self-discovery process.

The Power of Self-Definition

Aricia begins by highlighting the significance of defining oneself in the context of a job search. She emphasizes that self-definition is intricately linked to building a personal brand, shaping how individuals communicate their identity to potential employers. Acknowledging that external influences often contribute to our self-perception, Aricia introduces the second key in her book: “You are not defined by the beliefs of others.”

Recognizing External Influences

Aricia encourages listeners to reflect on the beliefs and definitions imposed by others throughout their lives. Drawing on the work of author Leo Guzalía, she illustrates how early labels, whether positive or negative, can shape an individual’s self-perception. From being labeled as the “pretty one” or the “smart one” in childhood to experiences of teasing or bullying in later years, external influences play a significant role in defining who we think we are.

Examining Reactions to Labels

In addition to external influences, Aricia prompts listeners to consider their reactions to these labels. Whether defiant, humorous, or nonchalant, our responses to external definitions reveal valuable insights into our coping mechanisms and strengths. Aricia encourages listeners to document both the labels and their reactions to them as part of the self-reflection process.

Choosing Your Own Definitions

The crux of Aricia’s message lies in the power of choice. As individuals mature and embark on a journey of self-discovery, they reach a point where they can consciously choose the definitions that resonate with them. Aricia suggests a practical exercise of reviewing these labels, identifying the ones that align with one’s true self, and deciding which ones to embrace or discard.

Consciously Shaping Your Brand

Aricia urges listeners to think beyond career-related definitions and consider broader aspects of their identity. By consciously defining character traits, preferences, and personal values, individuals can shape a more intentional personal brand. She advises against allowing labels to accumulate without scrutiny, emphasizing the importance of actively curating one’s self-perception.

Letting Go and Moving Forward

The podcast concludes with a call to let go of definitions that no longer serve individuals. Aricia provides various approaches, such as seeking therapy, engaging in conversations with those who contributed to certain labels, or simply acknowledging and discarding outdated perceptions. By actively participating in this process, individuals can reshape their worldview and approach their job search with renewed confidence and authenticity.

In the realm of career strategy, understanding and defining oneself is a powerful tool. “Discover Your Calling” encourages listeners to take control of their self-perception, actively choose their definitions, and consciously shape a personal brand that aligns with their true selves. Until the next episode, Aricia leaves her audience with a thought-provoking question: How do you define yourself? Enjoy the journey of self-discovery and talk to you soon. Bye-bye.

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