Joey Raab's Blog
June 19, 2023
The Practice of Intuitive Eating
There is a very special way to know exactly which foods are the most beneficial for you and will help you to feel your best. The term for this is intuitive eating, and it’s simply about using our natural body wisdom to let us know what food would be the most beneficial to us at this very moment. ntuitive eating involves becoming more aware of the intuitive cues that we receive when we think about eating particular foods. Starting to notice and tune in to these impressions can provide us with a tremendous amount of useful information.
Most of us have practiced intuitive eating at one time or another without knowing exactly what we were doing. Perhaps a particular food jumped out at you, or the idea of eating something felt engaging and energizing. On the contrary, you might have been offered a food that made you feel tired just thinking about it. Or even though theoretically it should be the perfect dinner, but some part of you felt a subtle yet very clear aversion to it. Or perhaps it felt downright unappealing, as though you would have to force yourself to eat it!
Suppose you are trying to decide between two different foods. Start with the first food and imagine eating it. How does it feel to you? Does the idea of consuming this food feel inviting and energizing or forced and draining? How does your body feel as you imagine eating this food? Do you feel like you have more energy and feel more alive or does it make you feel tired or perhaps a little off balance? Perhaps you even feel a tad shaky and weak thinking about a particular meal, especially when it’s high in carbohydrates in the middle of the day.
Does one food stand out to you more than the other? Perhaps you somehow perceive it as brighter and more inviting, while the other food seems darker and less appealing. As you become more aware of these messages, a particular food might really grab your attention, almost as though it has flashing lights beckoning you to eat it. Another approach can also be to simply picture each food in your mind’s eye. Try to see how each food
appears to you at this moment. Does one food look brighter and more appealing? Does another food look darker and less appealing? Perhaps it makes you feel tired, weak, or shaky. These are all intuitive clues that you can use to assess which foods to eat. Interestingly, these foods do not have to be right in front of you. You can simply think about the foods you are considering to eat, one at a time. Try to tune into how each one makes you feel, and if it feels inviting and energizing or blocked and tiring.
Expect the UnexpectedThe food that speaks to you the most is not always the most logical. For example, sometimes your body might really need some serious calories and nourishment. The food that speaks to you in this particular moment might not logically be the healthiest choice, but it’s what your body needs right now for the caloric density.
I’ve sometimes had a feeling that a particular food will make me feel great even though it’s not the
healthiest choice. I’ve learned to listen to these cues, as they are just a temporary need. They will wind up being a good choice, and I experience a corresponding improvement in the way I feel. On the other hand, when I’ve ignored my intuitive urges in favor of what I intellectually believe is a “better choice”, I have often wound up regretting the decision.
Intuitive Eating vs. Craving 
It’s important to note that there is a huge difference between craving a particular food vs intuitively feeling that it is beneficial to you at this time.
Cravings are often overwhelming, and are accompanied by feelings of anxiety and/or excitement. When you are in the throes of a craving, there is often little or no ability to calmly “tune in” to the craving to see if it’s a good option. On the other hand, an intuitive nudge is much calmer, and is simply accompanied by a feeling of expansion, as though eating the food will make you feel more alive and energized.
Intuitive nudges speak to you in a way that allows you to sense that your body is asking for this food, as opposed to feeling a strong compulsion to eat the food. The idea of eating the food actually makes you feel stronger and more energized, as opposed to feeling drained or tired. You will become more accustomed to the difference the more you practice intuitive eating.
Don’t Judge YourselfPart of the process of becoming a better intuitive eater is overcoming the judgment we normally have about the foods we eat. Intuitive eating involves tuning into a different part of your awareness that is beyond judgment. You are going straight to the intuitive cues you are receiving regardless of how you may feel about a particular food. Perhaps you normally don’t eat a particular food but at this moment, It’s the perfect match.
I recently went through a particularly difficult week. Because of the extra stress, I wasn’t eating regularly. One afternoon while chatting with my brother-in-law, I noticed that he was about to have a bagel. I rarely eat bagels, and would certainly not think about eating them in the middle of the day. All the carbs would normally make me feel tired and would therefore not be a great midafternoon choice for me.
