Koki Oyuke's Blog

“I want to say this body has been to war. But war seems too ugly a word. How do you describe something as primal as the dirt from which the flowers grow? There has also been a love that came so thick and fast that it has made everything new. It has rewritten a story. The story of you and I. Because my child, you are born of me. And with you I am born again.” — Caroline Snider “Mama, no one even mentioned it. In nine whole months, not one person said⁣: ‘You’re about to meet someone entirely new. ...

“(24/7) once you sign on to be a mother, that’s the only shift they offer. Jodi Picoult “Even if i’m setting myself up for failure, I think it’s worth trying to be a mother who delights in who her children are. A mother who spends less time obseessing about what will happen, or what has happened, and more time reveling in what is. A mother who doesn’t fret over failings and slights, who realizes her worries and anxieties are just thoughts, the continuous...

It’s been months since I came on here. I suppose I was trying to catch my breath. It was a lot. Talking about the book during interviews was wild — like white water rafting on the rapids. It was exhilarating… until I had to do it through my 3rd miscarriage. And that was rough. Mostly because I didn’t see it coming, again. I needed to take a step back and find rest and perspective again. And heal again. And cradle my questions and the pain and take it to God again. Funny how,...

“You must make an enemy of envy today. Today. By tonight, because it will eat you alive.” ― Jerry Saltz We’re about to get real here today, is that okay? Okay. Have you ever wanted something so bad that you worked so hard for it, prayed so long for it, tried and tried everything for it but you still ended up waiting for it? Then, have you seen (in the middle of your waiting, trying and hoping) someone who didn’t seem to want the thing you wanted as bad as you did get it so e...