Tonya Lampley's Blog
November 15, 2019
Begin the journey to loving yourself...
Funny how our lives are dictated by story. Whether true or not, our lives unfold in direct proportion to what we believe to be true about ourselves. Let today be the day you break free. Time to tell a new story.
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August 24, 2019
Begin the journey to loving yourself...
There is no greater love than self love. No matter where you are begin the journey to loving yourself. ♥️
#selflove #selfcare #confidence #empowered #IAmWorthy
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July 27, 2019
Lela Rochon and Bad Men
I'm so over these #BadMen. This issue with #LelaRochon has me twisted a little. Tired of women having to go through this. Tired of women devoting their lives to men who aren't worthy of making a sandwich for. It's time ladies. Time we demand better for ourselves. It's coming out that her husband had children while they were married, mistresses had filed court cases against him. It's all too much.
The first thing we have to do is love ourselves....more than these men. If someone's not supporting you 💯 he needs to go. If someone can't be patient during periods when you're ill or when you put on weight, they need to go...immediately. Don't waste your time. When he shows you who he is the first time, believe him. Sometimes we hope for change, only to end up squandering our life away.
Lela Rochon will hurt for a while but I hope it comes to her very quickly that God just did her a favor. Revelation is a precious gift. I hope she awakens to the truth of who she is. A powerful woman, an artist and creator. And I hope she finds someone who will give her all the love she deserves if that's what she wants.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't exhausted with all of this. Lying if I said I wasn't pissed about it. Tired of seeing my sisters mistreated and abused...mentally, emotionally, physically. Time to cast a vote in favor of ourselves. Time to out these #BadMen. Book coming soon. Sign up at www.tonyalampley.com to be notified. Wait for the popup! 😉
The first thing we have to do is love ourselves....more than these men. If someone's not supporting you 💯 he needs to go. If someone can't be patient during periods when you're ill or when you put on weight, they need to go...immediately. Don't waste your time. When he shows you who he is the first time, believe him. Sometimes we hope for change, only to end up squandering our life away.
Lela Rochon will hurt for a while but I hope it comes to her very quickly that God just did her a favor. Revelation is a precious gift. I hope she awakens to the truth of who she is. A powerful woman, an artist and creator. And I hope she finds someone who will give her all the love she deserves if that's what she wants.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't exhausted with all of this. Lying if I said I wasn't pissed about it. Tired of seeing my sisters mistreated and abused...mentally, emotionally, physically. Time to cast a vote in favor of ourselves. Time to out these #BadMen. Book coming soon. Sign up at www.tonyalampley.com to be notified. Wait for the popup! 😉
July 18, 2019
The Bane of Colorism
Colorism is such an interesting topic. It affects damn near all hued cultures. Steeped in both mythology and colonialism, it's a topic worthy of discussion. I think in the black community, if we want to see change, black men need to be a part of the conversation.
Light skinned women generally speaking have long been a preference for many and it's created unnecessary rifts between us. When we should be supporting one another, natural selection intervenes in that process, causing us to see the other as competition.
We have to start conversations with those men with that preference. You would deny the validity of another human being over something as trivial as skin color & hair texture. Why? Have you thought about it? Could it be rooted in the fact that you believe white skin is superior?
We need to raise our sons with the knowledge that we are souls on a human journey. Our external characteristics are far less important. What matters is our spirits and hearts. We need to raise them with a quality of self love that states I choose who I choose because I want them, not because society says I'm more of a man or I have more validity if I have a woman that looks a certain way (And that's characteristic of all cultures...white men wanting blond, thin women...same thing). It's only when we are evolved and fully conscious that we can transcend the messaging that states that our validity is based on anything other than what we already are. That what was assigned at birth is ours and it is precious. Only then can we look at someone else and say 'good for her, but I'm good too.'
My novel Dirty touches on this issue in reverse (for more information visit www.TonyaLampley.com).
Being light skinned does not exempt you from the messaging. We're all victims of it in some way. Self love is the only way we will heal it. Very important topic.
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Light skinned women generally speaking have long been a preference for many and it's created unnecessary rifts between us. When we should be supporting one another, natural selection intervenes in that process, causing us to see the other as competition.
We have to start conversations with those men with that preference. You would deny the validity of another human being over something as trivial as skin color & hair texture. Why? Have you thought about it? Could it be rooted in the fact that you believe white skin is superior?
We need to raise our sons with the knowledge that we are souls on a human journey. Our external characteristics are far less important. What matters is our spirits and hearts. We need to raise them with a quality of self love that states I choose who I choose because I want them, not because society says I'm more of a man or I have more validity if I have a woman that looks a certain way (And that's characteristic of all cultures...white men wanting blond, thin women...same thing). It's only when we are evolved and fully conscious that we can transcend the messaging that states that our validity is based on anything other than what we already are. That what was assigned at birth is ours and it is precious. Only then can we look at someone else and say 'good for her, but I'm good too.'
My novel Dirty touches on this issue in reverse (for more information visit www.TonyaLampley.com).
Being light skinned does not exempt you from the messaging. We're all victims of it in some way. Self love is the only way we will heal it. Very important topic.
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July 14, 2019
Free until Midnight!
If you're looking for a life affirming read, look no further!
My third novel Dirty is a story of self love. Of a woman's journey to self acceptance. Of how our thoughts about ourselves can keep us from the life we deserve.
It's funny in parts, sad in others but my sincerest hope is that it will make you think...about all the self limiting beliefs you may have and the things that are keeping you from being truly happy.
Oh...and no erotica!
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My third novel Dirty is a story of self love. Of a woman's journey to self acceptance. Of how our thoughts about ourselves can keep us from the life we deserve.
It's funny in parts, sad in others but my sincerest hope is that it will make you think...about all the self limiting beliefs you may have and the things that are keeping you from being truly happy.
Oh...and no erotica!
Best of all...its free! Pick up your copy ✔✔Right here
R Kelly and other Bad Men
R. Kelly? This is bigger than R. Kelly. What we should be discussing is how men still feel they have 'rights' to a woman's body. How females are still seen as existing for a man’s pleasure. Until we address that there will be more men like #RKelly & #JeffreyEpstein.
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