But on this particular day the bagel stood out in a way that really spoke to me. It jumped out at me, and appeared bright and appealing. Internally, I could feel how good I would feel if I ate this bagel, and my body called out to me in a way that I have become quite familiar with. I quickly asked him if I could split the bagel with him, and could literally feel the energy returning to my body with every bite. By the time I finished eating the bagel, I felt like a new person. Clearly, my lack of nourishment during the week necessitated eating a bagel, as I probably needed a dense carbohydrate. What would normally have knocked me out for the afternoon wound up being a complete game changer.
I could have talked myself out of it, telling myself that bagels in the middle of the day are usually a bad idea for me. But I’m so glad that I listened to my intuitive wisdom and ate that half bagel. I felt wonderful for the rest of the day!
How to startThe best way to start practicing intuitive eating is to focus more attention on your body and simply noticing it reacts to the idea of each food. Get quiet and picture yourself eating a particular food. How does your body feel at this moment? Does it feel energetic and powerful or does it feel weak and lethargic? Perhaps it feels a little bit shaky from all the sugar the food contains. Try to get a true sense
of how your body feels as you imagine eating this food.
The more you practice these techniques, the more refined your intuitive senses will become. In addition, intuitive eating will start to become a natural part of your decision-making process whenever you are confronted with different food choices. As you practice this technique, your intuitive awareness will become stronger, allowing you to make better choices, feel better, have more energy, and eat the foods that your body needs.
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November 15, 2022
Find The Path to Happiness
Everything in your life that upsets and annoys you can be used to dramatically transform your life and increase your happiness. In fact, those things in life that bother you the most can be turned into a catalyst for major self-growth
Anytime we are feeling negative towards anyone, it highlights the areas within us that are holding us back from experiencing the natural joy that lives inside each of us. We are then provided with a golden opportunity to heal this negativity within us, allowing us to feel lighter and happier.
The emotions that we carry within us actually mask the natural joy that lives inside each of us. Each time we become angry, annoyed, jealous or agitated by someone, it highlights something inside of us that is hiding our inner light. This affords us the opportunity to heal this emotion and lighten our burden.
When something upsets us, it is often an external trigger for something that needs to be healed on the inside. If someone does something that creates rage within us, this is a tremendous opportunity to heal this anger that resides within us.
Ultimately, all judgment is self-judgment. Whenever we judge someone about a particular issue, that same issue resides within us. Otherwise, we would not have experienced such an emotionally charged response to another person’s bad behavior. Suppose I feel perturbed about someone for being lazy. If I did not judge myself for the very same issue, it is unlikely that I would harbor such negative feelings toward this person’s “lazy” behavior.
Bring Emotions To The SurfaceThe healing process begins by simply allowing this emotion to surface and to be felt and experienced. Move your complete attention to this emotion and give it the time that it deserves. Let yourself express anything that feels natural without judgment, from laughing and crying to outright screaming!
After allowing yourself to experience these emotions, start writing letters to God or a higher power each night before bedtime. In the letter, express your clear and heartfelt desire to have the emotion healed while you sleep. You’ll find that each morning the emotion will feel lighter and softer as though the volume is being turned down.
The next time you find yourself in the same situation, the emotional response that you experience will often be much quieter. Eventually, you will not feel any kind of emotional response at all, and it will be up to you to decide how you want to respond.
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Facilitate Emotional Healing 
This will allow you to begin using anything that happens in your life as a way to heal every last bit of anger, sadness, grief, jealousy, and anything else that is standing in the way of true happiness. As you continue to bring awareness to each emotional response that you have in your life, you will have the tremendous opportunity to greatly lighten your emotional burden. This can facilitate tremendous emotional healing and much happier life.
This will allow you to start feeling happy for no apparent reason. This lightness and happiness is the joy of being, and it is the natural happiness that lives within each of us. Your energy and energy field will greatly lighten, and you will experience profound changes in the way you feel.
This natural happiness often gets clouded at an early age as we begin piling on layer upon layer of our emotional baggage. The trick is to begin to notice whenever something triggers our emotions and immediately begin to use the process described here.
Find out more at pureemotionalmagic.com and in my book, Pure Emotional Magic, available on Amazon. It offers powerful emotional healing, grief healing help, and much more.
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October 28, 2022
Finding Your Childhood Happiness…Again
Remember how happy and joyous it was to play when you were a child? Can you remember the feeling of this boundless energy and excitement?
