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Child psychology. Anybody?
I’d be lying if I said I was one of those moms that had it all together. That is the absolute furthest from the truth. My biggest struggle is my youngest son. Not for any other reason than pure worry. He’s a fantastic kid. He has the most amazing personality and he can bring smiles and joy to the saddest person. He’s so funny. He knows exactly who he is, and nobody can influence what he wants or feels if he’s made up his mind. He’s talented too. He has a way with numbers. He’s not always right, but most of the time, if someone tells him their birthday and birth year, he can tell them what day they were born on and sometimes what day their birthday will fall on in the current year. He is 8 years old and a math wizard, multiplication and division included. He makes up the funniest raps, and plays the piano. He’s a self secure, happy, kind, full of life child. That’s every mother’s dream, right?
I may have left out that he’s a shaken baby survivor. He also had two skull fractures and detached retina, from being thrown on the floor. I also left out that he was born my nephew. My husband and I adopted him when he was two and we’ve been guardians since he was 6 weeks old (the time of hospitalization after the abuse). We’ve been told that there was permanent brain damage that affects his impulse control and his emotions (both of which we’ve struggled with immensely).
His neurologist recently told us that it was time he had a a psychiatric evaluation. We’ve been told that he may be on the spectrum side, which doesn’t really come as a shock, but it does hurt me. He’s doing another evaluation in September and I’m really stressing about it. Any news won’t change things. I just...I don’t know...I guess I feel like I’ve convinced myself that he’s just behind, and any other news is going to make me feel like a failure.
Doctor after doctor, therapist after therapist, technique after technique. I feel like I’m doing everything right, but it’s not good enough. I know that I’m overthinking this, but I hate feeling like I have no control.
Any other moms with input or advice, I would so love to hear from. I feel alone sometimes. I’ve joined support groups and taken parenting classes, but I can’t seem to feel comfortable with any of it.
I may have left out that he’s a shaken baby survivor. He also had two skull fractures and detached retina, from being thrown on the floor. I also left out that he was born my nephew. My husband and I adopted him when he was two and we’ve been guardians since he was 6 weeks old (the time of hospitalization after the abuse). We’ve been told that there was permanent brain damage that affects his impulse control and his emotions (both of which we’ve struggled with immensely).
His neurologist recently told us that it was time he had a a psychiatric evaluation. We’ve been told that he may be on the spectrum side, which doesn’t really come as a shock, but it does hurt me. He’s doing another evaluation in September and I’m really stressing about it. Any news won’t change things. I just...I don’t know...I guess I feel like I’ve convinced myself that he’s just behind, and any other news is going to make me feel like a failure.
Doctor after doctor, therapist after therapist, technique after technique. I feel like I’m doing everything right, but it’s not good enough. I know that I’m overthinking this, but I hate feeling like I have no control.
Any other moms with input or advice, I would so love to hear from. I feel alone sometimes. I’ve joined support groups and taken parenting classes, but I can’t seem to feel comfortable with any of it.
