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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

I recently shared on my socials that burnout isn’t always about long hours or heavy workloads. It’s often about the energy it takes to be someone you’re not. The response showed just how much this resonates with so many of you.
That’s why this week’s newsletter is dedicated to this important topic.

Many people think burnout happens because they work too much, but research shows that a major cause of burnout is emotional labor. The effort of suppressing your true feelings, opinions, and personality to fit in. Constantly adjusting to expectations that don’t align with who you are drains mental energy faster than a packed to-do list.

Authenticity isn’t just a feel-good concept, it’s a necessity for well-being. The more aligned you are with your values, the less mental load you carry. So if you feel drained, ask yourself: am I exhausted from my work or from pretending to be someone I’m not?

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Not every choice is truly a choice. Some are just expectations in disguise. The right degree. The stable career. The life that looks good on paper. But what about what feels right? The shift happens when the question changes from “What should I do?” to “What do I actually want?”

Authenticity isn’t about approval. It’s about alignment. Because the best life? It’s the one that fits you and keeps burnout away.

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We all say we want to “be ourselves.” Yet so many feel lost, stuck, or exhausted keeping up with a life that doesn’t fit.

From an early age, we’re conditioned to fit in—at home, at work, online. The result? A disconnect between who we are and who we think we should be. Research shows that this self-alienation leads to more stress, weaker relationships, and faster burnout.

If you feel like you’re constantly adjusting to expectations, ask yourself:
* Am I making choices for me or for others?
* What small step can I take today to be more me?

The world will always try to shape you. The real question is: Will you let it? Or will you choose yourself?A quote that I loved…

The version of you who has it all, starts the second you say f*ck it.

– Herinnerglo


A question to ask yourself…

If I keep living this way, where will I be a year from now and how do I feel about the direction I’m heading?

 

Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

Tim Grover articulates this with absolute precision: “If you’re looking for outside validation, you don’t trust yourself. You don’t trust the words you speak to yourself. How many times have you asked somebody a question that you already know the answer for? You already know the answer. You’re just looking for somebody else to validate or give you an excuse out. Most of you probably received my book, From Good to Great to Unstoppable. You know what most individuals, you know what they’re good, great and unstoppable at? Making things worse.” Lol, he’s absolutely right. We should stop making things worse for ourselves. It’s very easy to make things hard and very hard to keep things simple.

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Remember: you always have a choice. Whether it’s the voice in your head, the habits you build, or the way you react to challenges: you decide. If you’re constantly looking for external validation, you’re choosing doubt over confidence. If you’re waiting for someone else to tell you it’s okay to go after what you want, you’re choosing hesitation over action. And let me tell you, I’ve been there. But the most freeing moment in my life was realizing that no one was coming to give me permission. I had to choose myself first.

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I’ve been there asking for advice on things I already knew the answer to. Not because I needed input, but because I didn’t fully trust myself yet. It felt safer to hear someone else say, Yes, go for it. Or even better, No, don’t risk it, so I had an excuse to stay in my comfort zone. But here’s the thing: waiting for outside validation keeps you stuck. The moment I stopped outsourcing my confidence and started backing my own decisions, everything shifted.

A quote that I loved…Happiness is wanting what you already have.
– Kelly Weekers


A question to ask yourself…
Before you ask for advice, set the tone. Instead of looking for someone else to validate your choice, start with a mantra:“I’m capable. I’m smart. I live a life that is true to me.”

Then ask yourself: What do I think I should do in this situation?

When you trust yourself first, the answer becomes a lot clearer.

 

Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

Oprah’s wisdom on this is spot on: “You need to surround yourself with people who are gonna stimulate, inspire and lift you up. Who are gonna give you energy and not take energy away from you. And if you’re around people who are taking energy away from you, that’s an energy drain and that is the sign from your instinct. Your inner voice. Your intuition to say: let them go.”

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Letting go isn’t losing: it’s making space. If someone constantly drains you, it’s not your job to fix them. It’s your job to set boundaries. I used to hold on, hoping things would change. But the best decision I ever made was this: if it costs me my peace, it’s too expensive. Surround yourself with people who pour into you, not just take.

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A life lesson I’ve learned: I can only change me, not the people around me. And as beautiful as it is to see the potential in people, it’s just as important to believe them when they show you who they are. Science backs this up in ways we don’t always realize. Quantum mechanics teaches us that everything is energy—including us. The energy we surround ourselves with, whether positive or negative, has a real effect on us.

A famous experiment by Dr. Masaru Emoto with rice in jars illustrates this. He placed cooked rice in two separate jars. To one, he spoke words of love, kindness, and gratitude. To the other, he directed insults and negativity. Over time, the rice in the jar that received kindness stayed fresh much longer, while the one exposed to negativity spoiled and turned moldy quickly.