This excitement is still present within each of us, but is often hidden underneath the weight of our emotional baggage. Anger, grief, anxiety, guilt, and jealousy are just a few of the emotions that mask this natural happiness. These emotions accumulate throughout life and hide our natural joy.
This happiness is sometimes referred to as our “inner child” or “soul child”, which is alive and well inside each of us. No matter how long you have been holding onto the emotions that are masking your inner child, it is still available to be rediscovered once they have been properly healed and cleared out. Underneath, that same joy that you felt as a child is waiting for you, undisturbed and unchanged.
How To Heal Your Inner ChildIt can be helpful to think of our emotions as young and innocent children. When young children experience emotions such as fear, anxiety, or sadness, we don’t judge them for having these emotions. We comfort them by extending love and compassion.
Seeing our emotions, in the same manner, can help us avoid the trap of judging our emotions as “good” or “bad”. Judgment is a form of resistance, which stagnates the emotion and keeps it in place. Judging an emotion as wrong is essentially fighting it, which only gives it more power over you and prevents it from healing.
Instead of judging your emotions, try allowing them to surface and giving them the same compassion that you would show to a young and helpless child. The idea is to sit with the emotion and truly have compassion on those parts of yourself that are hurting. By extending compassion to this imagined young child, you are actually giving compassion to yourself.
Emotional Healing Help 
Recognizing that every emotion has a right to exist can help us to see our emotions through the lens of compassion. These parts our ourselves want to be heard and expressed. If you honor your emotions by accepting them, you begin the healing process.
All of us have parts of ourselves that we find unlovable and are especially in need of our love and empathy. These parts are hurting and they deserve to have their say without judgment or scrutiny.
Start welcoming your emotional pain the way you would a hurt or injured friend, pet, or child – with love and open arms. Seeing your emotional pain through the eyes of compassion will help to put you in the proper place to allow healing and ultimately let go.
For a wonderful healing technique to clear out your emotions, visit pureemotionalmagic.com and check out my book on Amazon, Pure Emotional Magic. It’s a powerful self-help book on how to heal your inner child and much more….emotional healing, grief healing help, and one of the most powerful books about finding happiness.
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October 5, 2022
The Technique to Feeling Happy Again
There is a technique to clear out all of your fear, anger, sadness, and guilt, uncovering all of the happiness that is hiding underneath. It’s a technique that I created called Pure Emotional Magic, and it can completely change the way you feel and experience life.
The first step is to simply allow your emotions to surface and begin confronting them. Because it’s virtually impossible to heal emotions that have been hidden away, this step entails allowing your emotions to surface in order to work with them. Even emotions that haven’t been buried so deeply must also completely surface in order to be properly addressed.
Next, allow the emotions to wash over you. This involves moving your awareness into those areas that are hurting and allowing yourself to directly feel and experience these emotions. To do this, you need to get quiet and still in order to properly focus your attention.
Emotions Cant Hurt YouAlthough emotions can be quite unpleasant, it’s important to keep in mind that they cannot hurt you. Whether it’s anger, fear, sadness, or grief, you can experience these emotions without being harmed. There is therefore no reason to fear confronting your emotions. It is the very act of confronting, acknowledging, and experiencing the emotion that actually begins the healing process.
Once you’ve allowed the emotions to arise, the next step is to allow yourself to process them. You might feel like yelling, screaming, or crying…these are all valid. Don’t judge yourself for how you experience and express emotions. The mere act of being present with the emotion and allowing it to have its say is extremely important in the healing process. There is no wrong way to experience emotions – you can do whatever comes naturally.
Are You Willing To Let Go? Next, it’s time to ask yourself “would I be willing to let go of this emotion?” and observing how this question makes you feel. If you are ready, the idea of letting go will feel:
WelcomingInvitingExcitingExhilaratingEnergizingAppealing Ask YourselfOn the other hand, if you are not ready to let go, asking yourself this question might make you feel:
ResistanceHesitationFearThe idea of letting go feels forced or unnaturalIt feels rushed and incompleteIt doesn’t feel like your heart is ready to let goYou have strong feelings against letting go Observe And Process Your EmotionsAsking yourself if you feel ready to let go and then noticing how you feel is a great way to gauge your readiness to let go. If you aren’t quite ready, you can always spend more time observing and processing the emotion. But regardless, the next step can truly be truly miraculous.
