Sarah Monie's Blog
December 10, 2024
Why I never give up x
As a 'self published, dyslexic nobody' (a recent opinion given freely to me by a much more prolific, well known author who was giving me advice 😬🤦♂️😏) this kind of email (below) is why I never give up x We can ALL help to make someone else's world a little brighter, and although a lot of my work is quite dark, it's aim, is to help others who are in the dark too. Thank YOU, Mr Copeland x
- 'This work (Pugnus) was shared with me recently over the lunch break at this years national conference for 'Why men die by suicide' (MANUP) and in those short 129 pages, I have found in Jeremy, so many men, including myself.
Bravo, and thank you. 5/5 ' -
Julian S Copeland, MSc.
- (Mental health practitioner and survivor) December 2024
- 'This work (Pugnus) was shared with me recently over the lunch break at this years national conference for 'Why men die by suicide' (MANUP) and in those short 129 pages, I have found in Jeremy, so many men, including myself.
Bravo, and thank you. 5/5 ' -
Julian S Copeland, MSc.
- (Mental health practitioner and survivor) December 2024
September 8, 2024
September is global 'Suicide Awareness and Prevention' month x
*Trigger Warning*
Suicide. Not something we’re supposed to talk about. No matter your gender, age, or situation, it’s still one of the most taboo subjects amongst our so-called civilised society. But why? Fear? Ignorance?
The trouble is, the fear of maybe saying the wrong thing, or upsetting someone, whether you are worried about someone, have thoughts and feelings leading you to want to end your life, you are a survivor of a suicide attempt, or you are mourning the loss of someone who died by suicide, is only driving both the suffering and the understanding, further underground.
The issues and subjects addressed through sharing Jeremy’s story in 'Pugnus' are both emotive, and also very real issues, which many people, but especially men, often can’t talk about freely, and are often more common than we allow ourselves to acknowledge.
I fully understand the fear of communication, as too often it’s met with ignorance, judgement or ridicule. Depression, low mood, anxiety, self-harm, eating disorders, dysmorphia, OCD, self-medicating, self-harm, dependent drinking, and emotional abuse or trauma from close family or friends, can, and does affect many men, every day.
The stigma through ignorance around these subjects, is sadly the main cause of the negative and often damaging perceptions and responses to men experiencing some of these things. As a mental health professional, I see the lack of understanding, support and services, around both mental health in general, and more-over, male-specific mental health and emotional support, on a daily basis. I am dedicated to supporting all those who go under the radar, in and out of my work roll, hoping to even the balance a little.
Male mental health is one of the least recognised or understood areas, both in professional services and in our social settings. Often, we know or are close to someone who is experiencing some of these things, and we have no idea.
Even with our own personal lived experiences, we can still fall prey to the stereotypes, gender roles and societal expectations of our fellow humans, clouding our view of the people we cross paths with, everyday. My hope is that getting to know Jeremy will help to normalise some of the things that many men experience.
Please start conversations. Only through talking can we deepen our understanding & empathy of other people’s experiences, and show the people around us, particularly our male identifying friends, colleagues and family, that they are valued and heard. My personal and professional long-term goal is that as a society, person to person, in tiny steps, we can support each other.
If we don’t normalise the option to discuss the subject of suicide, suicidal ideation, death by suicide and the many contributing factors, then there can be no forward movement in supporting those whose lives are deeply affected by this issue.
As always, I've popped the contact info for the Samaritans here with some of their recent stats (They are the free and confidential organisation available to all in the UK, who specialise in supporting around some of the areas raised through Jeremy’s story.)
Please reach out to them if you, or anyone you know, is affected by any of the issues raised through Jeremy’s story and know that you are not alone. There is ALWAYS a way forward and you matter to this world very much.
– Sarah x
Statistics around death by suicide in England, shared from the Samaritans website
- Accessed 08/02/24 Samaritans UK –
https://www.samaritans.org/.../suici....
5284 suicides were registered in England in 2022
This is 65 more than in 2021.
Out of these, 3,909 were identified as Male (74%) and 1,375 were identified as Female (26%)
The overall suicide rate was 10.5 per 100,000
The male suicide rate was 16.1 per 100,000, compared to a female suicide rate of 5.3 per 100,000
Males aged 50-54 were found to have the highest suicide rate (23.1 per 100,000).
Males are 3 times more likely to die by suicide in England than females.
Samaritans- www.samaritans.org
Call- 116 123 free, day or night, 365 days a year
Suicide. Not something we’re supposed to talk about. No matter your gender, age, or situation, it’s still one of the most taboo subjects amongst our so-called civilised society. But why? Fear? Ignorance?
The trouble is, the fear of maybe saying the wrong thing, or upsetting someone, whether you are worried about someone, have thoughts and feelings leading you to want to end your life, you are a survivor of a suicide attempt, or you are mourning the loss of someone who died by suicide, is only driving both the suffering and the understanding, further underground.