Now, if rice can absorb energy and change because of it, imagine what happens to uswhen we constantly expose ourselves to people who drain, belittle, or bring negativity into our space. We absorb that energy. It influences how we feel, think, and even what we believe is possible for ourselves.

So, just like in the experiment, we have a choice. Surround ourselves with people who nourish our growth, or stay in spaces where negativity seeps in and holds us back. The energy around you matters. Make sure it’s one that helps you thrive.
A quote that I loved…

I love this mantra: everything I lose creates space for everything I need.

– Thirdeyethoughts

A question to ask yourself…

If I were giving advice to my best friend in a situation I’m currently struggling with, what would I say?

 

Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

”Has it changed? Yes. Is he a different kind of husband now than he was? Yeah. In all those years, with all the pressure? Well, you know what? No, I think he’s been pretty consistent, you know? I’ve grown, I’ve changed. I’ve learned that, you know, over these years that I, you know, I have to make myself happy, you know? It goes back to the lessons from my father. He’s not responsible for my happiness. He loves me, he cares about me, but most of my unhappiness had to do with choices I was making. Like, I had to be the perfect mother. I had to do everything right. I had to hold down a job and make sure that I was holding myself to a standard that was stressful for me. And also impossible. And absolutely impossible. Because you can have it all, perhaps, but you can’t have it all at the same time. Let us say that again. You say it. You can have it all, but not at the same time. You really can’t, you know? That whole—no, it is impossible, especially if you want to be a good parent, you know, and spend any time with your kids. It’s a tough balancing act.” I couldn’t agree more, Michelle Obama!

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Life moves in ebbs and flows, and in every phase, you get to decide what matters most. There’s this pressure—sometimes from society, sometimes from others, but mostly from ourselves—to do it all, all at once, and do it perfectly. But the truth is, you can have it all, just not at the same time. Some seasons are for career growth, some are for deepening relationships, some are for rest, and some are for full speed ahead. The only person truly telling you that you have to do it all, all at once, is you. And that’s where the real freedom comes in—when you realize you get to choose where your energy goes and give yourself permission to not carry it all at the same time.

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The most important thing I did? I asked for help. And it changed everything. I used to think I can do it all myself—and technically, I could. But just because you can doesn’t mean you should. The moment I allowed people to help me, everything got lighter. More time, more ease, more space to actually enjoy the life I was building instead of just managing it. If asking for help feels uncomfortable, start small:

 

• Delegate one task—at home, at work, anywhere. Just one.

 

• Be honest with your inner circle—tell a friend, partner, or colleague what’s truly overwhelming you.

 

• Trade support—help someone in an area you thrive in and let them support you where you struggle.

 

• Hire where you can—whether it’s a cleaner, an assistant, or a babysitter, if it makes life easier, it’s worth it.

 

The biggest mindset shift? Accepting help isn’t weakness. It’s strategy. And it frees you up to focus on what truly matters.A quote that I loved…

I like to go with the flow. My flow. Not yours.

– Poster Journal


A question to ask yourself…

What would change in my life if I allowed myself to receive more support?

Letting people in isn’t about giving up control. It’s about making life lighter and giving yourself permission to focus on what truly matters.

 

Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

Matthew McConaughey is so right about this: If you’re going to do it, do it. Say what you can do. Do what you say. If you can’t do it, don’t say you can. Don’t overleverage yourself. Don’t overleverage the decision and then jump in, kind of dipping a toe—I think I’ll try it out. No. Think beforehand if you’re going to try it out. But when it’s time to go, dive in. Finish it. Find out. Come out the other side.

Don’t leave it and go, Ooh, if I just would have… That keeps me up at night. I think it keeps a lot of us up at night—when you half-ass something and you just don’t know whether you failed or succeeded, got what you wanted or didn’t.

Finding out, looking in the mirror, and saying, I didn’t half-ass it. I went all the way. I found out. And that’s not for me. Or, I found out, and damn right, that is for me.

That’s a great place to get to. But the limbo of not knowing? The limbo of thinking, Did I hedge my bet?—that’s what really haunts you.

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You’re always making a choice—whether you realize it or not. Choosing not to act is still a choice. Waiting, hesitating, overthinking—it’s just choosing to stay exactly where you are. And if something keeps pulling at you, if the doubt lingers, you might as well find out. Because the only way to stop wondering is to step into it. Either you’ll realize it’s not for you and move on, or you’ll find exactly what you were meant for. Either way, you win.

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If you’re stuck in doubt, here’s how to get clear on whether you should go for it or let it go.