The final step entails writing letters to God or a higher power each night before bedtime. In the letter, ask from the heart to have the emotion that you are dealing with healing while you sleep. If you ask from the heart with a true desire to let go, you will start to notice some tremendous changes. Each morning, you’ll find that the emotion returns a little quieter and softer than it felt previously, as though the volume is somehow being turned down.
If you continue to do this, the emotion will get lighter and lighter until it vanishes. In its wake, you will be left with a light and peaceful feeling.
Although you might continue to have to deal with a bad situation, you will no longer carry around these dark and heavy emotional clouds. You will feel light and peaceful despite the external circumstances.
I successfully utilized this technique when my father went through a lengthy and life ending illness. It didn’t bring my father back and I continue to miss him tremendously. However, it did clear out the dark and heavy grief, and I am able to feel happy and joyous again in spite of what happened.
Although this is just an overview of the process, there are certainly more details that can help to streamline the technique and make it much more effective. You can learn more on my website, pureemotionalmagic.com, and in my book, Pure Emotional Magic, available on Amazon.
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September 19, 2022
Your Intuition – The End of Indecision
Have you ever had music or the television playing in the background while you’re reading or working on a project? Initially, you might only be peripherally aware of the noise without consciously processing it. But at some point, you become fully aware of it and recognize that it has been constantly running in the background.
That is precisely how we start to become aware of our intuition. It’s a kind of background noise that’s always been present. However, most of us have either tuned it out or we are simply not aware that it has been constantly within reach. The good news is that once we start looking for it, it becomes much easier to find.
Our intuition has always been running in the backdrop as a kind of inner knowingness. Perhaps you were invited to go to the ballgame or a play but something felt “forced” or “tiring” about it. Many of us
discount or ignore these feelings. However, the more you start becoming aware of them, the louder they become.
If something is a good choice, it might have some of the following characteristics:
Feels exhilaratingFeels invitingFeels openFeels excitingWhen thinking about this choice, you might perceive it as “lighter” and “brighter” than the other option
On the other hand, if something is not such a great choice, it might have some of these characteristics:
Feels forced Feels blockedFeels like a lot of workFeels tiring to think about doing thisWhen thinking about this choice, you might perceive it as “darker” than the alternative option Your body tenses up when you think about this choiceYou feel and sense a lot of resistance when thinking about this choice
Intuition vs Comparison
You can literally look at each option, comparing how they look with respect to each other. Note how each one looks and feels in comparison to the other.
Some people are able to notice these differences immediately, while others might need more time to notice these characteristics. But these differences have always been there, just waiting for you to consciously take notice.
While society values rational thought, our intuition is far wiser. It has access to information that is not available to our rational minds. I’ve had many decisions over the years where my intuition was at odds with rational choice. In the end, the intuitive suggestion always winds up being the best choice for everybody involved.
Intuition is different than emotion. You might be angry, nervous, or sad about a particular situation, and these are obviously your emotions. But intuition has a distinctive feeling that is uniquely it’s own. This special feeling will become more familiar to you the more you practice tuning into it.
In fact, the more you work with your intuition, the clearer it becomes. This will allow you to take advantage of this tremendous tool for discerning the best choices for you and your loved ones, greatly enhancing your life.
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September 12, 2022
The Healthy Way to Work with Guilt
One of the most debilitating emotions is guilt. It can literally consume your life and trap you inside a seemingly inescapable prison. Perhaps you think you should have treated your parents better or been kinder and more responsive to a friend in need. Or maybe you think you should have prevented your divorce, or you’re responsible for causing someone pain.
But the simple truth is this: All guilt is self-guilt. As such, all guilt begins and ends with you. You are the only person that can “make yourself” feel guilty, and the only person that can set you free. Only you can decide the reasons for continuing to hold onto the guilt, and only you can decide “if” and “when” you want to put the guilt down.
Guilt can be quite helpful when used as an agent for change. It affords you the opportunity to evaluate your life and decide how you would like to be different in the future. After that, the guilt serves no useful purpose other than the one that you assign to it.
The Only Way To Deal With Guilt Is From The InsideLike any other emotion, guilt has to be healed on the inside. Start by allowing the guilt to surface and wash over you. You can’t heal an emotion when you’re not willing to experience it, so it’s important to allow yourself to directly confront and experience the guilt. Remember that it’s just an emotion, and therefore cannot hurt you. It might not be pleasant, but confronting it cannot harm you.
