Erin Dinsmore's Blog
December 8, 2022
Toxic relationship? Or toxic you?
The only thing toxic about a relationship is the one that you cannot be honest in. That is it. We all use the phrase toxic relationship, but what were really doing is avoiding our own truth. A toxic relationship might really mean you have spiritually outgrown someone and instead of dealing with that authentically, we blame them instead. If you believe that this relationship can grow to a place that is fulfilling to both of you, then you have some work to do.
Our lives are about experience, that’s why we are here. So, if our lives are about experience then our relationships are 100% based on having a shared experience. To do this requires perspective. More than just your own. Men struggle the most here because they are more aligned with ego. Comes with the job of outwardly building a world. They believe that to win they need to be right. Women do this too, but it’s most apparent in men. If they are trying to be right as a core operating system, then neither of you are having a shared experience. A shared experience requires at least two perspectives. Always. The secret to this for men and woman, stop trying to be right. Rid yourself of this toxic prison. If in any relationship you cannot be honest, then it is time for you to work with a professional and find who you really are. The problems could be buried in you, past wounds or childhood programming, or your partners bundle of wounds. You need clarity so you can understand what is best for you moving forward.
Our lives are about experience, that’s why we are here. So, if our lives are about experience then our relationships are 100% based on having a shared experience. To do this requires perspective. More than just your own. Men struggle the most here because they are more aligned with ego. Comes with the job of outwardly building a world. They believe that to win they need to be right. Women do this too, but it’s most apparent in men. If they are trying to be right as a core operating system, then neither of you are having a shared experience. A shared experience requires at least two perspectives. Always. The secret to this for men and woman, stop trying to be right. Rid yourself of this toxic prison. If in any relationship you cannot be honest, then it is time for you to work with a professional and find who you really are. The problems could be buried in you, past wounds or childhood programming, or your partners bundle of wounds. You need clarity so you can understand what is best for you moving forward.
