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Gerrilyn Smith
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“In our culture women are often taught how to manage
other people’s feelings at the expense of managing their own, whereas men are taught to manage their own at the expense of others. In particular being angry has often been deemed ‘unfeminine’ and yet one of the most powerful emotional responses to trauma is anger.”
― Women and Self-Harm
other people’s feelings at the expense of managing their own, whereas men are taught to manage their own at the expense of others. In particular being angry has often been deemed ‘unfeminine’ and yet one of the most powerful emotional responses to trauma is anger.”
― Women and Self-Harm
“Unfortunately, many people in our society do believe that individuals are in some way responsible for the abuse they experience, that they must have in some way contributed to it, or deserved it. It seems more comforting to believe this than to put the issue of blame and responsibility for abuse with those who perpetrate it. By subscribing to victim-blaming beliefs, so often voiced by perpetrators of such crimes, people can delude themselves with the idea that they, and their children, can avoid being abused by not being like those who have been; victims are ‘not like us’.”
― Women and Self-Harm
― Women and Self-Harm
“Importantly, society’s construction of the male does not automatically include the idea that men should be nurturing and caring, but it does assume the notion that men’s needs should and will be catered for, and that men should actively express their feelings of anger and aggression. Women, on the other hand, are expected to meet the needs of others, often at personal expense. We are to tolerate passively situations in which we feel used, abused and powerless. The predictable consequence is feelings of worthlessness, anger and frustration, yet we are so rarely encouraged to voice these emotions, that we often take them back into ourselves”
― Women and Self-Harm
― Women and Self-Harm
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