Next, talk about the guilt and express it. You might feel sad, angry, or anxious. Whatever you are feeling is valid, and it’s important to give expression to these emotions. Talking about the guilt will allow you to process it and ultimately obtain the readiness to let it go.
Next, ask yourself if you would be willing to let go of the guilt. This affords you a tremendous opportunity to see if you feel any resistance to letting go. Notice how you feel as you continue to ask yourself if you would be willing to let go of the guilt.
Holding On To Guilt Serves No Useful Pourpose. It’s important to keep in mind that holding onto guilt reaps its own reward – namely, you get to continue to experience the guilt. It serves no useful purpose other than the one that you give it. The decision to let go of the guilt will help to begin the healing process and begin releasing you from this tremendous burden.
When you feel ready, start writing a letter to God or a higher power each night before bedtime. In this letter, express your heartfelt and sincere desire to have the guilt cleared out and healed while you sleep.
When you wake up the next morning you might be surprised to notice that the guilt will be lighter and softer than it was the previous day. It’s as though the volume is being turned down, and the guilt is no longer so overwhelming. Continue to write these nightly letters until the guilt has faded and your natural happiness returns.
We are never at the mercy of our emotions. They can be cleared out and healed at a time of our own choosing. And it all starts with the recognition and decision to begin the healing process
My book, Pure Emotional Magic, is a wonderful tool to learn the process of clearing out our emotions and experiencing the tremendous joy that lives within. The book can be purchased on Amazon, and you can also learn more at pureemotionalmagic.com.
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September 6, 2022
The Art of Forgiveness
We often hear about victims waiting for “justice” or some other form of “closure” before moving on. When someone wrongs us or hurts us, it can be quite tempting to hold onto the hurtful feelings until the person responsible is brought to justice.
But the simple truth is that nothing has to change in order for you to make the decision to begin healing your emotional pain. The only thing that is necessary is to make the decision to begin the healing. Only you can decide “if” and “when” you are ready to begin moving forward and initiate the healing process.
When my home was burglarized several years ago, I felt a sea of emotions in the aftermath. My home did not feel like my home, as it had an uncomfortable and unsavory feeling. It was as though my home no longer had the same familiarity and peacefulness that had pervaded it for so many years. I also felt anger toward the perpetrators for invading my space, stealing my belongings, and sabotaging my peace of mind.
I allowed myself to swim in these emotions for several days. The more uncomfortable the emotion, the more I moved into it and allowed myself to experience it. I didn’t judge the emotions as good or bad but merely allowed myself to give these emotions the time and space that they deserved. This is a necessary part of the technique involved in processing emotions and ultimately attaining the willingness to let go.
At times I would just sit there with all of the emotions bubbling around me, yelling, screaming, or speaking to the perpetrators in my mind and expressing how I felt. After several days of immersing myself in these emotions, I obtained a strong desire to finally let go.
Make The Decision To Drop The Hurtful FeelingsIt’s important to note that the decision to begin the healing process by no means condones the actions of the burglars that broke into my home. Forgiveness is not saying that it’s okay that someone wronged you or committed a crime against you. What they did was wrong, and they deserve whatever consequences result from their actions. However, letting go of the emotional baggage surrounding the crime – anger, hurt, and sadness – is something you do for yourself. I wasn’t letting go for the sake of the perpetrators but for my own sake, and the peace of mind that would result.
Use the Pure Emotional Magic Technique Using the Pure Emotional Magic technique that I created (available on Amazon), I wrote a heartfelt letter to God asking to have the emotions cleared out. Since I was truly ready to let go, I experienced extremely rapid results as I immediately began to feel all of the heaviness, anger, and discomfort lifting off of me. As I continued to write the letter the emotions continued to dissipate. My chest felt so much lighter as I let go of the heavy burden that I had been carrying for the past several days. It felt as though I was walking out of a dark dungeon and into the sunlight.
If you have been victimized, you don’t have to wait until the person is jailed or punished before you can let go. These are arbitrary conditions that people often decide must be present before they are willing to let go. The truth is that we have the choice to let go as soon as we are ready to begin the healing the process. It is aways up to you to decide the moment of your release and the conditions that are necessary to begin the healing.
