James E. Miller

“Sometimes the care you receive comes not from your care partner but from others around you: family members, friends, neighbors, your clergyperson, other healthcare workers. The most important thing you can do for those people-and for yourself-is to accept their care willingly, gratefully, and quietly.”
― James E. Miller, The Caregiver's Book: Caring for Another, Caring for Yourself

“Just as importantly, perhaps the "someone" who needs to do more is the one you are caring for.
It may be that she or he would benefit from having less done rather than more, for their own strength or self-esteem or integrity.
There is a price that goes with being too dependent.”
― James E. Miller, The Caregiver's Book: Caring for Another, Caring for Yourself