Donna Mitra

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January 2022


I never thought my claim to fame would be living in a sexless marriage for over a dozen years.

Beyond that I am a bicultural woman, mamma, and fellow sentient human.

I hope my story-telling can act as a tool to encourage understanding, compassion, shame-free and honest conversations between the people that love each other the most.

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“I grew up in the UK but come from a culturally conservative, religious, and ethnic minority background – simply stating out loud that I enjoy sex is still taboo.
Astride two cultures, I have had no choice but to challenge the contradictions placed in front of me most of my life. In that context, this book is my act of rebellion. It lays to rest the suffocating expectations placed on me around marriage, motherhood and the supposed passivity of female sexuality.”
Donna Mitra, Hard On Us: Memoir Of A Sexless Marriage

“Feeling sexy is a powerful and beautiful sensation within. I am responsible for my sexuality. It flows through me like molten gold, lighting up my body with a force that I now harness in all aspects of my life. Nothing feels grasping or out of reach any longer.”
Donna Mitra, Hard On Us: Memoir Of A Sexless Marriage

“I am man. This is my penis’ is a reductive approach taken by doctors.
In over a decade of living alongside psychological erectile dysfunction, I felt let down by specialists and a medical culture that appears too focused on men.
The be all and end all of great sex does not end with penetration – at least not from a woman’s perspective.
Sex is not just about taking a pill, scoring a hard-on and getting your dick in someone – it is everything that comes before and after that too. It is not enough to treat the penis like a standalone instrument.
It is certainly no good handing out pills like Viagra or Cialis without an understanding of the man’s emotional experience and desire for sex. The man behind the penis is a sentient being. There is his physiology but also his feelings, the sentient woman standing beside him, and the couple aspiring to an intimate life – all in the context of real life around them. The answers to a sustainable sex life with erectile dysfunction are not in a pill but in our interconnected nature as humans. It is what happens when two souls – and all their hopes and fears – collide.”
Donna Mitra, Hard On Us: Memoir Of A Sexless Marriage

“Feeling sexy is a powerful and beautiful sensation within. I am responsible for my sexuality. It flows through me like molten gold, lighting up my body with a force that I now harness in all aspects of my life. Nothing feels grasping or out of reach any longer.”
Donna Mitra, Hard On Us: Memoir Of A Sexless Marriage

“I am man. This is my penis’ is a reductive approach taken by doctors.
In over a decade of living alongside psychological erectile dysfunction, I felt let down by specialists and a medical culture that appears too focused on men.
The be all and end all of great sex does not end with penetration – at least not from a woman’s perspective.
Sex is not just about taking a pill, scoring a hard-on and getting your dick in someone – it is everything that comes before and after that too. It is not enough to treat the penis like a standalone instrument.
It is certainly no good handing out pills like Viagra or Cialis without an understanding of the man’s emotional experience and desire for sex. The man behind the penis is a sentient being. There is his physiology but also his feelings, the sentient woman standing beside him, and the couple aspiring to an intimate life – all in the context of real life around them. The answers to a sustainable sex life with erectile dysfunction are not in a pill but in our interconnected nature as humans. It is what happens when two souls – and all their hopes and fears – collide.”
Donna Mitra, Hard On Us: Memoir Of A Sexless Marriage

“I grew up in the UK but come from a culturally conservative, religious, and ethnic minority background – simply stating out loud that I enjoy sex is still taboo.
Astride two cultures, I have had no choice but to challenge the contradictions placed in front of me most of my life. In that context, this book is my act of rebellion. It lays to rest the suffocating expectations placed on me around marriage, motherhood and the supposed passivity of female sexuality.”
Donna Mitra, Hard On Us: Memoir Of A Sexless Marriage

“I said: what about my eyes?
He said: Keep them on the road.

I said: What about my passion?
He said: Keep it burning.

I said: What about my heart?
He said: Tell me what you hold inside it?

I said: Pain and sorrow.
He said: Stay with it. The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
Rumi

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