In addition to restoring my peace, I experienced an additional benefit that was unexpected. After successfully healing the emotional baggage surrounding the burglary, I began to have compassion for the burglar. Once I was no longer seeing the crime through a prism of anger and fear, it was much easier to see just how desperate they must have been to risk prison time for a few stolen goods. Life looks quite different when it is not being seen through the veil of our emotional baggage. Although I wasn’t trying to have compassion for the burglar, in the absence of my emotional baggage, I was able to see them through my heart.
I’m happy to report that my home once again felt comfortable as the intense anger and discomfort faded away. As the uneasiness subsided, I was left with a peaceful, joyous, and light feeling in its wake.
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August 22, 2022
Numbness Has Become an Epidemic
I have come across countless people over the years who have told me they feel numb inside. One person even remarked that the only time they feel alive is while skydiving. “Inner numbness” has become an epidemic, with many people merely going through the motions of life without actually feeling and connecting. What is the source of this “numbness epidemic”, and can anything be done to feel more alive and connected?
One of the sources of this numbness is the avoidance of feeling pain. When I’ve spoken with people who describe feeling numb, they will often tell me that they avoid painful emotions by compressing them down inside. It’s as though they crumple these painful emotions into a ball and stuff them down into the inner recesses of their soul, never to be felt again. The result is a feeling of numbness and distance toward other people and from life itself.
Turn Your Attention To Understanding How You FeelThe first step to reversing this process is to begin moving back into your body. Spend some time trying to get back in touch with different areas of your body and sensing how they feel.
Turn your attention into your stomach area and see if you sense any kind of emotion. Does your stomach feel tense? Do you sense any kind of fear or anxiety? How does your stomach feel when you think about uncomfortable or hurtful events in your life? Try to stay with these feelings for several minutes without diverting your attention.
Next, you can move into your heart area and tune into the feelings that you might sense there. Does it feel heavy or light? Is there any sadness or pain? How does your heart area feel when you remember a loved one that has passed away?
There is no right or wrong way to do this, as you are simply trying to bring your awareness back into your body. You can choose any area of your body and tune into how it feels, especially when you think about different things that have caused you pain.
You can systematically work your way through your entire body. Each time you move into a different area of your body, note what you are feeling. Are you feeling tension, tightness, or pain? Does it feel warm or cold? Try to describe exactly how each area is feeling without trying to judge it as “right” or “wrong”.
Pure Emotional Magic Can Guide You Through The Process You can also take a general inventory of your body, asking yourself how you are feeling in general at this moment. Do you feel tired, awake, happy, sad, or anxious? Is there any fear anywhere in your body?
This might sound silly, but the more you practice this, the more you will begin to awaken those feelings that have long been dormant within your body. It will subtly retrain you to begin feeling again, awakening you from the numbness and bringing your focus back to your feelings. This exercise can help to initiate the process of tuning back into your body and starting to feel again.
Once you begin feeling again, you can start to work with your emotions and process them in a variety of healthy ways. The technique taught here and, in my book, Pure Emotional Magic, is an excellent method of successfully healing emotions and getting back to the underlying peace.
If you have read this far, you have already taken the first step.
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August 8, 2022
Anger And Recognizing Emotional Baggage
What does honking your horn and having a political opinion have in common? Both have become dangerous activities. In fact, honking your horn at someone has actually become a physical danger, as many people throughout the country are being shot for simply honking their horn at someone!
On social media, expressing your opinion has also become a perilous activity. Political discussions have become toxic, giving rise to tremendous amounts of anger, hatred, and vitriol.
What is the source of this ever-expanding hatred and animosity? Are people really that angry about someone having a different political opinion or simply honking a horn?
It turns out, the answer has little to do with horns and opinions and everything to do with our emotional baggage, which I like to refer to as our emotional “stuff.”
The First Step Back To Feeling Joy AgainThe person shooting someone for honking a horn or becoming outraged over a different opinion is harboring a tremendous amount of unhealed anger. This anger can often lie dormant until something comes along and triggers it, propelling it to the surface. The anger is not perceived as originating from within, but a directly product of the of the person that has provoked it. Instead of seeing the anger at its source, within, it is seen as originating completely from the outside.
This individual completely believes that the source of the anger is someone having a different opinion or daring to honk a horn at them. This results in an exaggerated response, as all of this rage is directed outward towards the person or event that has triggered all of this unhealed emotion. The consequences can be devasting, sometimes even resulting in death.