 

1. The 5-Year Rule – Imagine yourself five years from now. You didn’t go for it. You played it safe. How does that version of you feel? Regretful? Relieved? Now flip it: Imagine you did go for it. What’s different? What excites you?

 

2. Write the Worst & Best Case Scenario –

 

• What’s the absolute worst thing that could happen if you try?

 

• What’s the absolute best thing that could happen?

 

• Can you handle the worst? And is the best worth the risk?

 

3. The Gut Check – Close your eyes and say: “I am choosing not to do this.” Notice how your body reacts. Do you feel relief or tension? Now say: “I am going for it.” What happens inside? Your body often knows before your mind does.Final Step: If your gut pulls you toward it and your fear is the only thing stopping you, you already have your answer.A quote that I loved…

We’re really on borrowed time. Choose people that choose you, and let everyone else be.

– Yung Pueblo


A question to ask yourself…

Where am I playing small when I know I’m capable of more?

 

Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

Ryan says it as it is: “I found totally clarity in my life when I decided that they are no wrong decisions. Every decision you make has a positive and negative. Has a good things and bad things. Every decision is just a pivot that takes you down a different path and I would rather regret the things I did than the things I never tried. Because the last thing I want to have happen, I spend my entire life running a race that has no finish line. Because one day, years down the line, I’m going to wake up and realize the finish line is something I already had and then it’s going to be too late.

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There’s no such thing as the ‘perfect’ decision. Every choice shapes your path, and no matter what you choose, you’ll learn something along the way. The worst choice? Not making one at all: getting stuck in overthinking and waiting for certainty that will never come.

Trust yourself. Make the best choice you can with what you know now. And if it turns out differently than expected? Adjust, pivot, and keep going. Life isn’t about always choosing ‘right’; it’s about choosing and moving forward.

And if you decide not to decide? That’s okay too. But then let it go. No more overthinking, no more second-guessing. If you don’t make a choice, make peace with the situation as it is and move on.

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Try this if you’re overthinking a decision:

 

1. Write down the decision you’re stuck on.

 

2. List two or three options you could choose right now.

 

3. Ask yourself, “If I had to decide in the next five minutes, what would I choose?” Go with your gut.

 

4. Take action on your choice, or if you’re not ready, make peace with waiting—no more second-guessing.

 

Clarity comes from action, not endless thinking.A quote that I loved…Anything you lose by speaking your truth isn’t a loss. It’s an alignment.

– The good quote


A question to ask yourself…
What’s one thing I can remove from my life that’s not serving me?

 

Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

“Not everyone is always rooting for you. And sometimes those people may be in your family. They may be in your close friends. And the thing is, is you find that people are more interested in your life or like you more when you’re feeling down and when you are at your worst. And they want to keep you there and they don’t want to see you thrive and they are constantly encouraging that behaviour of yours or those habits you’re trying to get out of, you know that they are not rooting for you… And in the same way, if you are someone who is constantly waiting for someone that you call your friend or someone that’s in your family to fail… You’re not wanting them to be the best version of themselves. You’re constantly waiting for them to slip up or do something wrong, so you can be right about who that you taught they were in your mind. In the same way you should really rethink if you should be calling them your friend or whether you should be considering them to be part of your family. Because that’s not a way to live. So if you do feel this about someone in your life, whichever side you’re on, maybe it’s time to take a step back and really clear the energy and really decide if you truly want them in your life. Because whoever you have in your life, they should want you to thrive and you should want them to thrive too. If you’re not looking for someone to be their best version and they don’t want you to be their best version, then there’s something wrong in that relationship. So, have a think. Who is rooting for you in your life and who is not? Who are you rooting for and who are you not rooting for. Decide on your close circle based upon that.” Love how Radhidesays this.

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Jealousy is a reflection, not a destination. When others project it onto you, don’t take it personally—it’s about them, not you. And if you ever feel it creeping in yourself, use it as a guide. Instead of resenting what someone else has, ask yourself: What does this trigger in me? What do I actually want? Let it inspire you, not limit you. There’s enough success to go around.

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Jealousy has no place in your life, whether it comes from others or from within yourself. If someone can’t celebrate your wins, pay attention. And if you ever find yourself resenting someone else’s success, ask yourself why. True confidence comes from knowing that someone else’s light doesn’t dim yours. Surround yourself with people who uplift, not compete. And be that person for others too. A quote that I loved…

You can only stop repeating your past if you understand your past.

– Kelly for Happy Life Hacks


A question to ask yourself…

Who genuinely celebrates your wins and supports your growth? Who do you show up for in the same way? Your inner circle should be built on mutual support, not silent competition.