The issues and subjects addressed through sharing Jeremy’s story in 'Pugnus' are both emotive, and also very real issues, which many people, but especially men, often can’t talk about freely, and are often more common than we allow ourselves to acknowledge.
I fully understand the fear of communication, as too often it’s met with ignorance, judgement or ridicule. Depression, low mood, anxiety, self-harm, eating disorders, dysmorphia, OCD, self-medicating, self-harm, dependent drinking, and emotional abuse or trauma from close family or friends, can, and does affect many men, every day.
The stigma through ignorance around these subjects, is sadly the main cause of the negative and often damaging perceptions and responses to men experiencing some of these things. As a mental health professional, I see the lack of understanding, support and services, around both mental health in general, and more-over, male-specific mental health and emotional support, on a daily basis. I am dedicated to supporting all those who go under the radar, in and out of my work roll, hoping to even the balance a little.
Male mental health is one of the least recognised or understood areas, both in professional services and in our social settings. Often, we know or are close to someone who is experiencing some of these things, and we have no idea.
Even with our own personal lived experiences, we can still fall prey to the stereotypes, gender roles and societal expectations of our fellow humans, clouding our view of the people we cross paths with, everyday. My hope is that getting to know Jeremy will help to normalise some of the things that many men experience.
Please start conversations. Only through talking can we deepen our understanding & empathy of other people’s experiences, and show the people around us, particularly our male identifying friends, colleagues and family, that they are valued and heard. My personal and professional long-term goal is that as a society, person to person, in tiny steps, we can support each other.
If we don’t normalise the option to discuss the subject of suicide, suicidal ideation, death by suicide and the many contributing factors, then there can be no forward movement in supporting those whose lives are deeply affected by this issue.
As always, I've popped the contact info for the Samaritans here with some of their recent stats (They are the free and confidential organisation available to all in the UK, who specialise in supporting around some of the areas raised through Jeremy’s story.)
Please reach out to them if you, or anyone you know, is affected by any of the issues raised through Jeremy’s story and know that you are not alone. There is ALWAYS a way forward and you matter to this world very much.
– Sarah x
Statistics around death by suicide in England, shared from the Samaritans website
- Accessed 08/02/24 Samaritans UK –
https://www.samaritans.org/.../suici....
5284 suicides were registered in England in 2022
This is 65 more than in 2021.
Out of these, 3,909 were identified as Male (74%) and 1,375 were identified as Female (26%)
The overall suicide rate was 10.5 per 100,000
The male suicide rate was 16.1 per 100,000, compared to a female suicide rate of 5.3 per 100,000
Males aged 50-54 were found to have the highest suicide rate (23.1 per 100,000).
Males are 3 times more likely to die by suicide in England than females.
Samaritans- www.samaritans.org
Call- 116 123 free, day or night, 365 days a year
June 16, 2024
Try not to cry... too much!
43(2) try not to cry... too much
In shops now! - (Paperback and Ebook editions :)
Book and I
invite you to try
not to cry
too much...
but if you do
we're here for you
coz actually
we do too!
We see you!
Love Sarah and Book
xx
Ps Stay muchy! ;)
In shops now! - (Paperback and Ebook editions :)
Book and I
invite you to try
not to cry
too much...
but if you do
we're here for you
coz actually
we do too!
We see you!
Love Sarah and Book
xx
Ps Stay muchy! ;)
May 16, 2024
Meet Jeremy (and Ashley) this weekend :)
Pugnus is free as a Kindle read over on Amazon from Friday 17th to Sunday 19th of May x
Paperback and hardback also available :)
"What you see depends on how you look."
...And as always, make sure you look after YOU too x
Sarah :)
Sarah Monie
Pugnus
Paperback and hardback also available :)
"What you see depends on how you look."
...And as always, make sure you look after YOU too x
Sarah :)
Sarah Monie
Pugnus
May 13, 2024
43... 2!
'Try not to cry... too much' :D
New thunks are on their way to you as we speak!
The second brood of 43's (shared by my favorite friend, Book) now in their final stages of being on pages! WOOO!!!
Not long before you can meet them too!
Sarah x
Sarah Monie
43 try not to cry's
New thunks are on their way to you as we speak!
The second brood of 43's (shared by my favorite friend, Book) now in their final stages of being on pages! WOOO!!!
Not long before you can meet them too!
Sarah x
Sarah Monie
43 try not to cry's
May 10, 2024
FREE for a bit ;)
It's that time again!
Graceful is free to a good home as a Kindle download from today through to Sunday 12th May.
"Your perspective depends on where you stand"
Happy reading :)
Sarah x
Sarah Monie
Graceful
Graceful is free to a good home as a Kindle download from today through to Sunday 12th May.
"Your perspective depends on where you stand"
Happy reading :)
Sarah x
Sarah Monie
Graceful