Healing the source of the anger itself, rather than trying to stop other opinions and unwanted horns, would actually get to the root of the problem. Therefore, the remedy is to begin working on these unhealed emotions at their source, which is within.
All of us have had many life situations that have generated quite a bit of anger. Whatever the cause of the anger, the trick is to identify this anger and heal it within, rather than waiting for it to be triggered and projected onto someone else.
The first step is to get in touch with your anger by allowing yourself to experience it for the purpose of healing it. This might involve speaking with someone that wronged you, talking about the anger with a friend or licensed therapist, or screaming, yelling, and punching a pillow.
Pure Emotional Magic Will Help With Your Willingness To Let GoNext, when you’re ready to let go, start writing letters before bedtime to God (or a higher power) asking to have the anger healed while you sleep. These letters must be written with sincerity and a true desire and willingness to let go. If you do this regularly, you will begin to notice the anger becoming lighter and less intense, as though the volume is being turned down. The next time people or events trigger the anger (i.e., someone having a different opinion), you will not become quite so angry.
By healing anger at its source, you can free yourself from being at the mercy of unhealed rage constantly getting triggered by external sources. If everyone worked on healing their emotional “stuff”, the world would become a much happier and safer place for free expression.
Find out more information in my book, Pure Emotional Magic, available on Amazon.
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Making The Decision To Deal With Your Grief.
When we lose a loved one, we are faced with a monumental decision: How long do we wish to carry the grief around with us? This decision will directly affect how we experience our life in the coming weeks, months, and even years to come.
The trick by healing grief book involves recognizing that there is a profound difference between the grief and the actual event that has happened. Grief is an inner emotion that can be healed, regardless of the external event that has transpired. Even though losing a loved one is not what you wanted, you can still choose to heal the grief and start feeling lighter again.
When I lost my father to a slow and relentless illness, I recognized that the decision about when to begin healing the grief would dramatically impact my life experience moving forward. It was an absolutely monumental decision that would affect how I would experience life over the coming years, coloring every area of my life. Choosing to hold onto grief would mean that my life would be experienced through dark and heavy fog. Even though I would continue to miss my father for the rest of my life, I still had the choice to begin reading books about grief and healing. And although it would not bring my father back, it would begin to clear out all of the dark and heavy clouds that were weighing me down and hiding my joy.
The First Step Back To Feeling Joy AgainIf someone wrongfully breaks our nose, we get it fixed in order to get out of pain EVEN though we aren’t happy about what happened. Similarly, even though we are not “okay” with losing a loved one, we can still choose to heal the grief in order to alleviate our emotional pain.
The first step is to recognize that grief healing book does not mean that we are letting go of our loved one. Even though we will always miss the person that passed away and will never be “happy” about the situation, we do have the choice to begin healing the grief and clearing out the clouds. This will allow us to feel lighter and happier, and to even begin feeling joy again.
Experience the Grief Healing Help The next step is to realize that emotions cannot hurt us. Regardless of how unpleasant and dark an emotion might appear to be, it’s merely an uncomfortable feeling. The second step is therefore to allowing our emotions to wash over us and letting ourselves experience them. It is only by experiencing our grief that we can begin to process it and obtain the willingness to let go, just a little bit at a time.
Once we experience the grief and become more willing to let it go, we can start to utilize a tremendous technique that can literally be life changing. It’s a simple technique that involves writing heartfelt letters to God or a Higher Power, asking to have the grief healed. These letters are written at night before bedtime, asking to have the grief healed while you sleep. If you do this from the heart and are truly seeking to let go of the grief, the results can be astounding. Each morning, you’ll find that the grief will lighten up and become quieter, as though the volume is being turned down.
Pure Emotional Magic Will Guide You Through The ProcessI cannot overemphasize how vital it is for this to be done with a sincere willingness and desire to achieve more inner peace. You must be more interested in feeling peaceful again than holding on to the grief.
This nightly letter writing is a part of the technique that I created called Pure Emotional Magic, which is a book available on Amazon. In my book and blog posts I teach this important emotional healing technique, which can be practiced by anyone. The only requirement is a true willingness and desire to begin the healing process.
Ultimately, only You can decide the reasons for continuing to carry your grief, and “if” and “when” you begin to put it down. But when you make the decision to put down your grief, Pure Emotional Magic is a mighty tool that can speed you towards emotional healing, and to ultimately feeling happy again.
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