 

Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

 

Something to remind yourself…

I love the message of this video: “I think the message is really simply. What we give out, we get back. So you don’t want to give out negative things. What we believe about ourselves, becomes true for us. We need to love ourselves because when we really do love and appreciate this beautiful being that we are, then we can’t hurt ourselves and we can’t hurt other people. And to me that’s the secret of life. It is very simple. It is too simple for some people and yet it works. Wake up to your own potential. Realize how divine and magnificent you are. And realize you have the power to make changes, you’re not stuck. You can begin to make changes by changing the way you think. It will work miracles.”

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Stop using your energy to worry and to talk down to yourself. Make the conscious choice from now on to use your energy to trust, to be loving to yourself and others and to manifest your best life. Make choices that align with your happiness, distance yourself or say goodbye to the people and things that do not align with it and say a full-throated YES to yourself. Close the gap between what you want and where you are now. After all, you always have the opportunity to change the way you think about and treat yourself. You are not who someone else thinks you should be, you are not the way you think you are; you are the way you choose to be.

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Every thought, every decision, every reaction, you are either reinforcing the version of yourself that keeps you stuck or stepping into the version of you that is already living the life you desire. Your future self is not waiting for you; that person is shaped by the choices you make today. A quote that I loved…

I love to go with the flow. My flow. Not yours.
– Poster Journal

A question to ask yourself…

Where is most of my free time spent, and do I truly enjoy it? Or is it time to make a change and be more intentional with how I use it?Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

Anne Hathaway perfectly captures a truth we all need to hear about self-worth and resilience. Spot on, these words from her: “If you don’t love yourself, when someone else says horrible things about you, a part of you is always going to believe them. So then I was like: okay, I don’t want to believe these people. I don’t want to agree with them on any level. I want to figure out who I am. I want to learn who I am. And I don’t want to feel fragile every time I leave the house because I’m so dependent on what other people think about me. I feel like I’ve arrived at a place where, you know, maybe not every minute of every day, but way more than I used to, I have a tremendous amount of love and compassion for everyone else. And best of all, I have it for myself.”

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Validation is something we all crave, it’s wired into us. But here’s the thing: when you rely on external validation, you’re handing your self-worth over to other people. And let’s be honest, their opinions are constantly changing and often say more about them than about you. True confidence comes from internal validation. It’s about backing yourself, celebrating your wins, and saying, “I’m proud of me,” without needing anyone else to agree. Research shows that people who validate themselves feel more confident, stable, and at peace. So stop chasing approval, it’s fleeting. The only validation that truly matters is your own.

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Practice self-love as a daily habit. Self-love isn’t something you achieve once and forget, it’s a practice. Speak to yourself kindly, just like you would to a friend. When you catch yourself being self-critical, flip the script: “What would I tell my best friend in this moment?” The more compassion you show yourself, the stronger and more resilient you’ll become. It’s a game changer! A quote that I loved…

Some years you win. Some years you build character.

– Steve Jobs


A question to ask yourself…

What’s a recurring thought or belief I have about myself? Is it helpful, and where did it come from?

 

Love,
Kelly

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Here is something to remind yourself, a quote that I loved and a question to ask yourself for this week…

Something to remind yourself…

I love how Trevor Noah answered this question: How do you define a bad friend? “I don’t think you spot them. I think you feel it, you know? And I think it’s a lot easier for us to sense than we realize. One of the simplest indicators is: can you be yourself?

Sometimes they’re not necessarily a bad friend; they’re just a bad friend for you because you’re not revealing your true self to them. So, they’re being friends with the idea of you, not the real you. You leave those interactions thinking, ‘I don’t feel good.’ But they don’t even know you, so you can’t really blame them for being a bad friend.
Honestly, I don’t think there’s such a thing as a bad friend. I think it’s just a bad friendship. They might be a great friend to someone else, so it’s not about them being good or bad. It’s about recognising that this is simply a bad friendship for you.

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The people around you should allow you to be yourself and support how you choose to live your life, especially if those choices bring you joy, even if they’d choose differently. Over time, we all grow and change. Long-term friendships can evolve, especially if you met when you were young. The key is to give each other space for that personal growth.

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A big part of creating fulfilling friendships is letting go of the ones that no longer align. It’s not about labeling someone as “toxic” or “bad”, it’s about recognizing when the energy exchange isn’t mutual, or when you leave interactions feeling less like yourself. Protecting your peace and authenticity is a form of self-love, and that includes being mindful of who you surround yourself with

A quote that I loved…

When something is right for you it will give you energy. That’s how you know.

– Random paintresss


A question to ask yourself…

Now be your own best friend and ask yourself: How am I feeling right now, and what do I need? Not only take the time to answer this question, give yourself what you need.

 

Love,
Kelly

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